Will i ever have sex?

[MatthewKeegan]

so i went on a couple of dates in the past which ended up with sex and nothing more, but after i started to be more on the Christian side, i knew i had to make some changes. I went on a couple of dates with different guys who all at the end of the date wanted sex, now i know sex is a sin if we're not married, but people now a-days won't even consider making you his/her boyfriend/girlfriend let along marry you if you don't have sex before. :help:

 

[Saint Frankenstein]

Well, you can try some gay Christian dating sites:

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Just try to find a person who has the same values as you and who will respect them. There's gay Christian men out there who have more traditional values.

 

[Gjallarhorn]

Perhaps it's because people realized that putting off mutual sexual gratification until marriage is just a ploy to get people into marriages with potentially horrible sexual partners and to guilt them with the sin of divorce?

 

[nash8]

Perhaps it's because people realized that putting off mutual sexual gratification until marriage is just a ploy to get people into marriages with potentially horrible sexual partners and to guilt them with the sin of divorce?

LOL, :yes:

Marriage as a custom was created so to either A) unite powerful families, or B) Essentially a way to "Sell" ones daughter for a few cows, while also ensuring that said daughter would be taken care of financially speaking. "Love" being a part of marriage is actually a very recent social institution, generally speaking the 20th century. There was no such thing as loving the one you married. You actually married the person that could take care of you, and you had an affair with the one you loved as in the case of Lancelot and Queen Guinevere in the King Arthur traditions.

The no sex until marriage thing was probably a result of fears of all the bad things that could happen having sex back then (unwanted pregnancies, STD's, etc etc.) which we don't necessarily have to worry about if you're half way intelligent these days.

So I say if you find a person that you go on a date with attractive, then go right ahead on and get yours hunny. However, if I guy refuses to continue to date you because you don't have sex with him then he probably isn't the type your after anyways. Of course, there is a certain timeframe for this, at least for us "non-abstainers". I give girls I really like a month, sometimes even two, but for everybody else, they only get 3 dates lol.

 

[crossfire]

I'm thinking the sex-only-within-marriage (for women at least) connection was to ensure that the patriarchal lineage could be traced with certainty. Adultery was only adultery if it involved a married female. A married man could have all the extramarital sex he wanted, as long as it wasn't with someone else's wife. (As that would create uncertainty in the "legitimate" patriarchal lineage.)

 

[nash8]

I'm thinking the sex-only-within-marriage (for women at least) connection was to ensure that the patriarchal lineage could be traced with certainty. Adultery was only adultery if it involved a married female. A married man could have all the extramarital sex he wanted, as long as it wasn't with someone else's wife. (As that would create uncertainty in the "legitimate" patriarchal lineage.)

Very good point.

 

[Mycroft]

so i went on a couple of dates in the past which ended up with sex and nothing more, but after i started to be more on the Christian side, i knew i had to make some changes. I went on a couple of dates with different guys who all at the end of the date wanted sex, now i know sex is a sin if we're not married, but people now a-days won't even consider making you his/her boyfriend/girlfriend let along marry you if you don't have sex before. :help:

A real god doesn't hang a pecker on a guy and say, 'don't use it until you get married', he'd just make it pop out the day you got married.

 

[beenie]

A real god doesn't hang a pecker on a guy and say, 'don't use it until you get married', he'd just make it pop out the day you got married.

That is one of the funniest posts I've read in a long time.

 

[Saint Frankenstein]

The no sex until marriage thing was probably a result of fears of all the bad things that could happen having sex back then (unwanted pregnancies, STD's, etc etc.) which we don't necessarily have to worry about if you're half way intelligent these days.

Birth control doesn't always work and condoms break a lot. Besides, almost no one uses condoms or dental dams for things like oral sex, so they're basically eating the STD.

 

[nash8]

Birth control doesn't always work and condoms break a lot. Besides, almost no one uses condoms or dental dams for things like oral sex, so they're basically eating the STD.

Less than 2% of condoms break according to most general studies. Most "malfunctions" are mostly due to user error, and you know what they say: Practice makes perfect.

Condoms: Effectiveness, History and Availability | AVERT

And as far as oral sex goes, it's just like food, you gotta inspect the quality of the food before you eat it. Even if there is one that has no physical abnormalities, unless you have a cut on your mouth or along the inside of your throat or your esophagus, stomach acid will most likely destroy the virus and/or bacteria before it gets into your blood stream.

Honestly, there's no comparison between the time when these laws were formulated and now. But with that being said, I'm all for people choosing when they want to engage in sexual relations. There's a lot more emotional problems that can arise out of it, that no condom or other prevention technique could stop, so it still is a big decision to decide to engage in intercourse with someone, especially if you don't consider yourself emotionally mature enough to do so without becoming emotionally vulnerable.