I didn't present all that as if every man does it all. But, why does any man do anything save clean himself? Male grooming habits stem from societal pressure and stereotype as well.
Father Heathen has a morning ritual. He's grossed out if his neck gets too hairy. He's not into hair not being shaved straight on the back of his head. He asks me to check and ensure that there's no hair poking out of his ears and nose. He asks me more than I ask him if his shirt looks alright and carries this comb thing that I bought him in his pocket and almost ceremoniously busts it out at random and combs his hair. "Hey baby, does my hair look alright?"
This is a dude who doesn't lack confidence and he's freaking adorable.
But, he's got these little "ticks" for lack of a better word. Certain things have to be a certain way or he's not happy.
I wouldn't over simplify the issue. Though, yes, I don't disagree that women have greater anxiety over such issues, I think it's imperative that we don't disregard the comparable anxieties that men face.
My husband won't leave the dang house if he hasn't showered. I will absolutely leave the house to pick up breakfast if I haven't showered. As long as I have clean clothes and have cleaned my face - I'm good.
He will not leave the house unless he smells heavenly. In fact, I can tell you with assuredly that I have always been with men who have smelled heavenly and would go outside to walk the dog without showering first. Even my ex husband would not leave the house (to work in dirt, yes, literal dirt) without a shower, first. FH is the same way. Come to think of it, my ex boyfriends were the same way. Maybe it's just me and I'm attracted to clean dudes, but, even my sisters' dudes are clean like that. They just don't go out into public if they aren't clean.
Me...I've gone to work for a half day before without makeup, and with just a quick wash down of all my girlie parts. I can do myself up quite pretty but when I'm not feeling it, I just don't do it.
Again, there's something a bit amiss with these chicks. And my husband will admit that he is a little OCD, as were the majority of the males that I've been blessed with in my lifetime.
Part of this is greatly self perception and self expectation as it is external pressure.
Yes. But, many men do. And their pressures often come from the same sources. I think sometimes it's less evident to women as to how much thought men place into their appearance as efforts are less apparent and men are typically less verbose when discussing that which makes them insecure.
I also think that women are greatly pressured by other women as much as they are generic societal pressure. Again, you're not going to be bothered but so much unless something tickles an insecurity.