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Who would you marry?
- Thread starter tarasan
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.lava
Veteran Member
strangely people get sick of each other just because they think know each other
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Hugh Jackman.
My husband and I have an understanding.
My husband and I have an understanding.
Caladan
Agnostic Pantheist
I've known some great women, but why ruin everything that is good with marriage? :areyoucra
tarasan
Well-Known Member
meh if you wanna get into an arguement go else where mate we are just tryin to have fun here not debate.
Kathryn
It was on fire when I laid down on it.
I am very happily married to an amazing person. I cannot imagine being married to anyone else. I am completely and utterly satisfied.
I am married to my dearest friend, my lover, my boon companion, my buddy, my cohort, my fellow mischief maker. We had both been married before, to unfaithful spouses who not only cheated on us, but pretty much wiped out our bank accounts. When we met five years ago,we were both pretty much starting from scratch.
We met on match.com. We both had different reasons for being on that site (other than, of course, that we wanted to meet people). I had lived and worked in the same town for 20 years and couldn't think of a single person I knew that I wanted to date. It was kinda like I knew everyone TOO well.
He worked overseas - 6 weeks out and 6 weeks in. He lived about 30 miles away in an even smaller town and had dated just about every eligible person within a 20 mile radius.
Neither of us were into the club scene. So what's a person to do - wander up and down the produce aisle and speculate on who else was single based on what was in their cart?
We talked on the phone a few times, and decided that the next time he was back in the states, we'd meet in person. We had no idea how the sparks would fly - our phone conversations were simply very casual and polite - very generic. But I do remember thinking, "Well, dinner with a nice guy - what's there to lose?"
On our very first date, within the first five minutes, we were totally smitten. Within fifteen minutes, he was feeding me escargot with that little fork, and I was thinking, "My mother would spank me if she knew what I was thinking!" Good thing he had to leave for Africa the next morning - my honor was still intact by the skin of my teeth!
He was gone for six weeks - and we talked and emailed and really, really got to know each other's beliefs and histories in that way - without the pressure of the physical attraction. That was a good thing.
When he got back, we dated for nearly a year. We did a study course together on beliefs, goals, expectations, finances, the whole thing, and the results were no surprise - we are very compatible. Both our families were very supportive. His parents love me and mine love him. Our kids (at the time ages 11 through 23) have been fantastic. They all knew that we had both been through a hard time in our previous marriages, and they all knew a good fit when they saw us together.
We both have very similar personalities - extroverted, laugh with our mouths wide open, slow to anger, hate to argue but opinionated, open about our feelings, and just basically friendly with nearly everyone. We also both have the same energy level High), which I have found to be pretty important in a relationship.
It's been great and just keeps getting better. We adore each other.
I am married to my dearest friend, my lover, my boon companion, my buddy, my cohort, my fellow mischief maker. We had both been married before, to unfaithful spouses who not only cheated on us, but pretty much wiped out our bank accounts. When we met five years ago,we were both pretty much starting from scratch.
We met on match.com. We both had different reasons for being on that site (other than, of course, that we wanted to meet people). I had lived and worked in the same town for 20 years and couldn't think of a single person I knew that I wanted to date. It was kinda like I knew everyone TOO well.
He worked overseas - 6 weeks out and 6 weeks in. He lived about 30 miles away in an even smaller town and had dated just about every eligible person within a 20 mile radius.
Neither of us were into the club scene. So what's a person to do - wander up and down the produce aisle and speculate on who else was single based on what was in their cart?
We talked on the phone a few times, and decided that the next time he was back in the states, we'd meet in person. We had no idea how the sparks would fly - our phone conversations were simply very casual and polite - very generic. But I do remember thinking, "Well, dinner with a nice guy - what's there to lose?"
On our very first date, within the first five minutes, we were totally smitten. Within fifteen minutes, he was feeding me escargot with that little fork, and I was thinking, "My mother would spank me if she knew what I was thinking!" Good thing he had to leave for Africa the next morning - my honor was still intact by the skin of my teeth!
He was gone for six weeks - and we talked and emailed and really, really got to know each other's beliefs and histories in that way - without the pressure of the physical attraction. That was a good thing.
When he got back, we dated for nearly a year. We did a study course together on beliefs, goals, expectations, finances, the whole thing, and the results were no surprise - we are very compatible. Both our families were very supportive. His parents love me and mine love him. Our kids (at the time ages 11 through 23) have been fantastic. They all knew that we had both been through a hard time in our previous marriages, and they all knew a good fit when they saw us together.
We both have very similar personalities - extroverted, laugh with our mouths wide open, slow to anger, hate to argue but opinionated, open about our feelings, and just basically friendly with nearly everyone. We also both have the same energy level High), which I have found to be pretty important in a relationship.
It's been great and just keeps getting better. We adore each other.
Caladan
Agnostic Pantheist
If your trying to have fun, why not taking it more easy ol' chap.
tarasan
Well-Known Member
just odnt want people to start arguing so i thought id nip it in the bud, its about find out about people not arguing things that should be left for general debates.
I wish we could all be as lucky as Kathryn with marriage. The thing is, I didn't know my husband until I married him- I just thought I knew him. I can't really think of any celebrate I would want to marry- I am a very private person.
enchanted_one1975
Resident Lycanthrope
Nobody has chosen me yet. 
enchanted_one1975
Resident Lycanthrope
It doesn't sound odd to me at all.
Herr Heinrich
Student of Mythology
This made me really sad to read. My high school sweet heart (who is also my child's mother) and I finally decided that it is probably over for good. I am really afraid that we are making a mistake and that we will regret it later. Of course I also know that it is probably for the best at this point. I just hope we can get back together later after we realize everyone else sucks(in a bad way).
Herr Heinrich
Student of Mythology
Kathryn
It was on fire when I laid down on it.
LOL, well I just finally got it right. I have been divorced twice, so I'm not sure anyone should say they wish they could be as lucky as me with marriage.
In my case, the key to finding the best "fit" was that I finally realized that if I wanted to be married to a person of quality, I had to BE a person of quality. Like attracts like, you know? So not only did I have to work on my own self esteem - I had to actually IMPROVE myself and be a better person in order to attract a better person, and be deserving of a better person.
Funny how that is.
Anyway, it took a lot of brutal honesty with myself, and a lot of work on self improvement - emotionally, spiritually, financially, morally - the whole nine yards. It wasn't easy. But it was well worth the work.
FluentYank3825
Ironic Idealist
Thanks for empathizing. I hope things work out between you two. Maturity has a way of opening our minds to missed opportunities, with a feeling similar to blood rushing back into a limb that lost all circulation.
Herr, I wish you the very best. ((hug))
Kathryn, I love your story. :clap
Enchanted, would you settle for being my favorite RF member? (And that's sayin' something because I really like everyone here.)
Fluent, I'm sending you good luck ~vibes~. May love find you soon.
I'd marry my husband all over again. :hearts: I hope I get to keep him, and we get to grow old together. I highly doubt I'll ever experience this kind of bond again.
Kathryn, I love your story. :clap
Enchanted, would you settle for being my favorite RF member? (And that's sayin' something because I really like everyone here.)
Fluent, I'm sending you good luck ~vibes~. May love find you soon.
I'd marry my husband all over again. :hearts: I hope I get to keep him, and we get to grow old together. I highly doubt I'll ever experience this kind of bond again.