Heyo
Veteran Member
Nope. Just take a bit of everything. Works for me.
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Does Anyone Else Feel That Making Choices Is A Hard Thing To Do ?
- Thread starter Massimo2002
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IDK, I usually do what I do when I do it.
I feel I don't often make conscious choices.
I more or less take action when it feels like the appropriate time to take action.
It usually works out.
I know something needs to be done, I let my subconscious work it out. Then I find myself doing the appropriate action at the appropriate time.
I end up worrying about things a lot less.
The subconscious mind is supposedly smarter/quicker/retains knowledge better. Consciously I just kind of get out of the way and let my subconscious mind do its thing.
I've had family members get sick from them enough to be pretty cautious with them...
My oldest son once threw back his head and vomited like a fountain right in the lobby as we were paying.
McBell
Unbound
um...
All the buffets I go to you have to pay before you even sit down, let alone eat.....
That one it wasn't so.
I don't frequent them much anymore, but I can't recall that being the case in most of them, other than Hu Hut.
Sometimes, too many choices can be a problem for anyone. But we make many choices every day and don't even think about them. They are just natural.
When the results are limited in impact, just choosing something to avoid agonizing over the choices will probably work. If you go with your gut. If the choosing and choices are more serious, that may make it more difficult and seem overwhelming. Do your best.
I've never eaten spray and pay. Is it cheaper?
Sorry, I couldn't resist. I've been down that road a lot. I was by myself with the kids and the oldest started breaking loose. A woman from another table rushed over and helped. I've gotten used to it. It doesn't even slow me down at the a restaurant these days. Just part of it. Not a pleasant or desirable part, but a reality.
I don't really do restaurants much anymore... too expensive for what it is.
That is very true. My model was treating myself to a good meal every few months. The last year, that model fell apart and it cost a lot to eat out three or 4 times a week for suddenly two people. I had to put a stop to that. I gained back a lot of weight too.
☆Dreamwind☆
Active Member
Sometimes I do. It can be difficult and harrowing, especially when it involves other people and you don't want to risk making something worse for them or yourself. But you know it could make things better. So sometimes you get stuck with indecision and cautiousness.
I read recently that procrastination is a sign of intelligence - that's the excuse I will use. 
Which is a choice...
Heyo
Veteran Member
As much as you screaming when you get hurt or not continue walking after the first 25 km.
Sorry, not quite sure what you mean.
My point is that when evaluating decisions, there is often a decision to do nothing. Just like other decisions, that can involve risk and reward. For some reason, many people scrutinize and assess other decisions, but not the 'do nothing' one.
It's often a little self delusional, although that is obviously contextual.
Heyo
Veteran Member
OK, I haven't seen it that way. I understand now.
What I was getting at is that "doing nothing" may not be a choice for someone with severe depression. It is a mental exhaustion that keeps you from doing anything like a physical exhaustion after a marathon run. And the exhaustion starts as early as making the decision what to do.
Don't want to speak to the specifics of severe depression, since I don't suffer it and am not a doctor. But there are always choices, even if the scope of those is severely constrained by any factors (including physical and mental illness), and 'doing nothing' is rarely actually doing nothing in any complete way. It's shorthand for limiting exertion and stress.
In some cases, that might be exactly the right decision, I'm not judging that. It's completely contextual. My only point is that 'doing nothing' has risks/rewards/consequences in the same way that doing something does.
☆Dreamwind☆
Active Member
Poor kiddo
Small note on this...my middle daughter is a teen, and is quite a confident and outgoing kid. She struggles with the decision thing as well. Near as I can tell, she gets too hung up on possible negative consequences of relatively minor choices. As if avoidance of negative consequences is possible, or preferable.
We are working very actively on making her make a lot of decisions, and take responsibility for them. The sky hasn't fallen so far, much as she is hating it.
Watch the Bluey episode out recently (The Sign). It has a nice little philosophical parable in it. Because Bluey has lots of wisdom. Sometimes.
The ancient philosophy behind Bluey's blockbuster episode The Sign
This 28-minute instalment of the kids show, streaming on Disney+ from today, has been much anticipated – and it offers a deep reflection on how to deal with change
www.bbc.co.uk
