Would you become heterosexual if you could?

[Bastet]

I really feel for you guys who aren't out in real life. Once I finally (after years of struggle) admitted to myself that I'm gay, I only lasted a few months before I had to tell my family. It was longer before I was fully out at work - a couple of people I was close to knew - and in the end I was outed by a colleague, after I'd inadvertantly made some comment about gay marriage. It was hot gossip for a while, but really, nobody cares...and it's very liberating being able to just be myself and not put on a front all the time like I used to. It's not like I introduce myself with "Hi, I'm Meg, and I'm a lesbian", but if I make an offhand comment about something that might give me away, so to speak, I'm not going to freak out about it. I've only had to really beat one person over the head with it, because he was making very inappropriate comments about me in my underwear. I let him know in no uncertain terms where he stood on that score. :biglaugh:

 

[Jaymes]

For some reason coming out to my grandparents just scares me to death... I love them very much and couldn't stand to have them look at me like I'd disappointed them. I feel like I'm lying by not telling them, though, especially considering I've been in a relationship for almost a year.

 

[Feathers in Hair]

Thanks for the information about being bi, all! I'm having a weird sort of self-questioning at the moment, and am very interested in your answers.

 

[rainbowchristianqld]

For some reason coming out to my grandparents just scares me to death... I love them very much and couldn't stand to have them look at me like I'd disappointed them. I feel like I'm lying by not telling them, though, especially considering I've been in a relationship for almost a year.

I agree, the grandparents have to be the most difficult. My Mum told my (only blood) Grandmother while I was away (for the last 2 years), and apparently now, being that she doesn't understand it OR have many people other than Mum to talk to about it - she apparently prays every night for my Soul to be released from the Devils hands. God Bless her.

As for Bisexuality, I honestly believe that it IS possible - though there are people out there that just like S*x and don't care who it's with, JUST because it's sex, Not because they're attracted to both.
(from what I've seen) there is more hostility/prejudices (for loss of a better word) against Bisexuals than there are for any other sexuality, especially Male Bisexuals.
It's a tough life for everyone (no matter the sexuality), but I envy the people who are able to live fulfilled lives with bisexuality.

Back on topic.. In Addition to my last post. I agree with quite a few of the others here that I've been through WAY too much to gain acceptance of people and my self to take it all back and try to love Heterosexually.

 

[YamiB.]

I wouldn't become heterosexual if I could. I see no reason to mess with something I was born with as long as it doesn't harm me.

 

[Mike182]

i think i posted somethin in a different thread that goes along the lines of
"im perfectly happy with my life as it is right now, why would i want to change that?"

and i still stick by it

jensa, if its any concolation, i still havent come out to my granparents, it scares me to death the though tof having to tell them, i think mainly because of how dissapointed i think they would be of me

but without making my sexuality my identity, its still an intimate and intigrated part of who i am!

C_P

 

[YamiB.]

Technically I never told my parents about my sexuality. They found out because my mom looked at my friend's website (neither of us knew she looked at it) where my friend listed me as one of her bi/gay friends. Now they've pretty much setteled on saying I'm just going through a phase or I'm too young to know. It seems for now they're just pretending it never happened because they haven't mentioned it for several months. I think since I've been dating a girl for over a year they're just trying to tell themselves I'm actually straight.

 

[michel]

For some reason coming out to my grandparents just scares me to death... I love them very much and couldn't stand to have them look at me like I'd disappointed them. I feel like I'm lying by not telling them, though, especially considering I've been in a relationship for almost a year.

Jensa, you are who you are; you are the way you are. If you really love your grandparents, and they truly love you, I would like to think that they would understand - obviously you know them well; are they 'back and white' people ?

 

[Jaymes]

Sometimes they are... my grandmother is a bit more strict than my grandpa. My grandpa has at least said that he doesn't think it's a gay/lesbian person's 'fault' that they're gay, that it's caused from how they were raised... which is better than most people view it down here. I haven't really dared to venture talking about homosexuality with either of them at all, though. Which makes me feel doubly worse, since I'm living with them now.

Whatever happens happens, though. Maybe I'll 'luck out' and have them stumble across some of my LGBT-oriented books (nothing dirty, you pervs... :biglaugh.

 

[michel]

Sometimes they are... my grandmother is a bit more strict than my grandpa. My grandpa has at least said that he doesn't think it's a gay/lesbian person's 'fault' that they're gay, that it's caused from how they were raised... which is better than most people view it down here. I haven't really dared to venture talking about homosexuality with either of them at all, though. Which makes me feel doubly worse, since I'm living with them now.

Whatever happens happens, though. Maybe I'll 'luck out' and have them stumble across some of my LGBT-oriented books (nothing dirty, you pervs... :biglaugh.

And I never even thought of anything dirty!

Maybe you could have a quiet little chat with your grandpa - if he is more liberal; I feel that you should have at least one family member to whom you can turn in what must be a very distressing time.

And don't forget WE ARE HERE!