An honest question for women ...

[Chisti]

... especially women who complain that they're being sexually objectified. Would you mind if a good-looking person were to objectify you? Are you offended only when ugly people do that?

Just an honest question.

 

[Madhuri]

I am more disappointed with the nature of human males than offended by it.
I am offended though, when a guy puts on the act, thinking I'm stupid enough to actually believe he thinks I'm special when it's as clear as day that he just wants sex.

Men are just a disappointment. I wish I was a lesbian.

 

[Draka]

Honestly, how I feel about being treated in a sexual manner all has to do with who is doing it and how. Some drunk stranger, no matter how he looks, can take his crude remarks and grabby hands elsewhere. Guy friends who are more joking in their actions and words I have more tolerance for. In fact, I had a friend of mine I worked with while in the Navy that could easily get away with making remarks while the other guys could not. Because he and I were genuinely friends and we razzed each other back and forth in good nature. When one of the other guys did it it just wasn't the same. It wasn't good-natured and was most often crude.

For me, how I respond and how I feel really does have to do with who the person is and how they mean it, not what they look like.

 

[Madhuri]

Honestly, how I feel about being treated in a sexual manner all has to do with who is doing it and how. Some drunk stranger, no matter how he looks, can take his crude remarks and grabby hands elsewhere. Guy friends who are more joking in their actions and words I have more tolerance for. In fact, I had a friend of mine I worked with while in the Navy that could easily get away with making remarks while the other guys could not. Because he and I were genuinely friends and we razzed each other back and forth in good nature. When one of the other guys did it it just wasn't the same. It wasn't good-natured and was most often crude.

For me, how I respond and how I feel really does have to do with who the person is and how they mean it, not what they look like.

If the guy is your friend and making jokes he probably wasn't actually objectifying you which is why you were not offended.

 

[zenzero]

Friend Madhuri,

Men are just a disappointment. I wish I was a lesbian.

Did anyone stop you for being a *lesbian*??

Sexual acts can be
1. Just a release of energy by most
2. Sex can be emotional
3. Sex can be an act of meditation
4. Transcend sex through meditation and be asexual.
Most emotional affairs too lose steam down the line like any other forms of attachments and very difficult to find someone like Nityanand Swami who claims to take partners for the 3rd kind BE SIDES the last and fourth is where finally one is reaching.

Love & rgds

 

[Madhuri]

Lol, Zenzero, I assume you are joking. Good one :clap

 

[Pegg]

I am more disappointed with the nature of human males than offended by it.
I am offended though, when a guy puts on the act, thinking I'm stupid enough to actually believe he thinks I'm special when it's as clear as day that he just wants sex.

Men are just a disappointment. I wish I was a lesbian.

haha

 

[MissAlice]

... especially women who complain that they're being sexually objectified. Would you mind if a good-looking person were to objectify you? Are you offended only when ugly people do that?

Just an honest question.

No I'd rather be treated as a person than an object. Attractive men are unattractive in a hurry once they start treating you like a prostitute or something that is beneath them. What really gets me is the men and even women who go by this mentality that when a woman is objectified to the point of rape, she was asking for it. No woman in her right mind wants to be treated like a piece of crap just because she wants or doesn't want to attract a man. But that's just my opinion. I suppose we all objectify to a certain degree when we're attracted to someone. It all depends on your actions and how you treat that person. This is cliche but I always go by the motto "treat people the way you'd want to be treated".

 

[Pegg]

its offensive no matter who it comes from!

 

[McBell]

... especially women who complain that they're being sexually objectified. Would you mind if a good-looking person were to objectify you? Are you offended only when ugly people do that?

Just an honest question.

Something that I find interesting is how it seems that the women who are the most offended by being objectified are the ones who expose the most breast, wear the tightest pants, the shortest shorts, the skin tight sweaters, etc.


Seems a bit hypocritical to me.

 

[Chisti]

Something that I find interesting is how it seems that the women who are the most offended by being objectified are the ones who expose the most breast, wear the tightest pants, the shortest shorts, the skin tight sweaters, etc.


Seems a bit hypocritical to me.

They do all this to attract handsome men. But when that doesn't work and they're instead approached by the not-so-handsome men, they're upset and frustrated.

 

[zenzero]

Friend Madhuri,

I assume you are joking.

That is your perception; and one knows what perception means!
Do understand that the path of GYAN yoga one needs to know through discussions, reading, understanding whatever thought the mind is kept occupied with must be taken to its extreme to be able to transcend the issue once and for all.

Love & rgds
Love & rgds

 

[MissAlice]

Something that I find interesting is how it seems that the women who are the most offended by being objectified are the ones who expose the most breast, wear the tightest pants, the shortest shorts, the skin tight sweaters, etc.


Seems a bit hypocritical to me.

Not all women. I certainly don't wear tight clothes due to it being a comfort issue or try to expose my breasts in public. But if we're talking about revealing clothes like a pair of shorts and a t-shirt that exposes arms, I suppose I fit that description.

 

[McBell]

Not all women. I certainly don't wear tight clothes due to it being a comfort issue or try to expose my breasts in public. But if we're talking about revealing clothes like a pair of shorts and a t-shirt that exposes arms, I suppose I fit that description.

Are you one of the type of women I spoke of?
Are you most greatly offended by people objectifying you?

 

[MissAlice]

Friend Madhuri,


Did anyone stop you for being a *lesbian*??

Sexual acts can be
1. Just a release of energy by most
2. Sex can be emotional
3. Sex can be an act of meditation
4. Transcend sex through meditation and be asexual.
Most emotional affairs too lose steam down the line like any other forms of attachments and very difficult to find someone like Nityanand Swami who claims to take partners for the 3rd kind BE SIDES the last and fourth is where finally one is reaching.

Love & rgds

LOL. I don't think you can force someone to be attracted to a gender they're not attracted to. But I like what you say about the rest. Trouble is most of society only perceives sex more or less as purely a physical act and nothing more. I think this is where the problem is maybe why women have a harder time with sex than men. We want something more than just physical pleasure...not all women btw.

 

[MissAlice]

Are one of the type of women I spoke of?
Are you most greatly offended by people objectifying you?

No and yes. I don't like having men grab me without permission or guys who thinks it's ok to touch women inappropriately. I've had this happen to me and I don't think it's ok.

 

[McBell]

No and yes. I don't like having men grab me without permission or guys who thinks it's ok to touch women inappropriately. I've had this happen to before and I don't think it's ok.

um...
What does physical assault have to do with objectification?

 

[Vendetta]

Madhuri I hope your comment about men was a joke

 

[Vendetta]

Mestemia I agree. Its a paradox here in Cali.....big breasted women who dress scantily clad, hate when unattractive men touch them, but if its some rich stud personal space goes out the door

 

[Madhuri]

Madhuri I hope your comment about men was a joke

Nope, unfortunately. As a woman looking for love this society is very cruel to me. The only men I meet who seem genuinely respectful and serious and somewhat trustworthy are at least twice my age.