When life sucks ...

[Trailblazer]

Ouch......... many types of mould can be very very dangerous to folks. The property does seem to need work to it.

I guess that's why the tenant has placed a caravan on the driveway and linked it for water.

That could be why he vacated the house or it could just be a ploy... I just want to know the truth about the condition of the house and since I am no expert I am not qualified to make such a judgment. That is why I said I might have to get a home inspector. I will wait to ask the attorney if that is the proper course of action since I have the phone appointment with her on Monday morning.

I never denied that the house needs work, but the point from the beginning is that the tenant knew that and he begged me to rent it to him for two months knowing what he was moving into. Did it get worse over time? That is the question that needs to be answered and if it did get worse how did it get worse? I am sure that there are people who can answer these questions. This is all about mold but there is no state law that governs mold removal. The only law we have is that any repairs that are needed to stop mold growth are required.

“Mold growth is common in the Pacific Northwest and extremely troubling. Many tenants report respiratory problems resulting from mold and mold allergies. These are very real concerns, and unfortunately the law falls far short of adequately addressing renters’ concerns with mold growth in their homes. Mold is only addressed in state law as a requirement for landlords to provide written information to tenants about mold and its health impacts (RCW 59.18.060).

Mold issues are generally considered to be repair concerns. While landlords do not have specific legal mandates to take care of mold problems, they are legally required to fix the problems that cause mold growth – moisture control and lack of adequate ventilation.”

“Mold problems in buildings are a result of water and moisture problems. Renters need to operate the heating and ventilation systems to reduce water condensation.”

Tenants are also required to keep the house heated but this tenant was not keeping the house heated so he bears some responsibility.

Obviously I don't know anything about it, but the problem is that if this whole situation was shown to other folks (who don't know anything about it either) then the general consensus of opinion could easily switch in favour of this nasty, narcissistic evil tenant. You could be seen as a comfy, wealthy, property owning landlord who doesn't offer customer service or customer care to tenants, and if this tenant gained the favour of any officials or courts then he could seek for local newspaper coverage of the situation as he has seen it.

I do not care how people see it or feel about it, I only care about the truth according to the state law. The house is either habitable or uninhabitable, according to what a judge would rule, and if it is uninhabitable then we have to address why he stayed there all that time and now wants his rent money back. Why should he get to live for free, regardless of the conditions? If it was that bad he could have vacated a long time ago.

If I am wrong I am willing to admit I am wrong, but only if an attorney tells me I am wrong. Then I will go from there and decide what to do.

Look, there is probably a Bahai Local Spiritual Assembly within 50 miles of you......... that's a group of people who you might listen to because you are a Bahai. That's nine people who are detached from your situation and might be more able to give advice from a lay viewpoint. Obviously I would seek advice from friends of my own, but if you don't much trust people then that LSA might be valuable for you? And you might listen to it?

Thanks, I thought about going to the LSA and I am in a Baha’i community, but I did not think they could help since they would know the actual situation, only what I tell them, and since I do not even know where I stand I do not see how they could advise me. An attorney is the best one to advise me. This is a legal matter.

Sometimes, when folks are hellbent on to something, they cannot be advised other than by very very very close friends, relatives etc, and even then such advice could possibly break friendships if the person involved doesn't hear what they want to hear.

No, it is not a good idea to get advice from friends or relatives, although they can offer emotional support. Only an attorney can advise me. I have been getting advice from attorneys all along so I thought I was doing the right thing but now I am worried I got bad advice.

Whether seeking cures from spiritual, homeopathic, lay or scientific sources, medicine can be a bit of a lottery. I know...... I visit my son's grave twice a year to tidy it, and but for medicine's mistakes (dishonestly covered up) he would probably be a middle age man with grand-kids by now. I'm not angry any more, I just take doctor's claims against all but their own abilities with a pinch of salt now. I've never met with a poor doctor, either...... they do enjoy their incomes!

I am sorry to hear you lost your son, in addition to your first wife. That has to be tough. I never had children but I can imagine. I have lost some cats owing to veterinarian mistakes so that is the closest I have come. One of those incidents cost me thousands of dollars and brought me to a suicide attempt. I was going to go after that veterinarian for misrepresenting his abilities and withholding information about the risks of the operation but I never went after him because so many other things were going on at that time. I have never met a poor veterinarian. However, some of them are very caring and compassionate and care about the animals more than their pocketbook. Thankfully I finally found a vet like that and I treasure her. I would trust her with any cat I have. She is honest, caring, compassionate and highly competent.

Doctors are another story. I have no personal reasons not to trust them except that I do not believe in conventional medicine after what I learned in homeopathy school. I will use drugs only if I have to.

 

[oldbadger]

That could be why he vacated the house or it could just be a ploy.

Please excuse my cutting and pasting, but here is a pastiche of your sentences:-.. .......................... I will wait to ask the attorney .............. . An attorney is the best one to advise me......... I have been getting advice from attorneys all along so I thought I was doing the right thing but now I am worried I got bad advice..................

Maybe your LSA cannot help..... but you may be surprised?

Tenants are also required to keep the house heated but this tenant was not keeping the house heated so he bears some responsibility.

I qualified in Wood Science many years ago, and surveyed property in London for Fungi and Insect Infestations 1969-72...... most fungi flourish in warm dampness, rather than cold dampness, but I am no mould expert now..... too many years gone by..

I have lost some cats owing to veterinarian mistakes so that is the closest I have come. One of those incidents cost me thousands of dollars and brought me to a suicide attempt. I was going to go after that veterinarian for misrepresenting his abilities and withholding information about the risks of the operation but I never went after him because so many other things were going on at that time. I have never met a poor veterinarian.

I am very sorry to read about this trauma that was caused to you. Vets are like doctors or anybody else.... some good, some bad.

 

[Trailblazer]

Please excuse my cutting and pasting, but here is a pastiche of your sentences:-.. .......................... I will wait to ask the attorney .............. . An attorney is the best one to advise me......... I have been getting advice from attorneys all along so I thought I was doing the right thing but now I am worried I got bad advice..................

Maybe your LSA cannot help..... but you may be surprised?

I am thinking about it and I might contact them... First I want to see what the attorney says tomorrow.
I am a bit surprised that you would have faith in an LSA. In my mind, the reason they might be able to help would be because as a Baha'i institution they would be guided by God and God is the one who has the answer.

I qualified in Wood Science many years ago, and surveyed property in London for Fungi and Insect Infestations 1969-72...... most fungi flourish in warm dampness, rather than cold dampness, but I am no mould expert now..... too many years gone by.

Thanks for that information. I can read online normally like to consult experts in the fields before making decisions regarding something like this. Shortly after I got up this morning a possible solution came to my mind but I do not know if that was just an idea or guidance from God... I will first want to consult the attorney before I make any decisions because she knows the law better than I do. I might run my idea past her depending upon what she says. I will tell you later depending upon what she says... For now, let me just say I want to be fair but justice is also very important.

I am very sorry to read about this trauma that was caused to you. Vets are like doctors or anybody else.... some good, some bad.

Yes, that is true across the board, some people are good, some bad, and shades of gray in between....
Illness and death of cats has been the biggest trauma in my life for the last 20 years because it has been repeated over and over and because I care more about the cats than anything else in life. I have PTSD from my dad's sudden death from a heart attack when I was 12 years old so sudden death of cats brings back the symptoms. I am handling the cat traumas better now than in the past, but it is still very difficult. What I have found is that it makes all the difference to have a good vet who is honest, caring and competent, somebody I can really trust. I did not have that before the past couple of years when I found her. With the cats as with everything else all I can do is live one day at a time and do the best I can to care for them as the vet recommends and not worry about the future... As I once told you, I do not like to think about the future.

 

[oldbadger]

I am a bit surprised that you would have faith in an LSA.

I told you..... I would ask my own friends, and I exprect that an LSA might be your friends, .... no?

Thanks for that information. I can read online normally like to consult experts in the fields before making decisions regarding something like this. Shortly after I got up this morning a possible solution came to my mind but I do not know if that was just an idea or guidance from God... I will first want to consult the attorney before I make any decisions because she knows the law better than I do. I might run my idea past her depending upon what she says. I will tell you later depending upon what she says... For now, let me just say I want to be fair but justice is also very important.

Good luck..... I hope everything goes better than before.

Yes, that is true across the board, some people are good, some bad, and shades of gray in between....
Illness and death of cats has been the biggest trauma in my life for the last 20 years because it has been repeated over and over and because I care more about the cats than anything else in life. I have PTSD from my dad's sudden death from a heart attack when I was 12 years old so sudden death of cats brings back the symptoms. I am handling the cat traumas better now than in the past, but it is still very difficult. What I have found is that it makes all the difference to have a good vet who is honest, caring and competent, somebody I can really trust. I did not have that before the past couple of years when I found her. With the cats as with everything else all I can do is live one day at a time and do the best I can to care for them as the vet recommends and not worry about the future... As I once told you, I do not like to think about the future.

Thank you for sharing all of your difficulties about these past events. I'm glad that at last you have found a vet that you can trust in. [/QUOTE]

 

[Trailblazer]

I told you..... I would ask my own friends, and I exprect that an LSA might be your friends, .... no?

That is a long story but suffice to say I have been an inactive Baha'i for a very long time so I have not even seen anyone in my community for years. A few years ago I was elected to the LSA so I went to a few meetings but now the three Baha'i communities and the LSAs in our county have been combined into one community and one LSA, so the community is much larger. I do not even know more than a few people from our former small community and I am a shy person in real life so I am reticent to go to any big gatherings. At the very least I would have to move beyond my present life situations that are causing me grief (not just the rental house/tenant situation) before I would have enough composure to want to be in a group of people such as the Baha'is. When people around me are all happy it tends to make my depression worse and I cannot afford that right now. I have to tolerate that at work because it is my job but I can choose not to socialize outside of work. I also do not feel like I would be a benefit to the Baha'i community in my present condition so it makes no sense to attend events.

So now you know a little more about my Baha'i situation... I trust you or I would not tell you these things. I think I have a pretty good handle on people and their character and who I can trust. I went out on a limb with that tenant because I wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt but I had my suspicions all along. I took a chance, I tend to be a risk taker in certain areas but not others. I reasoned that after what has happened to me in the past when renting that house anyone would be a risk so I figured it was just a matter of what I was risking. I knew he would pay the rent and that was my top priority at the time because the tenants before him did not always pay the rent and owed me so much money.

Good luck..... I hope everything goes better than before.

Thanks, I will let you know what happens after I talk to the attorney.

Thank you for sharing all of your difficulties about these past events. I'm glad that at last you have found a vet that you can trust in.

Thanks for listening. I feel like quite a burden to people most of the time so I do not share with just anyone.
It seems like all I have to share are problems because that is all I have, but that does not mean I do not like to hear about other peoples' problems, or anything they have to talk about.