American parents

[John Sjhepard]

http://www.alternet.org/education/t...nt-speaks-out-school-accuses-him-overreacting

So parents and teachers let their poor excuses for children do all these terrible stuff? What is wrong with parents?

 

[MARCELLO]

It happened to me for years too. As a sort of feminine guy,I was bullied many times and I always kept silent because I was ashamed to express it. The children are very cruel,they will not allow you to be different than what they expect you tobe.

I do not think this is something about parents,it is about kids's behavior. An ugly kid will be called a frog ,the fat will be called a pig.You can hardly avoid it because minor kids are doing this and this is so often.

 

[psychoslice]

I think anyone who is a bully should be dragged out of school and put into a bully school and let them all go for it.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

Tormented by Racial and Anti-Gay Slurs, Student Speaks Out; School Accuses Him of Overreacting
The school claimed there was no evidence the teen was bullied, yet it had a plan to keep him safe.
That makes my blood BOIL!!! Faculty who blame someone who is bullied for lashing out need to be fired.
So we have situations where kids are told, ‘Oh no, that was just teasing,’ in order to avoid reporting.”
It makes me want to feed them to the lions!

 

[Sees]

Teasing/tormenting is one of the reasons we first considered home schooling our kids until they are a bit older and fellow students are more mature on average. Hard to imagine just how many people retain damaged outlooks and attitudes from it well into adulthood.

I think a big issue is so many parents hoping the school system and peers somehow raise their children correctly for them - instead what they so often get is social craziness and poor education.

 

[MARCELLO]

Teasing/tormenting is one of the reasons we first considered home schooling our kids until they are a bit older and fellow students are more mature on average. Hard to imagine just how many people retain damaged outlooks and attitudes from it well into adulthood.

I think a big issue is so many parents hoping the school system and peers somehow raise their children correctly for them - instead what they so often get is social craziness and poor education.

These kind of bullying occur AT PEAK when you are about 12-13 years old and continues up to roughly 18 . A bullied child will hardly complain about this because that will make them look weaker.

 

[Curious George]

Teasing is a form of manipulation. What is the difference between teasing and bullying? I believe that a further look would reveal we all have different lines. Is teasing on any level okay, if so how much is acceptable? If not, why?

Does teasing/bullying now or has it ever played an evolutionary purpose? Does it help us function?

Is controlling or manipulating others' behavior important? If so ought we employ teasing or bullying in an attempt to push conformity? What better methods exist?

 

[MARCELLO]

Don't take it racial, a snow white guy having big ears and a big mouth will always be called a monkey. A stutterer child is also always open to bullying. A red hair guy among blackheads is always a traffic stop light, a small eyed asian is always a chang ching chong. These are the kids' behavior and you simply cannot kick them out of school for these kind of things.

Teasing is a form of manipulation. What is the difference between teasing and bullying? I believe that a further look would reveal we all have different lines. Is teasing on any level okay, if so how much is acceptable? If not, why?

Does teasing/bullying now or has it ever played an evolutionary purpose? Does it help us function?

Is controlling or manipulating others' behavior important? If so ought we employ teasing or bullying in an attempt to push conformity? What better methods exist?

It does not help anything but turns our lives into hell. And you cannot put the kids in jail for the terrible things they are doing, as they grow up they understand and feel sorry for what they have done, I have my ''wonderful'' school friends who beg for my pardon for what they have done to me at school on facebook and other intersocial platforms . Still when I recall my old memories, I don't feel comfortable although I accept them.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

If so ought we employ teasing or bullying in an attempt to push conformity?

It is something that should NEVER be resorted to. And, no, it doesn't help us function, especially when those in authority side with the bullies. It destroys and tears down people, it makes it extremely difficult to reach out and trust people (especially when people you called a "friend" joins in on the bullying so they don't get bullied themselves), and instead of having fun and forming those fun memories that your supposed to in school, school becomes hell, you hate being there, and you become an anxious wreck who develops stress related health problems (even young). And, yes, it really happens that schools do dismiss it as "teasing" and say the bullied kid "over reacted," or in my case was the one who was causing trouble, when they do stand up for themselves.

 

[Curious George]

It is something that should NEVER be resorted to. And, no, it doesn't help us function, especially when those in authority side with the bullies. It destroys and tears down people, it makes it extremely difficult to reach out and trust people (especially when people you called a "friend" joins in on the bullying so they don't get bullied themselves), and instead of having fun and forming those fun memories that your supposed to in school, school becomes hell, you hate being there, and you become an anxious wreck who develops stress related health problems (even young). And, yes, it really happens that schools do dismiss it as "teasing" and say the bullied kid "over reacted," or in my case was the one who was causing trouble, when they do stand up for themselves.

Sounds like an emotional response. The question is: do we want conformity? If not teasing/bullying what else?

 

[Curious George]

Don't take it racial, a snow white guy having big ears and a big mouth will always be called a monkey. A stutterer child is also always open to bullying. A red hair guy among blackheads is always a traffic stop light, a small eyed asian is always a chang ching chong. These are the kids' behavior and you simply cannot kick them out of school for these kind of things.


It does not help anything but turns our lives into hell. And you cannot put the kids in jail for the terrible things they are doing, as they grow up they understand and feel sorry for what they have done, I have my ''wonderful'' school friends who beg for my pardon for what they have done to me at school on facebook and other intersocial platforms . Still when I recall my old memories, I don't feel comfortable although I accept them.

Yes I get that teasing or bullying was not enjoyable for you. But how else do we bring about conformity?

 

[SomeRandom]

Yes I get that teasing or bullying was not enjoyable for you. But how else do we bring about conformity?

Positive reinforcement?

 

[Saint Frankenstein]

Yes I get that teasing or bullying was not enjoyable for you. But how else do we bring about conformity?

Why should conformity be encouraged?

 

[Twilight Hue]

I think anyone who is a bully should be dragged out of school and put into a bully school and let them all go for it.

They have one in my city. I used to pick up medical specimens there when I was a hospital courier. Hilarious and sad at the same time. Fights continually with bullies having bullies. Sad part is a lot of them are pretty much destined for violent crime.

 

[Saint Frankenstein]

Bullying should be treated as criminal harassment.

 

[MARCELLO]

But the strange thing is that a bullied child may also bully others. A bullied feminine guy may get involved in the bullying team against the fat guy,sort of revenge maybe.

 

[MD]

I got bullied a lot. Was a sweet, innocent, really fat kid before coming to the ghetto. Got beat up and bullied a lot, learned how to fight, how to lift and that most people are selfish animals. Liberal weak principals and teachers let criminal element types continue to terrorize, those with the strength to stand against them were eventually killed or ran away later on in life.

I'll make sure my kids are trained like Spartans so that no one will ever f with them.

 

[psychoslice]

They have one in my city. I used to pick up medical specimens there when I was a hospital courier. Hilarious and sad at the same time. Fights continually with bullies having bullies. Sad part is a lot of them are pretty much destined for violent crime.

That's sad, but still if these kids are going to grow up violent towards others, isn't it best to get rid of them for the sake of all, I do.

 

[MARCELLO]

I got bullied a lot. Was a sweet, innocent, really fat kid before coming to the ghetto. Got beat up and bullied a lot, learned how to fight, how to lift and that most people are selfish animals. Liberal weak principals and teachers let criminal element types continue to terrorize, those with the strength to stand against them were eventually killed or ran away later on in life.

I'll make sure my kids are trained like Spartans so that no one will ever f with them.

Being bullied for the things that there is a possibility to change ( also good for your health) is something different. Our bullying was so solid.

 

[MysticSang'ha]

Teasing/tormenting is one of the reasons we first considered home schooling our kids until they are a bit older and fellow students are more mature on average. Hard to imagine just how many people retain damaged outlooks and attitudes from it well into adulthood.

I think a big issue is so many parents hoping the school system and peers somehow raise their children correctly for them - instead what they so often get is social craziness and poor education.

My daughter is about ready to get her G.E.D. on her 17th birthday after a life of homeschooling. I don't regret a single day of giving her relief from the kind of bullying I've seen and heard from our three older sons. She has no body image issues, no self-confidence issues, and the extra-curriculur activity we put her in was karate (she's a black belt).

Even out of her G.E.D. class, she's currently in the top tier. She's excited to get it, then work her butt off in retail before moving out west.

We as a family are steadfast and united against bullying. My son Tyler was suspended for half a day at school once because he pushed over a bully who was freely kicking little kids off swings. Their zero-tolerance policy resulted in nothing happening to the bully, my son getting suspended, and me and my husband taking my son out for pizza and ice cream to congratulate him on what he did that day.

He was Prom King at his high school's senior prom, btw. Not a troublemaker, but stands against bullying at all times.