Would You Expect Feminists to be Better in Bed?

[Sunstone]

Seems to me, the last time I was sexually active (some years ago!), you could pretty much tell you were going to have a good time if your partner was a feminist. Not always, but usually.

At the time, people who identified themselves as feminists were noticeably inclined to be more experimental, open-minded, and considerate than the average partner (excepting only the occasional "lack of chemistry" type encounter, so to speak). At least that seemed to be the case based on my admittedly small sample at the time of (exclusively female) partners.

But I wonder now: Has the rest of the world caught up to where feminists were back then so that it doesn't much matter anymore? Or, does there still tend to be a noticeable difference? And if so, are feminists (both men and/or women feminists) still relatively better in bed? What would you expect based either on your actual sexual experience, or based on any other factors you might think of?

 

[Mindmaster]

Based on my experience, no, and never. Feminists are more likely to be experimental only in the fact that generally the partners they pick are beta males who are terrible at sex. In such relationships the partners will constantly lie to each other to avoid ego bruising and shame. I've been with feminists several times in the past, and it was the worst sex of my life every single time. All of them had weird neurosis about aspects of their bodies as well, it was truly tiring to have to stand around convincing them they were hot enough to have sex today. My opinion is, skip it.

As a card carrying alpha male, most of the time these relationships would fall apart because I wasn't going to be a part of the "sexual-safe space" that they were trying to impose on me. After I have been shown the mating signal I am not interested in having a dialogue about what happens next. I also find it completely unattractive to be constantly asked or asking for permission to do certain things. Unless I've previously done something before and determined she doesn't like it, I'm doing it if I want to. Likewise, if she asks me about certain things I find that off-putting as well. If she doesn't do what she wants and vice-versa why exactly are we there?

If you can find a female misogynist, that's about the best sex ever. (so rare!) She will expect to be conquered, in a way, but will only be receptive to that if the man will fight to get there. She will be completely disinterested in the feminist "head game" (she thinks those actions are wastes of time) and just be able to be 100% in the moment.

 

[Scuba Pete]

only in the fact that generally the partners they pick are beta males who are terrible at sex.

Citation needed. I've never thought of Sunstone or myself as being "beta". This sounds like such a passive aggressive put down that I can't let it go.

I've got such a ridiculously small sample size to choose from, that I could not possibly make a determination either way. I do know that everyone approaches intimacy differently. You and your partner's happiness are the only things that really count.

 

[Revoltingest]

Citation needed. I've never thought of Sunstone or myself as being "beta". This sounds like such a passive aggressive put down that I can't let it go.

I've got such a ridiculously small sample size to choose from, that I could not possibly make a determination either way. I do know that everyone approaches intimacy differently. You and your partner's happiness are the only things that really count.

You're just in denial.
The only reason I've deflected your coy advances is precisely because you're so beta.
Tis not enuf to be cute & wearing a skintight rubber suit.

 

[Scuba Pete]

Tis not enuf to be cute & wearing a skintight rubber suit.

It's a t-shirt dude, trying to cover my quivering muscles.

 

[Sunstone]

As a general rule if you need to specify or brag about your alpha-ness you probably aren't.

That's probably the most spot on post this thread will see -- including the OP!

 

[Saint Frankenstein]

Sex-positive feminists, yes.

 

[Sunstone]

Sex-positive feminists, yes.

Important distinction, I suspect. Although I've known at least one self described sex-negative feminist who seemed to me likely to be a pretty considerate lover. I don't know for sure, because we never had sex, but she gave me that vibe.

 

[Kuzcotopia]

Wew lad


Y I K E S


As a general rule if you need to specify or brag about your alpha-ness you probably aren't.

A lot of virgins take that kind of stance online. Check out this site. . . I get a real neckbeard vibe from the post above.

https://m.reddit.com/r/neckbeardstories/

The next tactic is either righteous indignation or quietly slinking away. . .

 

[Sunstone]

You and your partner's happiness are the only things that really count.

Very true.

 

[Debater Slayer]

Based on my experience, no, and never. Feminists are more likely to be experimental only in the fact that generally the partners they pick are beta males who are terrible at sex. In such relationships the partners will constantly lie to each other to avoid ego bruising and shame. I've been with feminists several times in the past, and it was the worst sex of my life every single time. All of them had weird neurosis about aspects of their bodies as well, it was truly tiring to have to stand around convincing them they were hot enough to have sex today. My opinion is, skip it.

As a card carrying alpha male, most of the time these relationships would fall apart because I wasn't going to be a part of the "sexual-safe space" that they were trying to impose on me. After I have been shown the mating signal I am not interested in having a dialogue about what happens next. I also find it completely unattractive to be constantly asked or asking for permission to do certain things. Unless I've previously done something before and determined she doesn't like it, I'm doing it if I want to. Likewise, if she asks me about certain things I find that off-putting as well. If she doesn't do what she wants and vice-versa why exactly are we there?

If you can find a female misogynist, that's about the best sex ever. (so rare!) She will expect to be conquered, in a way, but will only be receptive to that if the man will fight to get there. She will be completely disinterested in the feminist "head game" (she thinks those actions are wastes of time) and just be able to be 100% in the moment.

I think I might have accidentally walked into the Middle School Debates forum.

 

[methylatedghosts]

After I have been shown the mating signal I am not interested in having a dialogue about what happens next. I also find it completely unattractive to be constantly asked or asking for permission to do certain things. Unless I've previously done something before and determined she doesn't like it, I'm doing it if I want to.

This in particular is worrisome...

Has no one talked with you about consent?

And "mating signal" wtf?

 

[ADigitalArtist]

I am a sex positive feminist but I voted 'the same.' Being sex positive can lead to lots of new and fun ways to enjoy the experience, but it isn't a substitute for experience, technique, body health etc. Everyone starts somewhere.

Though I find the personality of the reddit edgelords lead to an especially terrible lay because their experiences are colored by that brand of sociopathy, and they are too arrogant and controlling to know when they're not benefiting their partner and just taking in a ridiculous and comically juvenile way.

 

[Flame]

Sex-positive feminists, yes.

This. I've had the displeasure of meeting quite a few anti-sex feminists and I doubt they would be any better then a log.

As a card carrying alpha male

Where does one go about attaining one of these alpha cards. I asked a local wolf pack leader for his but he refused.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

As a general rule if you need to specify or brag about your alpha-ness you probably aren't.

So very true. Reminds me of something Twyin said: Any man who must say, "I am the king" is no true king.

 

[Smart_Guy]

Feminists or not... I never had it before!

So don't ask me what to expect. I'll probably be enslaved anyway

 

[Shadow Wolf]

So don't ask me what to expect. I'll probably be enslaved anyway

*cracks whip*

 

[Smart_Guy]

*cracks whip*

Not sure if I should be scared or happy!