That's a very good point. One I had not considered before. This could very well explain why James and others had the attitude they had. But that being the case I have to wonder why they would even agree to the compromise with which they are reported to have agreed. And if your theory is correct, that they were talking their cues from Jesus, then why would they even think Jews had to continue following Torah? That's why I am skeptical of that notion. But as I mentioned earlier they might have agreed to it as a temporary measure fully expecting Gentiles to take on the full mantle of Torah observance at a later date and perhaps in a gradual manner.
There would be a real reluctance to leave the Law since a Jew is brought up in that tradition, but there already had been groups that we now call "liberal Pharisees" that tended to be more Hellenized and more inclusive, thus more emphasizing the "law of love", as it came to be called later. To me, Jesus and Paul are not saying the Law is bad and must be left, but that something was greater than the Law in their opinion, namely Jesus. Therefore, the following of the Law could at least be tolerated as long as Jesus' basic teachings were followed. Thus we see references to following the Law that appear to be inconsistent but really aren't. At least that's how I connect the dots-- correctly or not.
Paul himself speaks of the Gentile being grafted into the olive tree of Israel. So why did Paul think they did not need to observe Torah as the "natural branches" did? I think it is because Paul did not see this as an exclusively "Jewish movement". As he explains in Romans he feels that salvation was offered to the Gentiles because most Jews spurned it. What is important in his mind is that everyone, Jew and Gentile alike, get their lives in order because Jesus was coming back to judge the living and the dead. And he rejects the idea that the way to do that is through following the Torah. He explains that anyone who tries that way will fail so that the only way to be saved is through faith in the Messiah.
I totally agree with everything you wrote here.
The question then becomes who is a better representation of the teaching of Jesus? Is it James with his insistence of proper observance of Torah by both Jews and converting Gentiles? Or is it Paul who thinks the ritual aspects of Torah observance don't really count for much and that it is faith in Messiah which truly saves?
We have to remember that James is Jesus' brother, and we well know that hiding things from your brother ain't gonna be that easy. IOW, your brother is going to see you at what you really are, although maybe a bit on the negative side. Paul doesn't know Jesus that way, therefore he's probably unaware that Jesus squeezes the toothpaste tube from the middle and periodically farts. Therefore, it's not really hard to imagine why James is more going to focus in on the Law whereas Paul is more going to focus in on the more pristine image of Jesus.
I think for the reason the NT gives. They clearly saw God working in the lives of the Gentiles and could not deny it.
The "God-fearers" hung around the Temple, and it may well be that the 12 believed they should be allowed into the fold since they believed in God and followed at least some of the Law. IOW, "Ya, these are good people, so let's take them in", especially since attracting more observant Jews didn't seem to be working too well, as you mentioned previously.
I've not heard they did. But obviously his letters preceded the writing of the gospels.
You have to remember that the gospels were actually quite controversial since they often differed from each other, plus what was carried orally sometimes didn't match either. Papias, I believe in the latter 2nd century, just bad-mouthed the Gospel of Mark by saying that it was sometimes inconsistent from eye-witness reports that were being passed down.