Why do we (I use we because I know there are folks out there that have this issue also) torment ourselves over the thought that someone doesn't like us? What causes our angst when we think there is a chance that we have not been able to win someone over with our usual easy going, gotta keep everyone happy attitude? I have always been a people person. I keep the peace. I avoid confrontations and I intervene to avoid violence between others. But to find out that someone has said something negative about me or that someone doesnt like me, it pisses me off. I sit there trying to figure out why they don't like me. What have I done? My usual response is "screw 'em", and I spend a little more time than necessary trying to **** them off. That way I know they have a reason to hate me. But why does it bother me so much that I am not liked? Any thoughts would be helpful or any insight. Is it my chosen path to be so concerned about other peoples feelings for me that it ways on my mind constantly? Any ideas on how to change this? Talk to me people.:faint:
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Why do we torment ourselves?
- Thread starter lasthope
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See, perfect example. I knew I could count on the first post to prove my point. Just like that, I am told I have a huge ego. I don't want everyone to like me, I just don't want to give anyone a reason to not like me. Ego is "'An exaggerated sense of self-importance; conceit." I am far from concieted my friend. I did not write this thread to be called names. Yet on the first reply,I am called concieted. Maybe I didn't state clear enough what I was asking. If you had left out the first sentence, then you might have been answering close to what I was looking for. Thanks for trying. I am sure that being the kind of person you are, you will none the less post another comment trying to bring me down to a lower level.
Bishka
Veteran Member
Hey Lasthope. I've had the same problem. I wonder why some people don't like me, and I still have a bit of a complex about wanting people to like me, it's not because I want to be popular or famous or well-liked, I just like to have people getting along and not hating me, others, etc.
It's hard to let go of that, "Why do they hate me?" feeling. Trust me, I totally feel ya here. Slowly, I've had to let one person go at a time, and slowly at that point too.
I'm not sure how much other help I can give you, but I tried.
It's hard to let go of that, "Why do they hate me?" feeling. Trust me, I totally feel ya here. Slowly, I've had to let one person go at a time, and slowly at that point too.
I'm not sure how much other help I can give you, but I tried.