Would You Love Someone Who Loved Their God More Than You?

[Thief]

Would you get involved with someone who loved their god more than they loved you?

hmmmmm…….

a love triangle

and the Almighty in one corner

tough call

I hear He is a jealous God

 

[Audie]

Would you love, marry, and/or partner with someone who loved their god more than they loved you?


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As for myself, I could see this going either way.

On the one hand, there is less chance than there is modesty in a public bathhouse on "Toweless Tuesdays" that I would allow myself to get involved with a fundamentalist who loved her deity even half as much as she loved me. Anything more than half as much as me would be profoundly foolish, I think, given what kind of disgusting deities fundamentalists as a group tend to have. At least, that's how I myself see their deities. It's like asking would I get involved with someone who loved Charles Manson more than me. Hell no!

But on the other hand, it might actually be desirable to get involved with someone who had a healthy notion of deity and who loved their god more than me. It's kind of like asking, "Would you get involved with someone who thought there were bigger, more meaningful things in this world than themselves and you." Of course I might!

Among other things, a sense of purpose, mission in life is hugely attractive in a partner. At the very least, it means they might not end up a couch potato.

But what about you? Would you get involved with someone who loved their god more than they loved you?



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To me,someone who loves "god", a figment
of their imagination, is actually so in love with
themselves.

No thanx.

 

[Polymath257]

For me, the issue isn't loving someone/something more than me. I am polyamorous and think that love isn't something that can be bounded like that.

On the other hand, I would have trouble being in a relationship with a strongly religious partner, I think. Too many cultural gaps to make for a healthy relationship.

 

[Audie]

For me, the issue isn't loving someone/something more than me. I am polyamorous and think that love isn't something that can be bounded like that.

On the other hand, I would have trouble being in a relationship with a strongly religious partner, I think. Too many cultural gaps to make for a healthy relationship.

My thought here (based largely on being more or less
bicultural, living as I do in the USA) is that it depends.

For me some differences would be sure deal killers.
The culture, such as it is, of creationism, say.
There are so many layers of wrong there!

I have seen very successful x-cultural marriages,
so it must depend so much on the people, and
how the two cultures can work together.

 

[viole]

Would you love, marry, and/or partner with someone who loved their god more than they loved you?


......
As for myself, I could see this going either way.

On the one hand, there is less chance than there is modesty in a public bathhouse on "Toweless Tuesdays" that I would allow myself to get involved with a fundamentalist who loved her deity even half as much as she loved me. Anything more than half as much as me would be profoundly foolish, I think, given what kind of disgusting deities fundamentalists as a group tend to have. At least, that's how I myself see their deities. It's like asking would I get involved with someone who loved Charles Manson more than me. Hell no!

But on the other hand, it might actually be desirable to get involved with someone who had a healthy notion of deity and who loved their god more than me. It's kind of like asking, "Would you get involved with someone who thought there were bigger, more meaningful things in this world than themselves and you." Of course I might!

Among other things, a sense of purpose, mission in life is hugely attractive in a partner. At the very least, it means they might not end up a couch potato.

But what about you? Would you get involved with someone who loved their god more than they loved you?



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Here's a tune in a futile effort to make it up to you for such a lousy thread....

Every theist loves God more than I.

Ciao

- viole

 

[viole]

No, I couldn't love someone who loved an imaginary being more than me.

Would you prefer if she loves a not-imaginary one more than you?

You have to admit, that if the imaginary being says things like: you should not cheat on your husband, then her loving Him more than you, can have some advantages.

Ciao

- viole

 

[Sunstone]

To me,someone who loves "god", a figment
of their imagination, is actually so in love with
themselves.

No thanx.

I certainly agree with you to an extent.
It is quite obvious, is it not, that a
god who hates everything I hate is a
figment of my imagination. I mean,
what are the odds that such a god
is not really me projected large upon
the world?

Yet, I have known people whose
gods are healthier than that. For
instance, there is one woman I know
for whom god seems to be a way
in which she makes real and concrete
to her the notion she should treat
everyone with decency and respect.
God is more to her than that, but
that is certainly part of it.

I am not sure how her love for "god"
is much different than my love for
various ideas, principles, and values.

 

[Wasp]

I dislike to use the word "love" when it comes to, what I think you also mean, worship(?).

But yes, God comes first to any good Muslim. If they say they love me more or care about me more it would automatically mean they're not such a good Muslim. Or it could mean they lie because it seems inappropriate to say the turth..

 

[Twilight Hue]

I would question that person's sense of priorities.

Think of all the kids that died already because somebody's imaginary God took precedence over their own children's health and safety.

 

[Shad]

Would you love, marry, and/or partner with someone who loved their god more than they loved you?


......
As for myself, I could see this going either way.

On the one hand, there is less chance than there is modesty in a public bathhouse on "Toweless Tuesdays" that I would allow myself to get involved with a fundamentalist who loved her deity even half as much as she loved me. Anything more than half as much as me would be profoundly foolish, I think, given what kind of disgusting deities fundamentalists as a group tend to have. At least, that's how I myself see their deities. It's like asking would I get involved with someone who loved Charles Manson more than me. Hell no!

But on the other hand, it might actually be desirable to get involved with someone who had a healthy notion of deity and who loved their god more than me. It's kind of like asking, "Would you get involved with someone who thought there were bigger, more meaningful things in this world than themselves and you." Of course I might!

Among other things, a sense of purpose, mission in life is hugely attractive in a partner. At the very least, it means they might not end up a couch potato.

But what about you? Would you get involved with someone who loved their god more than they loved you?



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Here's a tune in a futile effort to make it up to you for such a lousy thread....

Considering I think most people believe a fictional image in their head its not really love in my view so I have no issues.

 

[whirlingmerc]

Would you love, marry, and/or partner with someone who loved their god more than they loved you?


......
As for myself, I could see this going either way.

On the one hand, there is less chance than there is modesty in a public bathhouse on "Toweless Tuesdays" that I would allow myself to get involved with a fundamentalist who loved her deity even half as much as she loved me. Anything more than half as much as me would be profoundly foolish, I think, given what kind of disgusting deities fundamentalists as a group tend to have. At least, that's how I myself see their deities. It's like asking would I get involved with someone who loved Charles Manson more than me. Hell no!

But on the other hand, it might actually be desirable to get involved with someone who had a healthy notion of deity and who loved their god more than me. It's kind of like asking, "Would you get involved with someone who thought there were bigger, more meaningful things in this world than themselves and you." Of course I might!

Among other things, a sense of purpose, mission in life is hugely attractive in a partner. At the very least, it means they might not end up a couch potato.

But what about you? Would you get involved with someone who loved their god more than they loved you?



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Here's a tune in a futile effort to make it up to you for such a lousy thread....

Sure! I would love them more for loving God most.

 

[Epic Beard Man]

For a time...a long time, in fact, I was married to a woman who loved herself much more than me, or anyone else, as far as I can tell now. Having gone through that experience, loving anyone who loves someone/something other than you more than they love you...well, I recommend against it. I spent years trying to be happy, before I eventually came to realize that I did not come first on her list, while pretty much she had been #1 on mine...hence, why I moved out and filed for divorce.

Damn sorry to hear that. All the more reason why I kinda don't want to get married.

 

[MJ Bailey]

In TRUE belief there is equivalence
















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[blü 2]

Would you get involved with someone who loved their god more than they loved you?

Or preferred their dog to me?

Or their job, or their mum, or their stage career, or their second bottle of red every night?

No. For me that does not compute.

But chacun / chacune à son goût.

 

[Shiranui117]

Would you love, marry, and/or partner with someone who loved their god more than they loved you?


......
As for myself, I could see this going either way.

On the one hand, there is less chance than there is modesty in a public bathhouse on "Toweless Tuesdays" that I would allow myself to get involved with a fundamentalist who loved her deity even half as much as she loved me. Anything more than half as much as me would be profoundly foolish, I think, given what kind of disgusting deities fundamentalists as a group tend to have. At least, that's how I myself see their deities. It's like asking would I get involved with someone who loved Charles Manson more than me. Hell no!

But on the other hand, it might actually be desirable to get involved with someone who had a healthy notion of deity and who loved their god more than me. It's kind of like asking, "Would you get involved with someone who thought there were bigger, more meaningful things in this world than themselves and you." Of course I might!

Among other things, a sense of purpose, mission in life is hugely attractive in a partner. At the very least, it means they might not end up a couch potato.

But what about you? Would you get involved with someone who loved their god more than they loved you?



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Here's a tune in a futile effort to make it up to you for such a lousy thread....

As long as it's the same God as I worship? Sure. Shared faith and values can help make for a very strong family foundation.

 

[Shiranui117]

Or preferred their dog to me?

Or their job, or their mum, or their stage career, or their second bottle of red every night?

No. For me that does not compute.

But chacun / chacune à son goût.

If I had a girlfriend and a dog, and my gf made me pick between her and the dog, I'm picking the dog. The dog's love is far less conditional and far more wholesome and genuine than crappy girlfriend's.

 

[atanu]

Would you love, marry, and/or partner with someone who loved their god more than they loved you?
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As for myself, I could see this going either way.
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But what about you? Would you get involved with someone who loved their god more than they loved you?

It is a very profound question that can be understood, imo, from the story of Jesus, Mary and Martha.

Another perspective on this can be found in Vedas, in the discussion of Maitreyī and her husband, sage Yājñavalkya.

Yājñavalkya tells his wife:

Lo, verily, not for love of a husband is a husband dear, but for the love of the Self a husband is dear.
Not for the love of the wife is a wife dear, but for love of the Self a wife is dear.​

— Brihadaranyaka Upanishad2.4.2–4

Maitreyi - Wikipedia

Love rooted in the deepest reality of every-being, the all pervading non dual Self (Atman), is true. There will never be any duality to this love.

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[Brickjectivity]

Would you love, marry, and/or partner with someone who loved their god more than they loved you?

We each make choices and can never know what would have happened had we made the other choice. Regretting our choices is not logical unless we clearly have made a mistake. If we can learn from the choice and do better, then perhaps it was a mistake. Otherwise it was just a turn at some fork in the road.

Lets say their god was alcohol. Lets say they loved alcohol more than you. Did you make a mistake letting yourself fall in love with them? I don't know. Did you make a mistake when you chose to withdraw instead and not fall in love? Again I don't know. Now suppose their god was nameless and difficult to understand, maybe some idealism, some possession of their soul, and you loved them. I don't think it would make your love less noble than if you had loved a free person.

 

[JJ50]

Loving the Biblical god character is like loving that evil guy Hitler, they have a lot in common but god is far worse, if it exists.

 

[blü 2]

If I had a girlfriend and a dog, and my gf made me pick between her and the dog, I'm picking the dog. The dog's love is far less conditional and far more wholesome and genuine than crappy girlfriend's.

Not that I have anything but goodwill for dogs, but at Get Physical time I've always proceeded on the basis that girls have qualities and capacities that dogs don't.

Still, like I said, chacun à son goût.