Again, I'm almost in agreement here. The problem I have is that the message in the bible being about love.
Firstly, there is no instruction leaflet or clarifying statement provided with the bible so we can't simply chuck out sections or twist their words to suit our modern morality (if we believe the bible is the book to be followed and is the word of god... if not, what basis does anyone have for being a christian? What other evidence is there?). We have to assume that it was written exactly as it was intended: meaning that the christian god requires genocide, thinks slavery is amoral (or even moral if done 'right) rather than immoral, and (weirdly enough) loves the smell of bbq.
Secondly, even if we take the messages about love, most of them speak of a conditional love. Love thy neighbour, unless they're canaanites, then you should murder them all. Or unless they're a blasphemer - then they've committed an eternal sin and cannot be forgiven.
Even having said all of this, I'm pleased you think the way you do and hope you don't think I'm trying to change your mind - a world full of loving people is better than a world full of the hateful ones described in the bible!
You know, as a member of the clergy, I've spent a lot of time wrestling with the narratives surrounding the bible. I think the first big mistake many make is viewing the bible as a single, cohesive document. It isn't. It's a library of documents spanning centuries, several cultures and various languages. There really is no single, overarching and cohesive "biblical message." That being said, I think that we have to be cautious about what kind of God is portrayed, because God is portrayed through the various cultural lenses of biblical writers.
Second, another mistake that's made is in thinking that we have to just take the bible at face value. Those are not the kind of documents the bible contains. I think it's fair and responsible to
weigh scriptures -- against each other, against moral sensibility, against tradition. Jesus is certainly documented as weighing scriptural passages: "It is written … but I tell you … " This isn't the same as "cherry-picking" for proof-texts. It's about "getting out of our own heads" and into the heads of the writers.
Let's look at slavery, since you mentioned it.
In that culture, slavery was acceptable. In fact, much of the biblical slavery that's spoken in favor of is not the same as we think of slavery in the American South 150 years ago. In Judaic Palestine, there was a system of bond-servants. If you owed someone money, you could become a bond-servant and work off the debt. At the end of 7 years, the debt was forgiven, and the master had to release the slave with land, household goods, clothing, and enough animals (goats and the like) for the freed slave to be able to subsist on his own. It's not our system, but it was their system, and when the bible speaks "in favor" of slavery, that's probably the kind of slavery on it's radar.
Since that kind of slavery was part of that cultural system, the writers could only write from their own viewpoint. Therefore, the writers advocate for a more
equitable slavery model. See, we get into trouble when we think of the bible as "God's words." The bible isn't God's words. It's the words of the various writers, who purport to speak on God's behalf.
Now let's deal with what you term "the Christian God." First off, God is portrayed completely differently in the OT than in the NT. Additionally, in the very early books of the OT, God is kind of a conglomerate of several older versions of tribal gods. The ancients who wrote those texts viewed God very differently than the Greeks of the NT. If we hold the texts very gently, we find that these differing views of God can be held in sort of cognitive dissonance with each other. That is, we understand how the ancients viewed God, because we have the writings. But that doesn't mean that we have to view God in that same exact way, ourselves. If there is connective tissue between the texts where a perspective of God is concerned, that connective tissue is that God always takes care of God's people The difference in viewpoint centers around who the writers (and readers) consider "God's people" to be. Today, our sensibilities usually provide for a much broader view of "God's people" than did that of the ancients. In the bible, if God didn't take care of someone, it's because the writer didn't consider them to be "God's people."
In fact, even the Canaanite God took care of outsiders. Levitican Law dictates that strangers and sojourners had to be shown hospitality, as if they were part of the family. For the time period, God was extremely hospitable and compassionate. For the time period.
When we draw those texts into our present, we have to temper what was written with our modern sensibility and determine what the lesson might be
for us. "It's OK to keep slaves" certainly doesn't fit our sensibility. But, "Take care of the most vulnerable among you" certainly does. And remember: the bible cannot speak alone; it requires a community of voices, opinions, viewpoints for it to matter. Each voice has a bearing on the other, even the biblical voice.