Very nice advice:
When Prince Charming Doesn't Come Along
"I went through a phase that started about 10 years ago when I was absolutely desperate to find a husband. I spoke to relatives who were willing to help; made myself known to aunties in the mosque; asked my married friends to see if their husbands had any eligible bachelor friends they could set me up with,” Hala said.
“When I hit 33, I actually posted my profile to a Muslim matrimonial website. That was the beginning of the end. I felt so much shame when I did it, not because my parents were unaware — they had actually encouraged me to 'do whatever it takes before it's too late' — but because I wondered what was wrong with me.”
“How did I, someone with a good education, solid career, and decent physical appearance who came from a respectable and religious family, resort to such a desperate act? How had my parents encouraged me to 'do anything and everything I could before it's too late?'”
Hala's words are those of someone who's obviously struggled with an issue that touches on the core of her nature. Her predicament made her question her priorities in life.
“I became very depressed, really disillusioned with the idea of marriage. How had the institution of marriage become the measure of the worth of a woman? How had I made my personal contentment rely solely on the ability to make a marriage match? I had spent what seemed like a lifetime planning a wedding to a suitable husband and imagining what kind of a wife and mother I would be. Instead, I watched the years go by waiting for something that was out of my control."
She makes very good points. A lot of girls became obsessed with the idea of marriage and her charming hero who comes on a white flying horse, the society for sure can be blamed for this obsession. But they forget that it's something between the hands of Allah, out of our control. And there are many other important things to achieve in this life that boost our self-esteem, make us satisfied with ourselves and make the Creator pleased with us. We have a lot of potentials that can be used to achieve wonders, but instead these girls make much effort in thinking about when and how they can be married. Why not to improve yourself, be active and move here and there in this life?
When Prince Charming Doesn't Come Along
"I went through a phase that started about 10 years ago when I was absolutely desperate to find a husband. I spoke to relatives who were willing to help; made myself known to aunties in the mosque; asked my married friends to see if their husbands had any eligible bachelor friends they could set me up with,” Hala said.
“When I hit 33, I actually posted my profile to a Muslim matrimonial website. That was the beginning of the end. I felt so much shame when I did it, not because my parents were unaware — they had actually encouraged me to 'do whatever it takes before it's too late' — but because I wondered what was wrong with me.”
“How did I, someone with a good education, solid career, and decent physical appearance who came from a respectable and religious family, resort to such a desperate act? How had my parents encouraged me to 'do anything and everything I could before it's too late?'”
Hala's words are those of someone who's obviously struggled with an issue that touches on the core of her nature. Her predicament made her question her priorities in life.
“I became very depressed, really disillusioned with the idea of marriage. How had the institution of marriage become the measure of the worth of a woman? How had I made my personal contentment rely solely on the ability to make a marriage match? I had spent what seemed like a lifetime planning a wedding to a suitable husband and imagining what kind of a wife and mother I would be. Instead, I watched the years go by waiting for something that was out of my control."
She makes very good points. A lot of girls became obsessed with the idea of marriage and her charming hero who comes on a white flying horse, the society for sure can be blamed for this obsession. But they forget that it's something between the hands of Allah, out of our control. And there are many other important things to achieve in this life that boost our self-esteem, make us satisfied with ourselves and make the Creator pleased with us. We have a lot of potentials that can be used to achieve wonders, but instead these girls make much effort in thinking about when and how they can be married. Why not to improve yourself, be active and move here and there in this life?
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