waitasec
Veteran Member
You don't think parents ever blame themselves for the death of their child?
You don't think parents ever get scared because they are afraid they will never see their child again?
that doesn't change the here and now, it doesn't do anything about the hurt in the face of permanent separation from those one loves...
my experience is to dive in it and feel it, don't run from it because it is real, even though it would be easy to want to feel comforted, but the hurt will always be there unless it is dealt with head on. contemplate who they were and your connection with them... it's these lessons one learns to cherish the here and now with those they love...