Who loves and wants children?

[The Hammer]

"Who loves and wants children?"


For breakfast right.....


I want my baby back baby back baby back.

 

[Brickjectivity]

Do you actually want kids?

Yes. I think its a matter of internal pride to have helped kids to grow up. What little I have done I am proud of. I would want more of that pride.

Should an older fellow like me have a child at my age? There are good and bad sides to it. In some ways it is better for the child, but in some ways it is more risky for them. An older person is more likely to become feeble before the child is grown; but an older person has experience and knowledge that can greatly aid the formation of a young person. A younger person has more energy. An older person knows the value of energy.

 

[Saint Frankenstein]

Just to remind those who are talking about kids being the be-all, end-all to life, and the "culmination" of being a man or woman, not everyone CAN have kids, and they are not "unfulfilled" if they can't give birth. Just sayin'.

I mentioned in my OP that I can't have my own kids. It hurts but it is what it is.

 

[Ashoka]

It's not that I don't love children. I do. But I feel as though they aren't for me. That's okay too.

 

[Revoltingest]

. As one woman put it, 'the purpose of life is to create life' - and I concur. I dislike the new 'childfree' movement and won't in any way support it.

The child-free movement is great. It's entirely voluntary.
One can opt in or out. Life will certainly continue even
if a great many eschew reproducing. As humans have
expanded, we've denuded the seas of life, paved over
the land, & tossed pollutants everywhere. I say we'd
be better off with fewer people on the planet.

 

[Evangelicalhumanist]

I think being a mom or dad is the best job.

I believe having a family, as a man or a woman, is the most fulfilling and life-affirming thing one can do. I place it above everything else in life; work, career, making money etc. are nothing compared to raising a child. As one woman put it, 'the purpose of life is to create life' - and I concur. I dislike the new 'childfree' movement and won't in any way support it.

I hope you can have children one day bro

So you think everybody should do as you do? No exceptions that you would "support?"

 

[Vinayaka]

We raised 5 kids. None are in jail. The youngest turned 31 a couple of months back. There were good times, not so good times, some horrible parenting, some great parenting, laughter, sadness. Boss was also a life-long stay at home Mom. It's life. To each his own. Do what you feel is right for you. I remember being at a wedding where one of my aunts offered my just-wed cousin the following advice: "Don't listen to anyone's advice."

 

[lewisnotmiller]

For me...and I'm only speaking for myself...I love my three girls, and their presence only seems to increase the amount of love and joy in my world.
There is a cost, of course. Time. Money. Stress. Lots of costs. Oh, so many costs.

But what I get back is priceless.

 

[Debater Slayer]

Just to remind those who are talking about kids being the be-all, end-all to life, and the "culmination" of being a man or woman, not everyone CAN have kids, and they are not "unfulfilled" if they can't give birth. Just sayin'.

This.

Whether one chooses to have children or not, I generally think it's important not to denigrate another person for their choice whether implicitly or explicitly.

I love the idea of having children, myself, but mainly due to climate change and the strong possibility of major turbulence in our current way of life in coming decades, I'm not very keen on having my own. I also wouldn't have children in my country of birth due to its awful standards of living and quality of education and life compared to most of the developed world.

Perhaps I might end up adopting one day.

 

[lewisnotmiller]

Just to remind those who are talking about kids being the be-all, end-all to life, and the "culmination" of being a man or woman, not everyone CAN have kids, and they are not "unfulfilled" if they can't give birth. Just sayin'.

Nah, I don't see it that way.
It's not some magic bullet, and people who have kids to fill a hole are not doing themselves or the kids any favours.

It's entirely possible to be happy and fulfilled;

• Married or not
• As a parent or without kids
• Religious or not
• etc

Pretty much the only binary choice that truly impacts on whether you're a happy and fulfilled person is the stark choice between the Boston Celtics (yay!) and the La Lakers (*vomits*)
As a mature adult, I'm not even going to mention which of the two I prefer. People must decide for themselves if they are worthy individuals or Laker fans.