Adultery and monogamy

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Adultery is fine.

Monogamy shouldn’t be the norm.

That’s my stance.

I don’t adulterize because I love my boyfriend. I am monogamous because my boyfriend has the socially acceptable view that monogamy is the correct way. I love him enough to where I settle into a monogamous and faithful relationship.

But it doesn’t mean I don’t hold the stances I stated above.

When my now exwife “cheated” on me, I took it real personally. Therapist told me that it was a “me problem” and to simply get over it because the wifey actually and literally did nothing to me. She was missing an emotional need and was trying to fill it. And I’m mad? How unthoughtful and selfish.

Next girlfriend “cheated” on me. I didn’t get mad when she came to me crying about it. I just asked “Oh, why? Is there something wrong in our relationship?”

Oh, and monogamy I believe is a religious construct. Absent of religion, monogamy can be reduced to possessiveness. You are claiming to own someone exclusively when you are monogamous. My first wife tried this logic with me but I was raised Christian so I wasn’t having it because marriage a picture of God’s relationship with us supposedly.

I have matured and have hindsight now.

Adultery is fine.

Monogamy is selfish and possessive.

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Monogamy is necessary when raising a family otherwise it is not. Elaborated, If and when you decide to raise children both parent's lives should be focused on those children until they can take care of themselves, this requires monogamy for several reasons. If you do not plan on raising children and are taking the proper precautions, polygamy is fine. Adultery is only fine if you are not raising kids, and you have your spouse's permission.

 

[JustGeorge]

Monogamy is necessary when raising a family otherwise it is not. Elaborated, If and when you decide to raise children both parent's lives should be focused on those children until they can take care of themselves, this requires monogamy for several reasons. If you do not plan on raising children and are taking the proper precautions, polygamy is fine. Adultery is only fine if you are not raising kids, and you have your spouse's permission.

I generally agree, though there do seem to have been cultures or individuals that make it work.

I think it would be more successful if it was a concrete lifestyle(the person/s involved are long-term, not a revolving door of mere sexual partners).

Have there been horror stories? Sure. But there's horror stories from more traditional lifestyles, too.