Now you are evaluating God based on you opinion's. Your human understanding of morals. You indicate God doesn't attempt to warn us, how can you be sure. You do feel pain. You do get insights.
However, even if God built pain into our systems with this purpose of producing "warning", it is a system on auto-pilot. He doesn't have to be present, nor issue the warning Himself.
And
of course I evaluate God based on my human understanding - and He would know that I do, and that I can't be expected to do otherwise. When we decide to follow or not follow) a particular political leader, when we vote for our chosen representatives for our kind, do we not make judgments based on our knowledge and experience at the time? Do we look at them and say: "well, they need to be afforded some aberrant, or odd behavior because they exist within a higher-order political sphere than the rest of us". No... not at all. If a candidate is a weirdo and can't control themselves, you don't follow. It is really that simple.
To answer your questions yes I allow my kids to do dangerous things without my input. It does frustrate me at times but I can not be there with them always. They must learn to take care of themselves and learn from their mistakes. That is me being a good father. I must trust in them or they will never trust themselves.
Note, however, that I said I would be there when my kids NEEDED me. Not when they're playing on the playground and I take note that they are about to attempt the monkey bars again - having failed to make it across the last 5 times they tried. I'm talking about the times they are in real trouble, when there will be real consequences and things are likely not going to go "to plan".
I know a woman, personally, who is a lesbian. Not a
practicing lesbian, mind you - but nonetheless, she
does not find men sexually or romantically attractive in the least. She is a Christian, and in order to commit herself to that end, she has sworn off ever having fulfillment of her romantic and sexual desires. Do you think she hasn't explicitly ASKED for help? Asked God to be there? To somehow let her have that sort of relationship in her life? To assume she must not have, or just "isn't doing it right" is ludicrous, arrogant and inanely short-sighted. She has devoted her life, and is sacrificing something I believe any of us can understand the true weight of. She's basically made herself a nun, by choice and will. She is genuinely one of the nicest and warmest people I have ever met, and she is beautiful both mentally and physically. That she is lost to the world of romance is nearly a tragedy - she won't experience being made happy nor making someone happy in that way. God fails her daily, in my opinion.
We do not know what the rules to creation are. God did not go and get a female God pregnant and out popped humans. How can you decide what God should do. Why do you believe God is our father. I believe God created us to be equals.
It is so obvious that I do not get to "decide what God should do". But I
do get to have my own reactions-to and ideas about what I see God do - or, rather,
not do (being honest, I don't believe He really does anything at all, or can't because He doesn't exist) when I am told He is supposedly capable. As a father, if my small child were to be found drowned in a lake - would the question not be put to me as to HOW he/she ended up there, alone, without supervision? The (correct) assumption being that I could have prevented tragedy had I only been there to intercede. You sit there and probably believe God is interceding all the time - doing things to reward or punish people from the sidelines based on their behavior. I would like you to think of how you'd feel if you were to find out the government (or hell, ALIENS for that matter) were secretly making your life easier or more difficult based on some criteria they had set forth for you. You would never know it was them, but you could be sure that sometimes obstacles in your way were put there by this external association, who were making your life harder because they were judging something you did harshly. Wouldn't that be just great? Wouldn't that make you just want to bow down and worship this invisible hand that was doing all these things from the shadows? If not, why not?