Too bad
@Truthseeker isn't a widower like you. Or, I guess, it's good that his wife is still alive, but, if she wasn't, it would give you an opportunity to possibly be with him. I don't know.
If his wife passes on before he does we might consider being together, and he might even move to my area, but we would continue to be only best friends.
Maybe it is possible to be setup again. I don't know who you know. There's quite a few Baha'is on these forums and even more on the Baha'i Discord server. I can link you up with that if you'd like. I don't know if you use Discord.
A long time ago I used Discord but as I recall it was difficult for me to navigate. I don't even know how to get into there now. I would like to try it again if there are a lot of Baha'is on there, even though they are probably younger Baha'is.
I think you're a good person too. I can't rate your attractiveness because I've never seen a picture of you, but I bet any guy would be lucky to be with you based on your personality alone.
Well thanks. I like to think that but everyone has their own requirements so I don't know what men would like me. But at least if could meet some men online or in person I would have a chance.
Sometimes I get locked out of my Facebook too. I usually just reset my password to get back in. As long as you have your original email you used when you created the account it shouldn't be too much of a problem.
Facebook keeps asking me to verify my identity, but then the message says it cannot verify my identity. I tried setting up a new account with a new e-mail and password but that didn't work either.
When I had to leave my parents house it took a huge toll on me. I nearly committed suicide due to how alone I felt at first. But I've recovered and now I thrive on being alone or just texting with my best friend.
I had a life situation somewhat similar to yours before I got married.
I can remember when I first left home after high school to go to college. Home was in upstate NY and college was in S California. I had been living with my mother and it was really hard being way from home, even though I was with my sister who was about a year older than me. I remember feeling so alone and writing my mother letters almost every day, as those were the days before there were computers and the internet, and phone calls were long distance and very expensive. It was not that I was that emotionally bonded with my mother, it was separation anxiety disorder.
I went to several colleges for my BA degree and I lived with my sister for some of that time and lived alone for a short time, but for my last year of college I returned to NY to live with my mother. After I got my BA degree I worked at a couple of jobs in NY but I then decided to go to grad school, so I took off all alone to go to grad school in Idaho. I lived alone there for about a year, but them my mother moved out to Idaho to live with me. That was around 1975. After I graduated with my MA degree I worked in Idaho for about a year, but then I moved to Utah for another job, and my mother came with me. After working in Utah for a couple of years I got transferred to another job in northern California and my mother moved with me.
I remained living with my mother till about 1982, when I started seeing a psychiatrist. But what happened after I was put on several drugs for depression and anxiety is that the psychiatrist told me I should absolutely not live with my mother anymore, so I moved to my own apartment and my mother moved down to S California to be closer to my sister. I lived alone for about a year and I liked living alone. I had a federal job so I was very stable. I had no desire to find a boyfriend or get married. It was after that year that my mother and sister set me up with my late husband and we got married three weeks later and were married for 37 years.
So having been married and living with the same person for 37 years it is really hard to get used to living alone. It is not so much that I am lonely. I don't feel lonely since I have the cats and people to talk to online. I do not need cuddling and affection since I get plenty of that from the cats. More of it is my worry about this house and what I am not going to be able to do with it as long as I am alone. I also worry if I will ever retire as long as I am alone.
As you know, I really don't want a romantic relationship so that puts me in an awkward position, since that is what most men want if they are going to get married. One would think that by my age there would be some men who don't care about sex anymore, but that doesn't seem to be the case. I might be willing to have sex if I was in love and married but I don't want a relationship that is focused on that. I want a companion and a spiritual help-mate and someone who I can go out and do activities with.
Oh, by the island thing I was referring to online friends as well. I only have one real life friend that visits me about once every three months, but I spend a lot of time online talking to my friends and chatting on Discord servers. My parents and my two best friends are in my inner circle, I talk to all of them at least once a week and I visit my parents house once every two months now.
Thanks for explaining that. For now I am happy just to have online friends. If I meet someone and strike up a friendship then maybe I would see a friend in person, go out to lunch or for coffee, but I am very reticent to have anyone over to my house, and if you saw it you'd know why.
