Why do disagreements always turn into arguements

[We Never Know]

Why do disagreements always turn into arguements?

IMO most times its about them thinking about themselves, feeling a false insecurity and/or thinking "they think different than me, that must be bad".
People need to realize everyone lives their own life.

Example....

-You believe in god exist and I disagee. Why take that personally?
Our lives are different and we disagree on what might be. What I believe doesn't change your life.

-You're gay. I don't agree with that life but don't judge your life. Why accuse me if hating you because I disagree? Its your life to live and if I don't agree, that doesn't change your life.


Two things to remember

 

[John53]

Human nature

 

[Twilight Hue]

We are tribal. It's in our nature.

 

[We Never Know]

Human nature

Explain a little better.

I don't hate a person because they live a different life, have a different opinion, live better, etc.

 

[We Never Know]

We are tribal. It's in our nature.

Same reply....

Explain a little better.

I don't hate a person because they live a different life, have a different opinion, live better, etc.

 

[Quintessence]

Why do disagreements always turn into arguements?

They do? When did this happen?

 

[We Never Know]

They do? When did this happen?

It just started tomorrow

 

[Shadow Wolf]

Why do disagreements always turn into arguements?

Since when?

 

[We Never Know]

Since when?

I'm guessing that's sarcasm

 

[Quintessence]

It just started tomorrow

Well, crap. Twenty minutes from now is gonna be a helluva day...

In seriousness though, disagreements don't inevitably end in arguments. In my day-to-day life that's rarely the case. Disagreements create new ideas, new approaches, new solutions. Brainstorming, as it were, or compromises. But in my day-to-day life, the default modality is to work as a team. It's not about "winning" or ego trips, but being of service and doing a job.

 

[Heyo]

Why do disagreements always turn into arguements?

They don't.

Though people have different feeling when the discussion ends and the argument begins.

 

[John53]

Explain a little better.

It's in our DNA to fight for what we believe. Probably evolution, fight as a group to protect what is ours and there's a better chance we'll survive and breed,

I don't hate a person because they live a different life, have a different opinion, live better, etc.

Maybe you're not human? But maybe I'm not either, I don't really care if someone agrees with me or not.

 

[We Never Know]

It's in our DNA to fight for what we believe. Probably evolution, fight as a group to protect what is ours and there's a better chance we'll survive and breed,



Maybe you're not human? But maybe I'm not either, I don't really care if someone agrees with me or not.

"It's in our DNA to fight for what we believe"

I disagree. Its in our DNA to fight for survival. You and I disagreeing doesn't threaten our survival.
However IMO its in our ego to fight for what we believe.

 

[John53]

"It's in our DNA to fight for what we believe"

I disagree. Its in our DNA to fight for survival. You and I disagreeing doesn't threaten our survival.
However IMO its in our ego to fight for what we believe.

Maybe it did at some point during our evolution

 

[Quagmire]

Don't know what you're complaining about, I would love a good argument.


Instead, what I usually get is something like this:

OP: "How come all potatoes come from Wisconsin"?

Me: "What do you mean? In the US most potatoes come from Idaho. Here:
nationalpotatofact.org"

OP "I see, so you're saying there aren't any potatoes in Wisconsin? Well if you'd bother to read your own link you'd see the Wisconsin is the third largest potato producing state in the US."

Me: "I didn't say that no potatoes came from Wisconsin, I'm saying that most potatoes come from Idaho".

OP: "Well you're obviously from Idaho so you're biased."

Me: "No I'm not I'm from California".

OP: So they don't have potatoes in California?

Me:"What"?

OP: " You said they don't have potatoes in California".

Me: "No I didn't. Look, I don't think you and I are even having the same conversation at this point".

OP: "Well you may not be having the same conversation but I certainly am".

Me: "What"?

 

[We Never Know]

Don't know what you're complaining about, I would love a good argument.


Instead, what I usually get is something like this:

OP: "How come all potatoes come from Wisconsin"?

Me: "What do you mean? In the US most potatoes come from Idaho. Here:
nationalpotatofact.org"

OP "I see, so you're saying there aren't any potatoes in Wisconsin? Well if you'd bother to read your own link you'd see the Wisconsin is the third largest potato producing state in the US."

Me: I didn't say that no potatoes came from Wisconsin, I'm saying that most potatoes come from Idaho.

OP: "Well you're obviously from Idaho so you're biased."

Me: "No I'm not I'm from California".

OP: So they don't have potatoes in California?

Me:"What"?

OP: " You said they don't have potatoes in California".

Me: "No I didn't. Look, I don't even think you and I are having the same conversation at this point".

OP: "Well you may not be having the same conversation but certainly I am".

Me: "What"?

I disagree.

There ya go. Evidently that's a good reason to argue

 

[Quagmire]

I disagree.

There ya go. Evidently that's a good reason to argue

I see, so you're saying that all left-handed Lithuanian basket weavers wear camouflage high tops?

(Sorry, it's kind of addicting)

 

[amorphous_constellation]

-You believe in god exist and I disagee. Why take that personally?
Our lives are different and we disagree on what might be. What I believe doesn't change your life.

-You're gay. I don't agree with that life but don't judge your life. Why accuse me if hating you because I disagree? Its your life to live and if I don't agree, that doesn't change your life.

Well, crap. Twenty minutes from now is gonna be a helluva day...

In seriousness though, disagreements don't inevitably end in arguments. In my day-to-day life that's rarely the case. Disagreements create new ideas, new approaches, new solutions. Brainstorming, as it were, or compromises. But in my day-to-day life, the default modality is to work as a team. It's not about "winning" or ego trips, but being of service and doing a job.

From what I can tell, sort of, is that maybe two things happen, that might speak to what both of you said. And I guess one is a regulation decision, to be abstract, where a point of opinion seems to transform into power. Disagreement would immediately become a product of this.

The other thing is the fact of a certain phenomenon that seems to occur, where different sections and bodies in society seem to defer decisions to others - this coupled with perhaps a growing predisposition to accuse one's basic position with being a 'pretension front.' If the people who disagree in your venue of social connection aren't explicitly disagreeing in said venue, then it seems likely, to me, that the disagreement has been deferred to another.

We had a recent summer of protests, and we have large-scale political disagreements, and these things seem to originate as basic disagreements between people, that do eventually find expression somewhere.

 

[We Never Know]

I see, so you're saying that all left-handed Lithuanian basket weavers wear camouflage high tops?

(Sorry, it's kind of addicting)

Nope. Its the right handed ones

 

[Shadow Wolf]

I'm guessing that's sarcasm

Not at all. It is actually a very serious question. Since when have disagreements always turned into an argument?