How can believers and atheists find common ground to be able to say. You know, I see you as a human being, no matter if you believe in a religion or not. I want to know you as a person, but if you believe or not, that is your private choice. I can love you for just being you.
A good start would be leaving your religious beliefs out of the relationship unless asked.
Are not atheists doing exactly that toward believers?
You responded to, "Common Ground will only be found if religious people stop trying to influence the lives of non-believers."
Humanists don't care what theists believe until it intrudes into their world. When invasive religions are detoothed, humanists will likely never think about any of the religions, just as scientists don't think about gods. Why would they? These other belief systems are of no value or interest to him. Just consider the religions that have no effect on the humanist's life, like Druidry or Jainism. Humanists don't care that people believe those things, because it doesn't overlap into their lives. Christians often ask why skeptics criticize Christianity more than Islam or other religions. Maybe because they never hear from them and aren't affected by them.
There should never, ever be agreement, accord or amicability between a theist and an atheist, unless the theist has hope that the atheist is corrigible. Otherwise, let them know your indignation and displeasure - it's better to warn them as soon as possible and not give them a false sense of security i.e. that their convictions are not offensive, subversive and condeming.
Why would a humanist be interested in anything a person like you has to say? What do you have to offer somebody like me that I should listen to your opinions. Your moral system is unappealing. I'm perfectly content with you keeping your distance, and not particularly interested in what offends you. And why shouldn't humanists be subversive regarding a religion that teaches people to think like this? What do you think it adds to the world but contention and division.
But you come by this honestly. You've been reading your Bible. It's filled with this kind of bigotry and hate speech for unbelievers. And it's the attitude that powers my antitheism. I don't believe that your religion has the moral right to teach such things to anybody. It has always been destructive for unbelievers, who have a moral obligation to oppose the institution that teaches people things like what it taught you. Isn't that what I'm doing right now?
I do not see religious people doing that but maybe you see something I don't see.
You responded to, "Common Ground will only be found if religious people stop trying to influence the lives of non-believers." You don't see that? The theist above just explained that he has no interest in atheists except to convert them.
Also, I doubt you missed the SCOTUS ruling overturning Roe, but apparently you missed that it was an attempt to influence people's lives according to Christianity's idea of what Jesus wants his church to impose on the piece of humanity in the court's jurisdiction. Maybe you don't look at or read much news. There's also been some backlash from those uninterested in what Christians think Jesus wants for American women.
That religion needs to be weakened until it affects only volunteers. And as I indicated above, once that happens, they'll be no reason to think about that religion at all or care what any of its adherents believe. I explained to you that I wouldn't care if my neighbor danced around a tree at midnight shaking a stick with a bloody chicken claw nailed to it at the moon if that's what centers him and gives his life meaning, as long as he keeps the noise down. Nor would I ask him what he believes beyond trying to get a sense of whether he is dangerous or insane. If he's harmless and considerate of his neighbors, then he doesn't get a second thought, because it would have no effect on me.