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Godlike said:Absolutely, yes, no-one would deny that. But in child-rearing, the mother is more important overall.
Tigress said:Perhaps we should define 'male influence?' What is that, exactly?
Ciscokid said:In my experience, a good 'male influence' will help a child when they have major decisions to make in life. Also a male influence will help keep a child in line with stern discipline.
Tigress said:Okay, but women can do those things too. So again, what is 'male influence' exactly? What is it that is unique to a male that children need in their upbringing?
nutshell said:It is well documented that girls who don't have an attachment to a male figure (such as a father) will generally seek that attachment wherever they can find it, often leading to many bad situations.
I agree with this statement wholeheartedly. And also agree that it's well documented. Personally, I grew up without a father and had little experience knowing what a good man was. I thought if someone paid attention to me....they were good. I found myself in a situation that was potentially life threatening because of my intense need for a constant male companionship. I am lucky to be alive today. I've made sure my daughter doesn't suffer the same situations.nutshell said:It is well documented that girls who don't have an attachment to a male figure (such as a father) will generally seek that attachment wherever they can find it, often leading to many bad situations.
Tigress said:Okay, but women can do those things too. So again, what is 'male influence' exactly? What is it that is unique to a male that children need in their upbringing?
Jensa said:Why can't they just learn how to interact with people? Do standards for interaction need to be changed that much based on sex?
If it does, I must be doing something wrong. With the exception of relationship-interest, I treat my male and female friends pretty much the same with regards to how I interact with them.
I agree. Men tend to be much more easy going about things that women get their panties in a bunch over, namely interpersonal relational perceived slights. Sometimes one or two words said by another person will bug the hell out of a woman for days. Men for the most part just shrug it off.Ciscokid said:There are differences between men and women, they do tend to handle things in different manners. Women on average do tend to handle things with much more emotion than men do.
Is this an innate thing, or is this a 'learned' thing?--Are they seeking out a certain personality trait, or are they simply seeking testosterone, because that's the way they're 'wired?' Does their sexuality play a role?--I'd be curious to find out these things.nutshell said:It is well documented that girls who don't have an attachment to a male figure (such as a father) will generally seek that attachment wherever they can find it, often leading to many bad situations.
Sure there is.--Generally, it's easier to manage work and a child when there's two of you, as opposed to one. And no doubt the man was the sole provider in many of these families, as the trend has been in our society.--Also, if the child knows he has a father, he may be more inclined to miss him, and thus suffer psychologically, and the same if he sees his mother missing him.Ciscokid said:Again, I ask the forum, why does the black community say that they are sorely in need of fathers to stay with the family's they start? There must be a reason!
Again, how much of that is innate, and how much is 'learned?'--I'm not waving you off, I'm simply curious. This is an interesting topic.I can't count how many women I've spoken to who have said "oh gosh I can't stand working with a bunch of women!".
There are differences between men and women, they do tend to handle things in different manners. Women on average do tend to handle things with much more emotion than men do.
Men tend to automatically try to "fix" things rather than step back and look at the bigger picture at times.
Buttercup said:I agree. Men tend to be much more easy going about things that women get their panties in a bunch over, namely interpersonal relational perceived slights. Sometimes one or two words said by another person will bug the hell out of a woman for days. Men for the most part just shrug it off.
standing_on_one_foot said:I think loving parents are necessary for raising a kid, more than specifically men and women...generally this does involve men...
So yeah, men are necessary as people when it comes to raising kids, sure. The men in my life were important, but it was more important that they were there than that they were men...Probably having a good mix of different adults for kids to be around is the best possible thing, so that should include men and women.
That's definitely not why I hate working with women. I hate working with women because believe it or not, women are more manipulative, twisted and backstabbing with other women than they are with men. Female competition is really nothing like male competition. I'd take a fistfight over the psychodrama any day.Ciscokid said:I can't count how many women I've spoken to who have said "oh gosh I can't stand working with a bunch of women!".
There are differences between men and women, they do tend to handle things in different manners. Women on average do tend to handle things with much more emotion than men do.
Men tend to automatically try to "fix" things rather than step back and look at the bigger picture at times.
That's very interesting since that's basically the same thing I said several pages ago...Tigress said:That I definitely agree with.
MaddLlama said:If it's well documented, then I'm sure you wouldn't mind providing some of it for us...
Well, speaking as someone who gets no particular enjoyment from male castration (how'd that come into this?) but is still sometimes a bit of a skeptic when it comes to gender-related studies, I think it would be interesting to see some, if you know where I could find them.nutshell said:Whatever, llama. I'll get around to it when I feel like it. The tone of your posts implies you'll disagree regardless of what's posted. I hope all you feminists are enjoying the castration of men.
Victor said:I found this interesting:
http://www.drlaura.com/reading/index.html?mode=view&id=363
Dr. Meg Meeker, a pediatrician specializing in adolescent health and author of Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know warns that the absence of traditional masculinity and father-daughter interactions may explain your daughter's need for antibiotics, anti-depressants, and stimulants.
"I strongly urge fathers to be nurturers, teachers, and protectors," says Dr. Meeker. "An elemental truth of human nature-particularly in the family unit-is that women equally need men, yet young girls have absorbed the ridiculous feminist notion that women only need women. Unfortunately, there are dire consequences when a father buys into this 'political correctness.'"
Meeker warns that today's fathers feel an overwhelming sense of alienation, having been pushed aside and devalued by feminist rhetoric. Meeker challenges this attack on traditional masculinity and arms readers current research to show fathers how to strengthen-or rebuild-their bond with their daughter. and how it will shape their lives for the better.
Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters proves to fathers how essential their role is in parenting their daughters and teaching them leadership, humility, and courage. Meeker exposes the alarming statistics of suicide rates, sexually transmitted diseases, and eating disorders in young girls who don't have strong relationships with their fathers, or have no fathers at all.