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My concern is that the higher the class of a person, or the more educated they are, the less likely they seem to be to have children. If the smart ones stop breeding we'll only be left with the welfare-dependent kids from families who don't understand what birth control is.
My concern is that the higher the class of a person, or the more educated they are, the less likely they seem to be to have children. If the smart ones stop breeding we'll only be left with the welfare-dependent kids from families who don't understand what birth control is.
Mathematically, if every person couples up, every couple has two children, and every child grows into an adult to couple up, then that's a sustainable population that neither increases nor decreases.How do you view people who chose to not have any children?
Is there a social stigma in your culture about it?
What about your religion or lack of?
Some people regret not having children but some also regret having them... Perhaps not everyone is fit to have them.
When I was younger, I thought I'd have one child, because that's the norm, to have children. Years went by and I still don't find babies cute and still no desire whatsoever. I am approaching my mid 20's and my husband is in his late 20's.
People in my family often ask when children are coming into the picture and when I reply I do not want them, looks of confusion are thrown at me. Or worse still, I get the answer "you're still young, you've still have yet to be hit with the desire".
Online, I've seen the debate on both sides. Neither seems to respect the other. And since we're on these forums, religions often encourage to have children, often implied many. And people who have no desire of it, are seen as horrible selfish beings.
But I wonder, is not having children so selfish? What about ecologically, financially or even mental capacity? I have been diagnosed with social phobia and depression, hardly function in society, would bringing a child into this context be a good choice? I am convinced that it wouldn't.
I think people shouldn't judge others for either decision. It is a huge commitment that asks lifelong dedication and maybe some people are not suitable for the job. Children in such an environment would perhaps suffer - and I'm not taking of necessarily needs but also feeling loved. I know because I experienced it first hand and never want to put a child through it.
Your thoughts?
Kant said:Act only according to that maxim whereby you can, at the same time, will that it should become a universal law.
Sounds like you saw the movie, 'Idiocracy', which was about exactly that.My concern is that the higher the class of a person, or the more educated they are, the less likely they seem to be to have children. If the smart ones stop breeding we'll only be left with the welfare-dependent kids from families who don't understand what birth control is.
You want the truth? I view them as people who choose not to have children.How do you view people who chose to not have any children?
If you're speaking of my secular culture, there's probably a little bit of a social stigma attached to that choice.Is there a social stigma in your culture about it?
Yeah. I'm afraid that Mormonism puts such a strong emphasis on families that those who choose not to have children do feel as if something's wrong with them.What about your religion or lack of?
Agreed.Some people regret not having children but some also regret having them... Perhaps not everyone is fit to have them.
When I was a teenager, I absolutely, positively, definitely did not ever want kids. By the time I got married, I had changed my tune. I wanted two kids, but not until some undefined time in the distant future. When I turned 30, I decided that if I was going to have kids, maybe I ought to get started. Concerns with genetic issues associated with my being an "older mother" were starting to bother me, too. After 9 1/2 years of marriage, I gave birth to the first of my two children (a son). 2 1/2 years later, my second (a daughter) was born. They're both grown now, and while I love them more than life itself and don't regret for a minute having had them, I am not, as a rule, attracted to babies. When I was working, and a new mother brought her baby into the office to show him off, I had to really work myself up to oooing and aaaahing over him. If, on the other hand, someone brought a new puppy into the office, I was falling all over myself to get to hold and cuddle it.When I was younger, I thought I'd have one child, because that's the norm, to have children. Years went by and I still don't find babies cute and still no desire whatsoever. I am approaching my mid 20's and my husband is in his late 20's.
Absolutely not.But I wonder, is not having children so selfish?
And I'm sure you know better than anyone else.What about ecologically, financially or even mental capacity? I have been diagnosed with social phobia and depression, hardly function in society, would bringing a child into this context be a good choice? I am convinced that it wouldn't.
They're both grown now, and while I love them more than life itself and don't regret for a minute having had them, I am not, as a rule, attracted to babies. When I was working, and a new mother brought her baby into the office to show him off, I had to really work myself up to oooing and aaaahing over him. If, on the other hand, someone brought a new puppy into the office, I was falling all over myself to get to hold and cuddle it.
We're all different. It's too bad that choosing to be childfree can make people feel like such outcasts.
How do you view people who chose to not have any children?
Is there a social stigma in your culture about it?
What about your religion or lack of?
Some people regret not having children but some also regret having them... Perhaps not everyone is fit to have them.
When I was younger, I thought I'd have one child, because that's the norm, to have children. Years went by and I still don't find babies cute and still no desire whatsoever. I am approaching my mid 20's and my husband is in his late 20's.
People in my family often ask when children are coming into the picture and when I reply I do not want them, looks of confusion are thrown at me. Or worse still, I get the answer "you're still young, you've still have yet to be hit with the desire".
Online, I've seen the debate on both sides. Neither seems to respect the other. And since we're on these forums, religions often encourage to have children, often implied many. And people who have no desire of it, are seen as horrible selfish beings.
But I wonder, is not having children so selfish? What about ecologically, financially or even mental capacity? I have been diagnosed with social phobia and depression, hardly function in society, would bringing a child into this context be a good choice? I am convinced that it wouldn't.
I think people shouldn't judge others for either decision. It is a huge commitment that asks lifelong dedication and maybe some people are not suitable for the job. Children in such an environment would perhaps suffer - and I'm not taking of necessarily needs but also feeling loved. I know because I experienced it first hand and never want to put a child through it.
Your thoughts?
In my opinion, not having kids is the number one least selfish thing a human being can do in this day and age. Especially a western kid, who will likely consume enough resources in a year to feed an entire Bangladeshi family for a lifetime.
Man, you really love your sermons.The decision to have children or not should be left to the individual choice. But this choice has to be understood according to the general scheme of life. In the book of Genesis God reveals the purpose of human existence: Be fruitful and multiply. This fruitfulness and multiplication is not limited to the physical multiplication of children. It means manifesting the divine attributes of love and compassion in human relationships. it is also multiplication of what is needed to the humanity. Jesus Christ did not multiply children but he multiplied what is needed to the people: multiplication of fish and bread, changing water into wine, healing the people, consoling people, liberating people from all oppressions. The life of Jesus was the life of fruitfulness and multiplication. Bringing forth physical children is only one area and people should make the decision according to their conditions and capacities and whether it is necessary for the welfare of the society. Our life should be life of love and we need to be fruitful and multiply love and compassion and sharing. Jesus was angry with the barren fig tree. The fig tree was the symbol of human beings. Jesus saw that human beings were like that fig tree. There were living but barren.They were not fulfilling the plan of God for them. They were not fruitful. they were wasting the land. We need to make our life fruitful, to give birth to children according to our capacities:children are not only physical but also psychological, intellectual and spiritual: It is basically manifesting love in relationships. It is the multiplication of love.We may not have physical children but we may give birth hundreds and thousands of love manifestations.
I am far too selfish with my time for the decision to be considered selfless.In my opinion, not having kids is the number one least selfish thing a human being can do in this day and age. Especially a western kid, who will likely consume enough resources in a year to feed an entire Bangladeshi family for a lifetime.
You'll probably keep hearing that for a few more decades. I'm in my 40s, my wife is in her 50s, and I get those reactions every month or two. Heck, they even say "you're still young", which makes me want to recommend that they schedule a visit with their optometrist.Years went by and I still don't find babies cute and still no desire whatsoever. I am approaching my mid 20's and my husband is in his late 20's.
People in my family often ask when children are coming into the picture and when I reply I do not want them, looks of confusion are thrown at me. Or worse still, I get the answer "you're still young, you've still have yet to be hit with the desire".