Al-Fatihah
If you made everyone unisex, meaning no one can tell the difference between who is male and who is female yet people still had relationships with each other--many of them serious ones--what would those serious non-lustful relationships and marriages be based on? Sex? Well, it can't be that, they can't procreate. Physical attraction? Well, everyone looks the same in that regards, so whose to differentiate how one is physically attracted to another compared to another person having the same feelings; what makes both of your experiences unique? It can't be lust and it can't be sex; so, what is it?
We do not need to have gender to be spiritually in love with each other as human beings. Our gender doesn't define who we are as people, that is the spirit. Spirits don't have gender.
If two spirits (human beings) joined together in holy matrimony without the motive of lust, whose to say they are lusting if you did not know they were two males or two females? Would you just assume they are opposite gender before seeing the couple yourself?
If you can give spiritual proof (not scripture, please, I'm familiar with that), from your own heart and opinion that two spirits or souls cannot join together in marriage because their matrimony is defined by their gender, please let me know.
Because society has made this homosexuality thing into so much lust that you can see, even on tv, the stereotypes that straight people play as "homosexuals." Their supposed to snap their fingers, wear wild clothes, try to look like the opposite sex. Stereotypes. Even more so, the Bible depicts homosexuality by actions. It does not focus on a person's spirit and his or her attraction (spiritual) between that person and another. The Bible focuses on opposite gender because of family.
Here's another thing you probably already heard. If two opposite gender couple can't have children, why should they get into a relationship? How would their love be justified if they cant have children? If we took the Bible out of this, wouldn't their intimacy be seen as lust given their are assumed "broken" to have children?
I mean, it's sad. When someone says my relationship with another person is based on lust, they automatically assume I have sexual relations. To straight, gay, and bisexual people alike, that is not always true.
How should one define a union between two souls? There are different religious answers from good to bad; so, objectively, how?
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Also, if I'm understanding you correctly. How are some of our feelings nurtured in regards to homosexuality? A straight person isn't raised to be straight. I know my parents didn't raise me to be straight. They definitely did not raise me to be gay. I just so happen be raised in a straight-oriented environment. If there was no such definition as straight and gay and just accept people as people, then I would grow up without being nurtured into attraction one way or another. Biological attraction is just what it is. Gay people aren't aliens. So, seeing them as separate that the rest of the crowd just doesn't make sense.