namaskaram Vinayaka ji
I have a dilemma, and would like some insight, fellow Hindus.
I've come to this realisation (actually for a long time now) that I sometimes anger people on the forum. It FEELS like bad karma. It seems adharmic to do that, whether intentional or not. In real life, it's easier, because you do get to know which buttons not too push. Here it's not so easy.
I am sure we all anger each other at times , .....but the important thing is not to take the differences personaly most of times it is down to different veiw points due to sect , .....so in some respect it is natural that we will acedentaly offend another simply by showing pride in our own tradition , ....
it depends what you mean by angering a person , ....there are two possibilities here, .... either one angers a person by speaking out unfairly against their tradition , ....Ok yes this is Bad Karma .....
or one speaks out against something which is in some way detrimental , ...which if done without malice or without personal oppinion , ... is nish karma ....it has no reaction , ...you are simply doing your duty , Ok the person may not like it but some truths are uncomfortable (only to the ego) and need to be said for the persons wellbeing and spiritual growth ....
some times I say things which I am sure will upset some people , (this is mostly on practical points) , ...When they ask direct questions , ..''can I do this ? can I do that ?'' ...simple answer NO ! .....what are we supposed to do ? lie ? ...or we can gently say ''well if you do this, .. that will happen'' then the choice is theirs , ...actualy it would be an offence for a senior to egnore a younger adept making mistakes and not try to correct them in some way , ...directly or gently . ...either way it is not easy but it needs to be done and as a senior one needs to do it with out any attatchment to whether one is liked or dissliked .
Often, to me, it feels like I am merely expressing a point of view. The other person disagrees, gets in a huff, and tells me off. Then I feel like I shouldn't have said or written anything at all. (Often I go delete all my posts even.) I don't feel like I (or anybody really) should be in the business of angering people.
If the question is , ...do we anger a person by telling the truth , or do we remain silent and let that person make a mistake,?..... in this instance then we need to find the best way possible in the situation of telling it as it should be , ... but we dont have to be attatched to the outcome , ....
If it is a question of angering another by giving ones own opinion just for the sake of having an opinion ??? ...then we all need to double check where that oppinion is coming from .
please rest assured you are not the oly one with oppinions
Here are a couple of examples ... mentioning that not all sects believe something and having a person of a different sect take offense ..
Heee Heee , .... I am sure you have done this to me on occasions , ......to which I might mildly go ...Grrrrr ....''Talk about stating the obvious !!! ''. ...but what might be obvious to me might not be obvious to another so It may well be usefull to someone else reading a post , ...so realy it dosent matter so much .
... mentioning syncretism isn't that wide in Hinduism,
I must admit this whole idea of syncretism was an un known to me untill I got here , ....where there seems to be an obsession with labeling ones beleifs , ...and labeling others ! ....to me this is not so healthy , ....people have to go through stages of beleif and exploration untill they find their true home , may be you and I are lucky in that it found us and we recognised it , .....I do find that many people here who are of a firm faith and belong to a fixed tradition do talk in what 'Sounds Like' a condecending tone to those they veiw as syncretic , ....may be it has to happen , ..it is a part of that persons way of finding their true place , ...may be not in this life and not even the next , but I think a tollerance is needed here from all not you in particular .
... mentioning socialism around capitalists
Had not noticed it , ...I stay out of political posts , ...talking religion is enough , ....
Should I just shut up already?
No , ...if things are bothering you its good to get them out , ....you might just realise that you are worring about something relitively un important , ...and thats not good (worrying)...
I'm sure everyone does it, and many might feel like I do on some days. But, in terms of sadhana, or in terms of self-reflection, what do you do about it? Cause I really don't like it.
dont worry so much, ..If you feel you have offended someone , .........just say sorry Prabhu , may be prabhu will even say dont worry it's nothing , ....in terms of sadhana , ...all we can all do is try to relax and understand anothers point of veiw , ...after all we are all conditioned souls , ....we still have veiws and opinions , ...and tolerance levels , ...etc , ..etc, ...
One thing I've done is put a couple of overly sensitive people on ignore. So then I can't see their reaction, or respond to one of their posts in a way that would make them angry.
make them angry ? ............or make you angry ?
I never put anybody on ignore. It wouldn't even occur to me. Because in real life, it doesn't really work that way.
Im with Shiva fan on this one , ...
