Why do men and women have children by accident ?

[Twilight Hue]

Eh, I still see it as invalidating the person.

I would never tell someone to "buck up you, don't have it *that* bad (compared to XYZ)".

"Don't feel bad you had a heart attack, Bob had a two and he can't talk anymore"


Yeah, I'll pass on the comparison of problems to try and be supportive. I'll stick with just being supportive.

However a person views it. There's no real right or wrong.

 

[The Hammer]

However a person views it. There's no real right or wrong.

Erring on the side of empathy is always the ethically correct choice. Imo

 

[IndigoChild5559]

I will never forget one time my dad told me that he had sex with my mom and accidentally had me it's hurts still knowing that.

I'm so very sorry. That's a really mean way for him to have given you the news.

My parents always told me I came by God's blessing. Was I unanticipated? Yes. But I always felt loved and wanted. You can't ask for more than that.

 

[TagliatelliMonster]

I will never forget one time my dad told me that he had sex with my mom and accidentally had me it's hurts still knowing that.

There's a difference between being accidental vs unwanted.
"accidental" just means "not planned".

Look at it another way.... Many times, the best things in life weren't things you planned for.

 

[TagliatelliMonster]

The prime directive for sex is procreation.

Very much disagree.
I'ld say the prime directive for sex is building intimacy and bonding.
I've had sex countless times with my lovely wife, but we have only 2 kids. And both were planned. After the second one, we made the conscious decision to not have a third one. Wife got sterilized. We didn't stop having sex after that.

 

[TagliatelliMonster]

Do you suppose that the only times people are intimate with one another, it is because they are planning a child? What should a young, married couple do, then, if they are not ready to have kids yet?

Hold hands and play cards, obviously