Ok Madhuri you asked for it. I have some impolite questions.
I can handle anything!
-Your honest take on your experience with Iskcon.
I loved growing up in ISKCON but in my teens I was exposed to a nasty side of it. I realised how extreme and cultish it can be (although I think it has improved somewhat over time)
-How Iskcon differs from the rest of the Gaudiya Vaishnava community?
I haven't witnessed a great deal of difference between each GV sect. But I've only been exposed to ISKCON, the Gaudiya Math (specifically under direction of Narayana Maharaj) and the Sri Chaitanya Saraswat Math. I don't think the differences are even worth noting as they are so minor and seem politically motivated.
-I view Vaishnava sects as being the most literalist do you agree with this assessment and how do you deal with it.
I do agree with this statement. I am personally dealing with it by being withdrawn from institutional teachings and trying to figure out truth for myself. I feel that I can be a devotee of Krishna, for example, without having to literally believe the stories in the Puranas or Vedas.
Having said that, I do not completely object to a literalist perspective. I am open to the idea that stories are a mix of literal and allegorical. But I feel that the moral and philosophy behind the stories, literal or not, is the most important aspect and so am not attached to the idea of stories being literally true or not.
-Do you think Impersonalist can become enlightened.
Absolutely. It's kind of ridiculous to think otherwise.
-Your take on premarital sex as a Hindu.
Not recommendable, especially in a non-modern context when it almost inevitably lead to huge problems.
But even with our contraception and liberal attitudes toward marriage and relationships, it is still not recommendable.
In the context of spiritual development, I think that sex for pleasure alone and outside of marriage/commitment is detrimental. However, I do not think that life is black and white. A person can have pre-marital sex and then go on to attaining moksha. A person can have pre-marital sex and find no negative consequences.
I think there is good reason for pre-marital sex to be discouraged, but most importantly we need to realise how it can affect us and others and be prepared to take (karmic) responsibility for our actions if things do go wrong (ie/ unwanted pregnancy, disease, heartbreak etc).