illykitty
RF's pet cat
How do you view people who chose to not have any children?
Is there a social stigma in your culture about it?
What about your religion or lack of?
Some people regret not having children but some also regret having them... Perhaps not everyone is fit to have them.
When I was younger, I thought I'd have one child, because that's the norm, to have children. Years went by and I still don't find babies cute and still no desire whatsoever. I am approaching my mid 20's and my husband is in his late 20's.
People in my family often ask when children are coming into the picture and when I reply I do not want them, looks of confusion are thrown at me. Or worse still, I get the answer "you're still young, you've still have yet to be hit with the desire".
Online, I've seen the debate on both sides. Neither seems to respect the other. And since we're on these forums, religions often encourage to have children, often implied many. And people who have no desire of it, are seen as horrible selfish beings.
But I wonder, is not having children so selfish? What about ecologically, financially or even mental capacity? I have been diagnosed with social phobia and depression, hardly function in society, would bringing a child into this context be a good choice? I am convinced that it wouldn't.
I think people shouldn't judge others for either decision. It is a huge commitment that asks lifelong dedication and maybe some people are not suitable for the job. Children in such an environment would perhaps suffer - and I'm not taking of necessarily needs but also feeling loved. I know because I experienced it first hand and never want to put a child through it.
Your thoughts?
Is there a social stigma in your culture about it?
What about your religion or lack of?
Some people regret not having children but some also regret having them... Perhaps not everyone is fit to have them.
When I was younger, I thought I'd have one child, because that's the norm, to have children. Years went by and I still don't find babies cute and still no desire whatsoever. I am approaching my mid 20's and my husband is in his late 20's.
People in my family often ask when children are coming into the picture and when I reply I do not want them, looks of confusion are thrown at me. Or worse still, I get the answer "you're still young, you've still have yet to be hit with the desire".
Online, I've seen the debate on both sides. Neither seems to respect the other. And since we're on these forums, religions often encourage to have children, often implied many. And people who have no desire of it, are seen as horrible selfish beings.
But I wonder, is not having children so selfish? What about ecologically, financially or even mental capacity? I have been diagnosed with social phobia and depression, hardly function in society, would bringing a child into this context be a good choice? I am convinced that it wouldn't.
I think people shouldn't judge others for either decision. It is a huge commitment that asks lifelong dedication and maybe some people are not suitable for the job. Children in such an environment would perhaps suffer - and I'm not taking of necessarily needs but also feeling loved. I know because I experienced it first hand and never want to put a child through it.
Your thoughts?