Angering people

[Kirran]

what now we are stoping for picnic too , ..well yes I supose it is a long way from Shiv ji's to Vinayaka ji's stoping for devotees on the way , ....OK I'll bring Barfi my husband makes wonderfull chapatis and we just bought lage suply of okra and karela , ....

Well we have a long journey from the UK to Alberta, we'll need to stop for eating, for hatha yoga, for meditation, for puja. We'll arrive sometime next week maybe...

 

[ratikala]

we just need to take this nice idea and build nice bus , .....

 

[Windwalker]

I don't put people on ignore because they anger ME. I put them on ignore as a courtesy to THEM, so they don't anger themselves from something I say. So it's far less likely to say something to them if you can't respond. Pushing someone's buttons, especially purposefully, is adharmic.

The problem is when you put people on ignore whom you constantly anger, you are not learning anything about yourself from them. Maybe they have a legitimate point of view you don't want to hear. In other words, you may not be protecting them, but yourself from doing some sincere introspection and growing from it.

 

[ratikala]

band and dancing can follow along behind , ....

Oh no , ...I will definatly be on egnore now for derailing thread and being Too noisy , ...oh dear that is Hindus for you a noisy happy bunch .....

 

[Aupmanyav]

That will be a nice journey. Leisurely. How much fun children can have on the way? What all comments they can make on the passers-by? Life is not what it used to be.

 

[Aupmanyav]

Oh no , ...I will definatly be on egnore now for derailing thread and being Too noisy , ...oh dear that is Hindus for you a noisy happy bunch .....

No egnore, you are a Vaishnava. Rajasthan, Kalbelia dance, the dance of the ladies ot snake charmers. Marriage procession, has to be noisy, the occasion is such. The ladies of the groom's family may join at the gate of the reception area arranged by the bride's family, fire-works. Punjabis specially take a long time to arrive at the bride's place. If the arrival of Barat time (arrival of the grooms party at the venue of the marriage) is 8 pm/9 pm, you may rest assured that the groom will not arrive before 11 pm, his friends dancing and drinking liquor all the way.

 

[atanu]

I have a dilemma, and would like some insight, fellow Hindus.

I've come to this realisation (actually for a long time now) that I sometimes anger people on the forum. It FEELS like bad karma. It seems adharmic to do that, whether intentional or not. In real life, it's easier, because you do get to know which buttons not too push. Here it's not so easy.

Often, to me, it feels like I am merely expressing a point of view. The other person disagrees, gets in a huff, and tells me off. Then I feel like I shouldn't have said or written anything at all. (Oftyen I go delete all my posts even.) I don't feel like I (or anybody really) should be in the business of angering people.
Here are a couple of examples ... mentioning that not all sects believe something and having a person of a different sect take offense ..
... mentioning syncretism isn't that wide in Hinduism,
... mentioning socialism around capitalists

Should I just shut up already?

I'm sure everyone does it, and many might feel like I do on some days. But, in terms of sadhana, or in terms of self-reflection, what do you do about it? Cause I really don't like it.

One thing I've done is put a couple of overly sensitive people on ignore. So then I can't see their reaction, or respond to one of their posts in a way that would make them angry.

Hello dear Vinayaka

This is an honest and courageous post. I respect you for this.

To me the answer has been evident for long but the end of trouble is yet to be attained. And I think that this is true for most of us. Let me cite from scripture:

Isha Upanishad

6. And he who beholds all beings in the Self, and the Self in all beings, he never turns away from it 2.

7. When to a man who understands, the Self has become all things, what sorrow, what trouble can there be to him who once beheld that unity?

 

[atanu]

Hello dear Vinayaka

This is an honest and courageous post. I respect you for this.

To me the answer has been evident for long but the end of trouble is yet to be attained. And I think that this is true for most of us. Let me cite from scripture:

Isha Upanishad

6. And he who beholds all beings in the Self, and the Self in all beings, he never turns away from it 2.

7. When to a man who understands, the Self has become all things, what sorrow, what trouble can there be to him who once beheld that unity?

I re read my post and thought that a clarification might be required. The above post was to highlight my difficulty and not of any one else.