Ronki said:
Regarding the way yu treat things in Sikhism; you say a book is the final Guru, you must wash yourself and cover your head in the presence of it, you clean the room with milk, you put it to sleep and wake it up, you fan it like a King, and you cremate it when it can not be used.
The milk washing is done at Harmandir Sahib only, and it's silly and needs to change. It has no historical basis and no logical reason for it to occur. Just like how women very rarely get to do kirtan seva at Harmandir Sahib. Discrimination like that isn't meant to happen either, but it does, sadly.
Ronki said:
Of course I refer to Sri Guru Granth Sahib and not Dasam Granth Sahib but you should also hold it in high regard.
Why?
I give DG no more respect than I do any other collection of cultural stories.
Ronki said:
Of course this is not a living person so this is where religion pervades science (nothing wrong with this). It is also akin to idol worship as Hindus say God resides in murtis but scientifically this is not true;
I still don't see how science factors into anything you've said. You're talking about customs.
Guru Granth Sahib Ji is not to be worshipped as an idol. It's sad when Sikhs get confused and start doing just that. It must be difficult not to give in to the tendency when a very large portion of the population does use idols in their worship, and you/your close ancestors/current relatives still do that. All the concerned Sikhs can do is stand up to Gurdwara committees who let excessive ritualism and idolization creep in, like when air conditioners are installed for the purpose of keeping Guru Granth Sahib 'comfortable' through temperature extremes. I saw this with my own eyes at the Gurdwara I attend. When the Gurbani teacher stood up and argued 'the wisdom contained in the book is our Guru, not the book itself, and the wisdom isn't affected by the heat!' people started asking more questions about Sikhi.. people who had been going to Gurdwara forever were asking the simplest of questions! These poeple were clearly "cultural" Sikhs; Sikhs because they were born into it, and it's what their people do, but with no real knoweldge of what Sikhi teaches. The blind leading the blind.
I think a lot of the confusion you're picking up on might be in part because of Sikh history, when the Udasis were running the Gurdwaras while Sikhs hid from Mughals. When the Sikhs came back, it was to a Sikhi couched in a nest of Sanatan Dharma.
Ronki said:
What was the problem with Banda Singh Bahadr? Was there not a split akin to Sunnis and Shias in Sikhism regarding whether he was/was not a Guru?
From what I can tell, Banda Singh Bahadur became over-zealous towards the end. That is the part some people have issues with. I don't know anything about there being a split around whether he was/not a Guru. In any case, it is crystal clear; Guru Gobind Singh gave Guru Granth Sahib Gurgaddi, end of story.
Ronki said:
And last but not least, why did THREE gurus' sons choose Hinduism? Two of which were provided by their fathers to Baba Sri Chand. As Udaism is a Hinduised form of Sikhi, is there no Islamic 'version'?
Buy a time machine and go back and ask them. WHAT DOES IT HAVE TO DO WITH SIKHI TODAY? Let it go, man.
If you look at Sikhi's history it is no surprise to see that Sikhs have closer relations to Hindus than to Muslims; invading forces were Muslim! They were persecuting Sikhs and Hindus. Sikhs were at war with people whose religion was Islam!! And Sikhi rejects many elements of Islam, just as it rejects many elements of Hinduism. The things Sikhi holds on to in Guru Granth Sahib from those religions are what Sikhi considers to be true (from a spiritual POV).
Ronki I'm a caucasian Australian who first learned about Sikhi in primary school and then studied it intently (with a couple of breaks) from 2002 to 2013. This gives me an outsiders view on the topic. I was attracted to Sikhi because of the simplicity of its message, its pragmatism, its theoretical (but largely practical) eglatarianism, and the beauty of the poetry. I like that it doesn't contradict science, doesn't require one to believe in a humanised god-character, and is against superstitious and pointless rituals. It really tries to be logical, as far as a religion can. I like that.
And in the days before it was 'ok' to marry outside your caste, Hindu Punjabis and Sikhs used to marry with the first born son being a Sikh. Is this down to Sikhism's message of tolerance and their historical links with Hindus?
I'd say they made their first born son Sikh because they needed men for the army. And because of the passages in Guru Granth Sahib that say if you become jivan mukhi then you save your family as well. Ha. Not quite like magic but I can see how people would get that idea if they're not understanding the spiritual meaning.
Your comparing of 'om' to 'ik onkar' is odd. Similar language family - of course they're going to look similar!! And you have missed my point about Sikhi not being born in a vacuum.