We all have them: Friends we have fun with, but who also make us crazy - and maybe even sick, according to new research.
In research-speak, such friends are called "ambivalent." They can be caring and warm, but maybe they're competitive, critical or frustrating.
And depending on how we interact with them, the relationship can raise our heart rates and blood pressure, which could lead to heart disease, according to Brigham Young University and University of Utah researchers.
Do you have friends like this? I do. I'm currently living with two people who I cannot stand. We used to be really good friends, but when I went through some depression last year after my grandma died the friendship suffered and it's never been repaired. It has gotten to the point where the thought of being around them makes me want to scream - literally. I'm counting down the days before I move (August 18)...
For about a year after the friendship changed, I was ambivalent about the friendship. It's been just recently that I realized in order to stay sane and happy myself, I had to quit considering these people as being my friends.
"It makes you wonder, if these relationships are potentially detrimental . . . why do we have these friends?" Holt-Lunstad said.
Here's the complete article in the Salt Lake Tribune: http://www.sltrib.com/ci_6222732
The type of friend we are talking about is someone we may really love or care about, Holt-Lunstad said. However, they can also at times be unreliable, competitive, critical or frustrating. Most people have at least a few friends, family members or co-workers that fit the bill.
Here's the press release from BYU: http://news.byu.edu/archive07-JUN-AmbivalentFriends.aspx