um, actually some jews became Hellenized and Greek culture and architecture did effect jewish life and society. The times when Jews fought back against Hellenization was when non-Jewish rulers would completely outlaw jewish practices entirely, such as the events which would lead to the Maccabean revolt.
Yes, but you Jews rejected the Hellenistic vision of woman. That is a woman that represents God on Earth. I don't think that the Jews would have accepted a queen like Cleopatra....who was sensuous and embodied the Hellenistic gynocentrism . I don't think that a virile priest like Caiaphas would obey Cleopatra.
Besides...I know what Jewish rabbis and priests think about women. I think that they would never have accepted to attend the plays performed in Greek theaters, all based upon the woman's centrality.