Why sex is so disgusting

[Sha'irullah]

Even if you're not attracted to a vagina (I'm not really, I'm attracted to some other things on a girl though) once you got the pump in the gas tank you will always start pumping

yes vaginas look disgusting but i'm sure to anybody they will alway feel so good

Well true that may be except i am the guy who walked out during intercourse

 

[Sha'irullah]

My point was you think about it more than me, and I suspect more than a lot of people. I don't think I've started a single thread on it. (Cause I don't 'think' about it.) I do know that most people think about it more than me, just like some people who are food thinkers may spend an hour a day planning that evening meal ... maybe even more. Whereas, I wait until meal time, then just go grab something and cook. Much more in the moment, so to speak. Same with sex. I don't think about it. Boss just comes, says, "Let's go," and then that's that until next time. So for me it's a matter of not wasting my time on stuff. By thinking, I mean daydreaming or analysing.

Well you have essentially described my current situation. I made this thread do to a post concerning LGBT celebrities.

I find it funny we have the same eating habits also :areyoucra

 

[Vinayaka]

Well you have essentially described my current situation. I made this thread do to a post concerning LGBT celebrities.

I find it funny we have the same eating habits also :areyoucra

See, I don't even know what LGBT is.

 

[Sha'irullah]

See, I don't even know what LGBT is.

Well you do not live in California. It means Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transsexual. Big issues in the US.

 

[Magic Man]

I dislike being touched by others or touching others so major conflict there

Are you, by any chance, autistic? From your comments here, it sounds like classic autism (or at least one form of it). This is not meant as an insult, just an observation.

 

[dgirl1986]

*blind post*

I get annoyed at sex being plastered everywhere, but that doesnt mean I do not enjoy it with my partner. To me it is not a materialistic desire or just about getting off. It is about intimacy with the person I love.

 

[Alceste]

I don't find any of it to be a hassle. My husband is my best friend, and our activities in the bedroom are enjoyable and come quite naturally to us. In fact, I think we'd both like to have more sex than we already do. We're both very cerebral and tend to forget about the physical stuff. If it's been a while, we both end up wondering "why don't we do this more often?"

 

[Sha'irullah]

Are you, by any chance, autistic? From your comments here, it sounds like classic autism (or at least one form of it). This is not meant as an insult, just an observation.

I did have neurological exams as a child and it was confirmed I had some abnormality of the sort but I was removed before anything further was done. This was all confirmed by multiple people by the way but nothing was ever continued.

What makes you think I am autistic by my posts? I know I am a sporadic poster but mostly because all of my posts are influenced by recent events.

 

[Magic Man]

I did have neurological exams as a child and it was confirmed I had some abnormality of the sort but I was removed before anything further was done. This was all confirmed by multiple people by the way but nothing was ever continued.

What makes you think I am autistic by my posts? I know I am a sporadic poster but mostly because all of my posts are influenced by recent events.

An aversion to human contact and lack of understanding of human emotions seem to be common symptoms of autism, as far as I know. Also, Asperger's Syndrome seems like it could be a fit. I'm not expert, though, just curious.

 

[Sha'irullah]

An aversion to human contact and lack of understanding of human emotions seem to be common symptoms of autism, as far as I know. Also, Asperger's Syndrome seems like it could be a fit. I'm not expert, though, just curious.

I have had roughly 3 years total of social therapy of varying sorts as a kid and I was deemed antisocial so again I am not ruling it out.
But I doubt I could be autistic though and if I was it would not be overly noticeable.

Most keep assuming social anxiety of some sort but for a kid to be deemed antisocial at the age of 3 is pushing it. I have no fear or anxiety towards others and social interactions just lack of interest and perplexity by their actions.

 

[Magic Man]

I have had roughly 3 years total of social therapy of varying sorts as a kid and I was deemed antisocial so again I am not ruling it out.
But I doubt I could be autistic though and if I was it would not be overly noticeable.

Most keep assuming social anxiety of some sort but for a kid to be deemed antisocial at the age of 3 is pushing it. I have no fear or anxiety towards others and social interactions just lack of interest and perplexity by their actions.

Lack of interest in sharing enjoyment, interests, or achievements with other people.

Lack of empathy. People with autism may have difficulty understanding another person's feelings, such as pain or sorrow.

Difficulty understanding their listener's perspective. For example, a person with autism may not understand that someone is using humor. They may interpret the communication word for word and fail to catch the implied meaning.

They are symptoms from here:

Autism Symptoms in Children & Adults - WebMD

Also, aversion to human contact tends to be a symptom, as I mentioned. There is a wide spectrum of autism, so it may be that you fall into that category but on the very low end. Anyway, not trying to push it on you, just thought I'd mention it.

 

[FearGod]

Why do the average individual engage in and hold an interest in sex? It seems to drive the current media and common interest of so many.

I know my opinions are not held by the average person and I am not trying to espouse them on other claiming mines are correct as sexuality is a matter of personal preference.
I view sex is a highly annoying, materialistic desire that is an utter waste of time. If I want sex it can be fulfilled by simulating it with masturbation every year, or 3 years for that matter. The concept of another human being wanting to engage with fleshly contact between another is just mind boggling to me. Diseases, bacteria and STD's are spread this way so instead of taking a 85% chance hoping to avoid the 15% why have sex at all? (This was my first excuse to avoid sex actually. I used it twice and it left the female hurt somehow due to petty emotions)

Romance and marriage as well are also equally confusing. The thought of another person wanting to "be with you" is like a virus wanting to be attached to a tissue cell. It is disease like and viral in comparison the same way obsession ruled John Hinckley's life with Jodie Foster. Sleeping with another person and expecting "intimacy" are just things I find highly abnormal which would (and will) ruin someone's privacy which is for some their life.

How do you sexual and romantic people manage these 'impulses'? I am just at loss as to how people manage this

Sex feelings and attraction towards the opposite sex is installed in our minds.

it is an instinct which is really sometimes hard to resist but can agree with you somewhat.

The saliva wich is mixed while kissing isn't a palatable thing i think.
The Urine which is very close to vagina isn't ..............
The rectum which is the source of feces and close too to vagina isn't ..........

But still the sexual instinct wins against all those disgusting and unpalatable things.

 

[Sha'irullah]

Sex feelings and attraction towards the opposite sex is installed in our minds.

it is an instinct which is really sometimes hard to resist but can agree with you in somewhat.

The saliva wich is mixed while kissing isn't a palatable thing i think.
The Urine which is very close to vagina isn't ..............
The rectum which is the source of feces and close too to vagina isn't ..........

But still the sexual instinct wins against all those disgusting and unpalatable things.

Yeah you would think so but it does not. Sex is beyond useless for me. I really dislike the vagina, not out of fear but because I do not find it special or remotely attractive nor do I find its feel or sensation enjoyable.
So many better things to do instead of sex such as watching Animation Domination on tv.

 

[ChristineES]

I don't find sex disgusting but I think it is supposed to be a private thing between two individuals. It is thrown at us way too much in the media. I think I may be asexual- I am not sure- so maybe that is the reasoning behind my discomfort of viewing it or even hearing about it.

 

[FearGod]

Yeah you would think so but it does not. Sex is beyond useless for me. I really dislike the vagina, not out of fear but because I do not find it special or remotely attractive nor do I find its feel or sensation enjoyable.
So many better things to do instead of sex such as watching Animation Domination on tv.

Yes,it is in our thoughts an amazing and wonderful thing but in reality it is kind of fiddling.

 

[Sha'irullah]

Yes,it is in our thoughts an amazing and wonderful thing but in reality it is kind of fiddling.

Sex is not a wonderful thing in my thoughts though. It is just an annoying action with no value and is clearly something I do not desire or find beautiful. It is petty in both in action and thought.
Do you really think all people have the same form of thought and hold the same perception about something?
If you believe this then I hope you know that your saying even homosexuals like girls and are just denying it.
perhaps I am not understanding your words though

 

[FearGod]

Sex is not a wonderful thing in my thoughts though. It is just an annoying action with no value and is clearly something I do not desire or find beautiful. It is petty in both in action and thought.
Do you really think all people have the same form of thought and hold the same perception about something?
If you believe this then I hope you know that your saying even homosexuals like girls and are just denying it.
perhaps I am not understanding your words though

But don't you think that masturbation is an annoying action as well.

 

[Sha'irullah]

But don't you think that masturbation is an annoying action as well.

I do find it annoying . I may require it as an inert biological desire but the act of masturbation is exceedingly rare for me.
I find it repulsive

 

[MattersOfTheHeart]

You've mentioned you don't see the point of romance, or the clinging together of in relationships.

Do you think it is possible, that part of this feeling you have, stems from the idea of, romance and modern relationships are, for lack of a better term, fakish?

Not sure if you like metaphors, but take for example:
John, goes to Walmart to by a new grill. He comes home sets it up, and then fills it with dirt and plants tomatoes. His neighbor sees it, and likewise all the neighbors catch on to this idea.
Years later, John Jr, jr, jr, jr, jr... Goes outside and sees the grill turned on it's side. He lifts it up, and examines the device. Comes across a dirty instruction set, and begins to follow it.
An hour later, the neighbors notice a smell in the air. They quickly go out to see what is filling their sense with such wonder. Then everyone empties their grill and starts cooking again.

Point is, I am just curious if there is a way in which you could envision this romance and sex in a different light, and if this metaphor has anything bearing?

 

[Sha'irullah]

You've mentioned you don't see the point of romance, or the clinging together of in relationships.

Do you think it is possible, that part of this feeling you have, stems from the idea of, romance and modern relationships are, for lack of a better term, fakish?

Not sure if you like metaphors, but take for example:
John, goes to Walmart to by a new grill. He comes home sets it up, and then fills it with dirt and plants tomatoes. His neighbor sees it, and likewise all the neighbors catch on to this idea.
Years later, John Jr, jr, jr, jr, jr... Goes outside and sees the grill turned on it's side. He lifts it up, and examines the device. Comes across a dirty instruction set, and begins to follow it.
An hour later, the neighbors notice a smell in the air. They quickly go out to see what is filling their sense with such wonder. Then everyone empties their grill and starts cooking again.

Point is, I am just curious if there is a way in which you could envision this romance and sex in a different light, and if this metaphor has anything bearing?

Your metaphor does not resonate with me on any level sadly. I do not understand its implications honestly.

I do not find romances false but instead I find their foundations baseless in their function and soulless in their actions. They are the unions of two INDIVIDUALS trying to get along.
The only proper relationship to me would be that of a lord and his quiet servant. That is about as romantic as it gets for me. The concept of a personal relationship involving feelings being expressed has no merit for me. I do not wish to share, I do not wish to be bothered, or have such an incipient unstable emotion such as love be introduced. People do all sorts of vile actions int he name of love. I do not wish to take part in something that offers me no benefits.
Love does not clean my shoes, it does not make me happy, it does not do as it is told either. I can do this with dominion and fear but not with love.

I propose to you a challenge, name one thing love can do better that fear can't. I am not saying fear is ideal for people yet alone me but it is better then love.