I'm not going to judge, but I would not want to be judged by man or God if I had an agreement like that.
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Are there any grounds for asserting that open marriages (marriages in which both partners willingly allow each other to have sexual partners outside the marriage) are immoral? If so, what are those grounds?
It's quite dangerous to think that way about morality. Morality divorced from circumstances is morality divorced from reality.
Kant would disagree. see: Metaphysics of Morals.
On the other hand, it's easy enough to understand that once pigs who have had bad luck are persuaded to worship chastity—and there are such swine!—they see in chastity only their opposite, the opposite to unlucky pigs, and will worship that—and with such zealous tragic grunting! We can imagine it—that embarrassing and unnecessary antithesis, which Richard Wagner at the end of his life unquestioningly still wanted to set to music and produce on stage. What on earth for? That's a fair question. For why should he be concerned about pigs? Why should we?
So if it weren't for what you take as God's commandments that prohibit open marriages, you'd have no moral problem with the practice?Yup.
God.
It's none of my business either, but I do get the impression that an open marriage can be a risky situation, even despite the initial good feelings of the spouses. Doing something that stands a good chance of making your spouse very unhappy can often be considered immoral, IMO.While Nanda is right that it is none of my business, I think open marriages are very immoral.
Even if both parties agree, there is a chance that bad feelings sooner or later may creep in, I have heard people who used to be in an open marriage say as much. There is a chance that no bad feelings will ever come in, but I personally would not take any chances with my marriage.
While Nanda is right that it is none of my business, I think open marriages are very immoral.
Even if both parties agree, there is a chance that bad feelings sooner or later may creep in, I have heard people who used to be in an open marriage say as much.
doppelgänger;972663 said:Nietzsche would agree however. See: Genealogy of Morals.
So if it weren't for what you take as God's commandments that prohibit open marriages, you'd have no moral problem with the practice?
I know a married couple who have an open marriage and are extremely happy with it. Of course they have certain rules to go along with their open relationship to keep them both safe and happy, and to help ensure that no bad feelings enter the relationship over their extra-marital...socializing. The wife is bisexual, and they both spend a lot of time away from each other because of work. So, they are both allowed to sleep with women outside of their relationship. And it is just sex, no emotional attachment.Is it possible that some people would actually be happier in an open marriage than in a "closed" monogamous marriage?
*raises hand* You must be talking about me?And I know plenty of former Christians who have told me that bad feelings for Christianity eventually crept in, and they had to divorce themselves from the religion. That doesn't mean it's going to happen to you, or that your belief in Christ is wrong because they eventually found it to be wrong for them. Everything's relative, you see.
I think it's possible to love more than one person...but I've never met anyone that would be able to handle sharing someone or being shared without major problems eventually arising (not that there isn't someone capable of it, I just have yet to meet/hear of them). Jealousy, favoritism, feelings of being in a one-sided relationship, doubts, etc. can all cause difficulties.Is it not also possible to love more than one person? I'm not sure why having an "emotional relationship" with another person should ruin a marriege.
It seems to be the "choose one or the other" attitude that causes problems.
Though I suppose it can be difficult to share a person. And maybe it is good to be happy with who you have.
Meh, I don't know. It's all up to the people involved and none of my business.
Are there any grounds for asserting that open marriages (marriages in which both partners willingly allow each other to have sexual partners outside the marriage) are immoral? If so, what are those grounds?
Maybe it has never occurred to anyone that if a couple decides to have an open marriage that it may be a sign that the marriage is in trouble already.
I really don't know what having a open marriage and maybe having trouble with it down the road has anything to do with someone leaving Christianity. That is not a comparison I would make.
And, believe it or not, I have a bias, too. A few years ago, I decided to allow my husband (very grudgingly) to find a woman who would satisfy him in a certain way I was unable to do. It ruined our marriage completely. I didn't really want him to do this in the first place. My husbands morals certainly don't match mine.