I've never understood how god supposedly loves us and wants us to join him in his family in heaven, yet he put us on earth first with the capacity to fail, for which we could potentially loose the priviledge of joining him.
I doesn't make sense. Why didn't he just put us right in heaven from the beginning?
So, now that my little tirade is over, I will try to answer your question in a philosophical way.
If it can be said that each human perceives reality in either a little bit different way or in some case drastically different ways from the person next to them, we can use that understanding to put our own current perspective in check.
If you are seeking truth, and if there is a truth to be found, keep trying on the glasses of those available to you. It may be that your very own set of glasses is what provides peace of mind for you, but if you do not have peace of mind, if you have not found the truth you are looking for don't resist those glasses people offer you to try own.
Your question can have many many answers, because each person's view is different from the next person's. So we must eventually ask ourselves, is it the people's view I am after, or the truth if there be one? Since we are discussing Christianity, there is only one option, the bible. If the truth can not be extracted from the source, it is possible there is no truth. Which is why I asked do you know what the bible says about the topic, and it is clear you don't.
It is also clear, I am dancing around your OP
Let me ask you this, why do you not ask such questions and then search the bible for an answer? Personally I don't mind quoting scripture to you, but it just seems strange you don't put on your swim suit and just dive into the bible with your questions. If you need help, than ask me. Check my suggestions, and see if they make sense for you with what you read on your own.
Am I a good dancer?