atheists are talking about the God they do not believe in all the time.
I don't think atheists are actually asking theists about gods. They're asking why theist who are explaining their beliefs why they believe them and why they don't.
You and I have exchanged thousands of words over a few years, and I've never asked you about the God you believe in. I don't know if you believe your God is a trinity, came to earth as Jesus, created the earth a few thousand years ago or billions of years ago, lives in heaven, is surrounded by angels, sends souls to hell, etc., because what you believe (your theology) isn't important to an unbeliever, but why you believe it.
The reason I enjoy this activity is because I like to exercise my mind. The discussion doesn't need to be about religion at all. Any faith based thinking will do. It can be politics (election hoax) or vaccines as well.
Why? Apart from enjoying writing, constructing argument, identifying logical fallacies, and reading the opinions of other secular humanists, I find value surveying the spectrum of types we find here on RF. I notice how faith-based thinkers vary from those that I can't find any difference in their thinking and mine apart from the fact that they claim to be theists.
On the other extreme, we find people so affected by their religious beliefs that they think and behave nothing like the secular humanists. I look at the relative number of types along that spectrum to see the effect that their religion has on them compared to those living outside of religion. I can compare the thinking of the Abrahamics and the dharmics. I can compare liberal Catholics to conservative, fundamentalist Protestants. I get to see how these all vary from those calling themselves pagans or on the left-hand path. And much of this is done through question and answer. I've found the thinking of the dharmics and Satanists surprisingly compatible with my own. I don't get this type of education or interaction with believers anywhere else.
It's really nothing like what many theists claim - that unbelievers who query them have a nagging hunch that there is a God, and are either drawn to the religious because of this, or else are rebellious and immoral hedonists trying to escape accountability. I'm reminded of a scene in the movie Poltergeist, where a young girl is being told that the collection of ghosts haunting them are drawn to the light of her purity and goodness, ever wandering aimlessly in despair, searching for what they know not. I think that's how many theists like to see unbelievers who are asking them questions. But I'm not really interested in the particulars of their beliefs, just how their beliefs affect them.
So now you know why I'm here, and I presume many others as well. It's not to talk about gods.
I still stand my ground in saying that the Baha'i Faith moral code is compatible with reason, empathy, and benevolence.
OK. I don't know what you are taught, so I'll just accept your claim. You seem like a decent and caring person to me.
My point was that one doesn't need to consult a holy book for moral guidance, that those whose moral codes are derived from the combination of reason and empathy are at the cutting edge of issues involving human rights, justice, improving the quality of life for as many as possible, environmental concerns including global warming, and the like.
Some of the religious might also hold most of those values. You might. But many do not. In the States, 81% of white evangelicals voted for Trump, a seriously morally challenged person. That's incompatible with my values, and frankly, is an abomination.
all religions are not the same and they are not all like Christianity.
Agreed. As I said, I'm interested in surveying the various types of faith-based thinkers to get a better sense of how this affects them. Incidentally, I like your religion best among the Abrahamic choices. I've only seen one Baha'i on RF that was an intellectual and moral failure. They don't tend to make the same mistakes in science that I see so often from other theists I see arguing here, and their demeanor is almost always friendly, reasonable, and unemotional. I have yet to decide if that's more because of what they are taught or more because of what they are not taught. I haven't seen any, for example, bemoaning same sex marriage or calling climate change or vaccines a hoax.
I tend to think it's the latter, that Baha'is are subjected to less less religious indoctrination than most, allowing them to develop using reason and compassion more so than in some other religions. I'm seeing that a strong moral compass doesn't come from religion, but from lack of religion. But I might be wrong about that. I tend to think that way because I admire just about all of the secular humanists, and see that as being the result of not submitting to any religion at all.
Those are the kinds of things that make me anti-theist, and the feelings are not directed at the theists themselves, or all forms of theism. Just the organized, politicized forms of religion that turn people against reason and science, or make them homophobic or atheophobic, or want to impose their religious beliefs on a secular society, or get a walk regarding paying taxes. Such people have done considerable harm to America (the Canadians and Europeans seem to have mostly avoided this mess with religion that plagues America).
Those are my principle objections, not to theism or theists per se, but to how organized, zealous religion does damage to America in particular, and why I cheer its waning hegemony as judged by the trending in several religious self-identification polls done over the last several decades. I don't have any problem with either you or your faith. It's not for me, and it seems to serve some constructive purpose in you. You may have noticed that I've never tried to talk you out of it, either.