Why sex is so disgusting

[Sha'irullah]

Why do the average individual engage in and hold an interest in sex? It seems to drive the current media and common interest of so many.

I know my opinions are not held by the average person and I am not trying to espouse them on other claiming mines are correct as sexuality is a matter of personal preference.
I view sex is a highly annoying, materialistic desire that is an utter waste of time. If I want sex it can be fulfilled by simulating it with masturbation every year, or 3 years for that matter. The concept of another human being wanting to engage with fleshly contact between another is just mind boggling to me. Diseases, bacteria and STD's are spread this way so instead of taking a 85% chance hoping to avoid the 15% why have sex at all? (This was my first excuse to avoid sex actually. I used it twice and it left the female hurt somehow due to petty emotions)

Romance and marriage as well are also equally confusing. The thought of another person wanting to "be with you" is like a virus wanting to be attached to a tissue cell. It is disease like and viral in comparison the same way obsession ruled John Hinckley's life with Jodie Foster. Sleeping with another person and expecting "intimacy" are just things I find highly abnormal which would (and will) ruin someone's privacy which is for some their life.

How do you sexual and romantic people manage these 'impulses'? I am just at loss as to how people manage this

 

[Vinayaka]

For a guy who claims to be asexual, you sure do think about it a lot.

 

[Titanic]

For a guy who claims to be asexual, you sure do think about it a lot.

Just what I was thinking too. Sex is like one of the most fun thing's in the world dude!

 

[Vinayaka]

Just what I was thinking too. Sex is like one of the most fun thing's in the world dude!

My point was more that many of us really don't think about it very much, but we're still sexual.

 

[Vouthon]

Dear Sterling,

Most asexuals do not consider sex to be "disgusting". That's not part of asexuality. To be asexual is to not experience sexual attraction. It does not amount to hatred for a natural bodily urge and function.

That seems to suggest to me more a phobia of sex rather than asexuality. There is one called erotophobia, it can take a wide variety of forms. Erotophobes find sex frightening or revolting. It is a psychological condition rather than an orientation. I'm not trying to be insulting in any way but could you be erotophobic? I hope you don't think I'm being offensive, I'm not, it is merely my impression given the amount of sex-related threads you have been writing recently and your use of the word "disgust". It seems to suggest some kind of anxious, fearful preoccupation with sex.

Sex does not hold a lot of interest for me, mainly because I am not greatly or at all sexually attracted to other people, even though I can recognize and admire physical beauty. I don't find it disgusting though. It is the natural, beautiful medium for transmitting life. None of us would be here without it.

I find the concept of two people pleasuring each other, kissing, embracing and enjoying each other's bodies to be one of nature's most beautiful marvels.

I don't fantasize about it or think often of sex but I still consider it to be aesthetically beautiful, especially if it is described for example in novels or film in a romantic, emotional way. I can appreciate the goodness of that natural desire to give oneself to another sexually even though I don't personally want too.

Why do you think that Sufi Islam, Christian bridal mysticism and Hindu Bhakti describe the relationship between God and the soul with recourse to the imagery of human Lover and Beloved? Many of the Christian bridal mystics were celibate, yet appreciated the beauty of sex enough to use it as the supreme image of their union with God.

 

[Rainbow Mage]

I don't find sex disgusting. Enough said

 

[Straw Dog]

Sex can be beautiful or ugly depending upon experience and conditioning. It seems perfectly natural for many people to desire intimacy and passion. It also seems rational to approach sex with utmost caution and full awareness of thoughts, feelings, and actions involved.

Personally, I seek sex and romance within the context of a committed relationship. We can be completely comfortable with each others' bodies while exploring new avenues. It's a simplier format for expressing desire safely. Unchecked promiscuity tends to bring about emotional and bodily disturbance.

 

[Me Myself]

Because thats the way a-ha a-ha I like it! A-ha a-ha!

(Not really, but I couldnt not post that )

 

[Me Myself]

How do you sexual and romantic people manage these 'impulses'? I am just at loss as to how people manage this

We have fun.

Its crazy

 

[Caladan]

How do you sexual and romantic people manage these 'impulses'? I am just at loss as to how people manage this

How do I manage the impulses? I act on them. And if the sex is dirty, that's good too.
But like other members here, I have to wonder if you are really asexual or simply suffer from some form of anxiety.
Most people find what you call disgusting to be arousing. People like kink, little dirty deeds, naughtiness. It's probably what is 'dirty' in sex which has such a strong appeal.

 

[Kilgore Trout]

If I don't feel disgusted with myself after sex, then I obviously did something wrong.

 

[LuisDantas]

How do you sexual and romantic people manage these 'impulses'? I am just at loss as to how people manage this

The plain truth is that most people love being touched and touching people that they find attractive. And enjoying the simple company and romance is if anything even more prevalent.

Not being judgemental here, but your position is very much a minoritary one.

 

[Sha'irullah]

For a guy who claims to be asexual, you sure do think about it a lot.

I actually brought up because of a previous post and sorry about the thread title but it is meant for shock value. I actually do not view sex as "disgusting" although I would say it is viral like in nature.

 

[LuisDantas]

Yeah... I guess it is

 

[Sha'irullah]

Dear Sterling,

Most asexuals do not consider sex to be "disgusting". That's not part of asexuality. To be asexual is to not experience sexual attraction. It does not amount to hatred for a natural bodily urge and function.

Holding disgust towards sex is closer towards antisexuality or genophobia and I know this already along with what asexuality is. My thread title is more for shock value (common habit).

That seems to suggest to me more a phobia of sex rather than asexuality. There is one called erotophobia, it can take a wide variety of forms. Erotophobes find sex frightening or revolting. It is a psychological condition rather than an orientation. I'm not trying to be insulting in any way but could you be erotophobic? I hope you don't think I'm being offensive, I'm not, it is merely my impression given the amount of sex-related threads you have been writing recently and your use of the word "disgust". It seems to suggest some kind of anxious, fearful preoccupation with sex.

Well I do not have an irrational fear against sex I just do not feel the need to engage in it or have romance.
I do not find sex frightening, revolting or offensive (unless in public).
Also I would not say I am making a massive amount of sexual related threads it has just been that it has been a floating topic around RF and it sort of bugs me because I am the outsider looking in.

Sex does not hold a lot of interest for me, mainly because I am not greatly or at all sexually attracted to other people, even though I can recognize and admire physical beauty. I don't find it disgusting though. It is the natural, beautiful medium for transmitting life. None of us would be here without it.

I find the concept of two people pleasuring each other, kissing, embracing and enjoying each other's bodies to be one of nature's most beautiful marvels.

I don't fantasize about it or think often of sex but I still consider it to be aesthetically beautiful, especially if it is described for example in novels or film in a romantic, emotional way. I can appreciate the goodness of that natural desire to give oneself to another sexually even though I don't personally want too.

Why do you think that Sufi Islam, Christian bridal mysticism and Hindu Bhakti describe the relationship between God and the soul with recourse to the imagery of human Lover and Beloved? Many of the Christian bridal mystics were celibate, yet appreciated the beauty of sex enough to use it as the supreme image of their union with God.

I can handle eroticism in its pure form. I can understand being with others but not int he context of coitus, sodomy or any other act of lewd exposure(o entry). I sort of have a fetish actually to some extent but it does not involve the act of sexual intercourse.
I never stated sex was disgusting I just used that in the head title. To further clarify my position you will take note that I find it boring and confusing. I believe the negatives of sex outweigh the positive. I am actually extremely fearful of bacteria and acquiring diseases actually which leads to me being very clean so this will be introduced sexually but it does not lead to a fear of sex as I know the statistics of acquiring a disease and I abide by analytical reasoning without wavering.

I am non sexual but one thing is clear about me and that it I am entirely anti romantic (at least to most) as I do not like or enjoy the concept of a loving relationship union between couples. One is servile and does as the other commands and gets out of the way while the other merely exists to be left alone. The only union is need of the other for actions to be required on their behave. That is about it.

 

[Sha'irullah]

How do I manage the impulses? I act on them. And if the sex is dirty, that's good too.
But like other members here, I have to wonder if you are really asexual or simply suffer from some form of anxiety.
Most people find what you call disgusting to be arousing. People like kink, little dirty deeds, naughtiness. It's probably what is 'dirty' in sex which has such a strong appeal.

keep in mind I never called sex disgusting and used it as a thread title. If I had anxiety from anything then I would not have a highly relaxed personality.

 

[Sha'irullah]

The plain truth is that most people love being touched and touching people that they find attractive. And enjoying the simple company and romance is if anything even more prevalent.

Not being judgemental here, but your position is very much a minoritary one.

I dislike being touched by others or touching others so major conflict there

I know my opinion is a minority and I mentioned it before which is why I do not consider myself apart of the norm. This makes it all the more frustrating.

I am essentially .5% of people who look at sexuality and romance and try figuring out why it is so special. I feel as if I am incapable of understanding it for some reason.
Sex is easily compared to a 5 year old illiterate child(me) being given a calculus question. It will be so complex that the child will be clueless as to understand it. Sex is just that complex for me.

 

[Caladan]

I guess you're just going to have to come to terms with the fact that life is a disease: sexually transmitted, and invariably fatal.

 

[The Sum of Awe]

Even if you're not attracted to a vagina (I'm not really, I'm attracted to some other things on a girl though) once you got the pump in the gas tank you will always start pumping

yes vaginas look disgusting but i'm sure to anybody they will alway feel so good

 

[Vinayaka]

I actually brought up because of a previous post and sorry about the thread title but it is meant for shock value. I actually do not view sex as "disgusting" although I would say it is viral like in nature.

My point was you think about it more than me, and I suspect more than a lot of people. I don't think I've started a single thread on it. (Cause I don't 'think' about it.) I do know that most people think about it more than me, just like some people who are food thinkers may spend an hour a day planning that evening meal ... maybe even more. Whereas, I wait until meal time, then just go grab something and cook. Much more in the moment, so to speak. Same with sex. I don't think about it. Boss just comes, says, "Let's go," and then that's that until next time. So for me it's a matter of not wasting my time on stuff. By thinking, I mean daydreaming or analysing.