exchemist
Veteran Member
I should certainly hope so! Marriage has to last, after all.I agree, and I also had that kind of love. Real love gets stronger, not weaker, over time.
However, I don't think that means that we cannot love a person we do not have a deep knowledge of, marry them, and get to know them better. But I think we have to know something about their character before we marry them.
But there are plenty of marriages, especially in former ages, in which people married for other reasons and then the love between them developed subsequently. I was reading the other day about Henry VII (Henry Tudor), who chose to marry Elizabeth of York in order to bring to an end the rivalry between the houses of York and Lancaster that had led to the Wars of the Roses, which tore England apart in the c.15th. So it was initially a political marriage. However they became very fond of one another. According to the Wiki article on her:-
Thomas Penn, in his biography of Henry VII writes that "[t]hough founded on pragmatism, Henry and Elizabeth's marriage had nevertheless blossomed throughout the uncertainty and upheaval of the previous eighteen years. This was a marriage of 'faithful love', of mutual attraction, affection and respect, from which the king seems to have drawn great strength."[25]
(One son became Henry VIII of England, and two of their daughters became queens of Scotland and France.)