For the big/serious stuff I accept the reality that can be shared and corroborated with others.
Go into any church and you will find a reality shared and corroborated by nearly everyone there. That's a pretty good definition of a religion, in fact. And if numbers are your determinant, the theists have it hands down. So as right as you think that reality paradigm of yours is, it doesn't stand on the merits that you, yourself, just ascribed to it.
Man... do you not get that these "problems" literally do not need solving?
Clearly they do, as you are here and expending so much energy on it. And as you are clearly bothered by the fact that the majority of your fellow humans are perceiving reality differently than you are. This bothers you. Angers you, even, judging by your posts. You don't understand it and you won't understand it as long as you keep condemning it in advance of that understanding.
I'm not a 'believer'. And I'm not religious. But I do at least understand how and why so many people are. And I can appreciate it to the extend that it deserved to be appreciated. It took me a while to let go of my bias against religion and to figure it out. But I got there, eventually, and I'm glad I did.
Of course I hold beliefs... but I attempt to make sure that ALL of them are built on the reality we experience as a shared thing
No, actually you don't, as I pointed out, above. You just 'believe' you do, and refuse to doubt this belief. Churches are full of people who have built their reality on their shared experiences. And their experience of reality then confirms their conceptualizations of it just as yours do. Because that's how it is for we humans. We live in the world that we think is the world; however we understand it.
What I CAN detect, witness, rationalize to be as true as I can muster, etc. That's one of my core principals.
That's everyone's core principal. The problem is that what you detect, witness, and how you rationalize it is all based on the reality paradigm that you already hold to be sacrosanct. And you're angrily dismissing as "crap" anything that doesn't comply with that paradigm. So you're stuck there, imprisoned by your own unrelenting bias. You don't have to agree with theism or religion to understand them, and make peace with them. But you do have to understand them.And yoy can't do that from behind that wall of self-righteousness.
I also told you EXACTLY why I go after everyone who instead relies on whatever makes them feel warm a fuzzy to go on about things... because many of them try their hardest to make sure I do the same, or am shamed or ostracized as a result of refusing.
It sounds a lot like YOUR methodology, though, doesn't it.
The thing is this is how we humans tend to respond to each other. We all want to be in control of everything. To "know what's really going on". It's not a particularly religious, political, economic, philosophical, or social condition; it's just the human condition. And as a human, you are subject to it as well. But you can rise above it ... by understanding the human condition better, and by understanding why we are the way we are. Religion comes as naturally to we humans as sex and warfare does. And we need to understand these things if we ever hope to gain any real control over them. Calling them "crap" isn't understanding, and isn't going to lead to an understanding.
And what I do, specifically, is try to make them understand why it is that they have no valid basis for believing as they do.
Well that's sure a fool's errand! You can't make anyone understand anything. You can't even make yourself understand. Force is useless in the face of ignorance. The only thing that works is honesty, humility, and curiosity. And you can only develop these within yourself. No one else.
I try to make them see that every belief they hold onto that contains elements of completely dubious or unknowable nature is part of a double-standard they are employing that does not get used in any other avenue of their lives
My! Now if you only had a mirror!
Welcome to the human condition!