It very often is, but it is a serious mistake to read too much into it.I'm starting to think when non-Muslim's pose questions about Islam it is not about sincere curiousity but about starting a conflict to draw other people who have disdain for Muslims and Islam to discussion.
For one, you should consider that to a very large extent that disdain is a direct response, even a defense, against the combination of Islaam's judgmental nature and its remarkable lack of both ability and interest in understanding and reaching out to non-Muslims.
In other words, that is true... largely because Islaam insists in asking for it to be so.