Does Premarital Sex Make You Feel Guilty?

[robtex]

For me no, but if there is a Christian or Muslim that says "no" to the question I would really be interested in their explanation of such, especially a Christian, because my understanding is that is a really huge deal in that religion and such a flagrant disregard for the tenants of most faiths under either of those religious umbrellas.

 

[Alceste]

For me no, but if there is a Christian or Muslim that says "no" to the question I would really be interested in their explanation of such, especially a Christian, because my understanding is that is a really huge deal in that religion and such a flagrant disregard for the tenants of most faiths under either of those religious umbrellas.

Not all Christian sects have a problem with it. It all depends how you define "adultery", really, and there are a lot of options there.

 

[Magic Man]

Not all Christian sects have a problem with it. It all depends how you define "adultery", really, and there are a lot of options there.

Exactly. Like how can I commit "adult-ery" when I'm only 14?

 

[MissAnneThrope]

No. Marriage is an artificial social custom born out of intellect, but lust comes from a part of the brain with a much older vintage.

 

[stacey bo bacey]

Well I used to feel guilty because my former faith told me I would burn in Hell for eternity if I did it.

Buuut I did it anyways.

Yea, I made the right choice.

 

[AshleyLove.]

Kinda. But, then I get over it. :]

 

[Zatarra]

No, not at all.

It did when I was a Catholic I thought I had committed a mortal sin.

 

[bell]

When I was in my teens, like 16 or 17, just considering pre-marital sex made me feel extremely guilt-ridden and conflicted. On one hand, I'd abandoned my parents' religion, Christianity, and the conservative church I attended as a younger person, but I hadn't quite managed to get over what I'd been taught about virginity being one of the few valuable aspects of a girl, and the fear of being "ruined" for life if I ever had sex without having been a bride. Even when I got a bit older, I was concerned about not be respected or valued as a non-virgin, which kept me in line a long time. Now, I'm more clear-headed, I think. I wouldn't feel guilty if I had sex, but I personally desire a long-term, stable relationship, and I would feel guilty if I had a one-night stand or something. Moreover, I'm too concerned about possible pregnancy and disease to risk anything, but as far as guilt goes, I'm mostly over that.

 

[Don Penguinoini]

I think premarital sex is wrong. That's why I only date married women.

Just, what do I say to that? Your humour truly knows no bounds.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

Nope. Rather, to the contrary, it makes me feel pretty damn good.

 

[Quagmire]

Just, what do I say to that? Your humour truly knows no bounds.

Humour?

 

[Sunstone]

When Quagmire has pre-marital sex, I feel guilty to be a human. Does that count?

 

[cottonflowers]

If would if I did it. If I had premarital sex, I would have disappointed my parents. I would have deviated from the standards God set for my life. I would have broken the promises and pledges I made to myself and to others, and betrayed my future spouse before we even met. So, yeah, I would be guilty with good reason. Just say :no:

 

[Sunstone]

If would if I did it. If I had premarital sex, I would have disappointed my parents. I would have deviated from the standards God set for my life. I would have broken the promises and pledges I made to myself and to others, and betrayed my future spouse before we even met. So, yeah, I would be guilty with good reason. Just say :no:

Interesting notions. Especially the one about betraying your future spouse before you met. I'm curious. What exactly would have been the consequences of such a "betrayal"?

 

[cottonflowers]

Interesting notions. Especially the one about betraying your future spouse before you met. I'm curious. What exactly would have been the consequences of such a "betrayal"?

The primary reason why I have chosen to remain abstinent for now is because of my religion. I believe that God wants us to wait to have sex until we enter into a Christian marriage. Those are God's rules, not mine, and even though there are times when I feel tempted and debate about whether I should follow my faith or my desires, I know staying abstinent is the right thing to do. Ultimately, it would be a betrayal of God, to claim that I believed in Him and thought He had a plan for me, and then to flaut the standards He has provided just to satisfy my own desire.

I also do believe it would be a betrayal of my future husband. See, I plan to marry a Christian like myself, so if I had premarital sex and wasn't a virgin on my wedding night, I wouldn't be the wife my future husband is expecting. I have been taught that my virginity is a gift that should be given only to my future husband, so giving it to someone else whether I love them or just want to in the heat of the moment is a betrayal, because I'm stealing something from him and not holding up my end of the bargain. There are physical concerns too. If I had premarital sex, I would put myself at risk for catching an STD. Some are curable, others not. I could put my future husband at risk for catching one from me because I didn't bother to wait. For his feelings too, I am supposed to wait. Why would I want my future husband to have to wonder about my sexual history, comparing himself to past lovers? He desires to be my one and only. I just think that if I had premarital sex, it would endanger my future marriage and would also be a stumbling block in my walk with God.

 

[dragonflygrrrrl]

I felt guilty at first because I started having sex right when I left the Jehovah's Witnesses. The guilt was terrifying and consuming at first, but it went away the longer I was away from the JW's.

 

[Diederick]

I also do believe it would be a betrayal of my future husband. See, I plan to marry a Christian like myself, so if I had premarital sex and wasn't a virgin on my wedding night, I wouldn't be the wife my future husband is expecting.

And you should be stoned to death, I reckon that's a strong motivation to remain a virgin until after that ceremony. Though, of course, it doesn't stop there: lustful desires are always wrong.

I have been taught that my virginity is a gift that should be given only to my future husband, so giving it to someone else whether I love them or just want to in the heat of the moment is a betrayal, because I'm stealing something from him and not holding up my end of the bargain. There are physical concerns too. If I had premarital sex, I would put myself at risk for catching an STD. Some are curable, others not. I could put my future husband at risk for catching one from me because I didn't bother to wait.

You can still get STD's in marriage, marriage isn't like a cosmic invisible, unfeelable and taste-passing condom.

For his feelings too, I am supposed to wait. Why would I want my future husband to have to wonder about my sexual history, comparing himself to past lovers? He desires to be my one and only. I just think that if I had premarital sex, it would endanger my future marriage and would also be a stumbling block in my walk with God.

That's so sweet. But what about you? The Bible clearly doesn't condemn you future husband to have married several other wives before you, he might have gotten STD's from them - would that stand in the way for you to decide to marry him? Then of course, the deciding is never up to the woman, but to the man. The man is boss, always, over the woman.

But what about techniques? Don't you think he'd be more interested in someone with experience, who knows how to please a man? And if you use a rubber, or goat's bladder, it isn't real sex anyway.

Great book, the Word of God. So informative.

 

[Erebus]

Perhaps it's my age but marriage just doesn't appeal to me. If you have genuine feelings for somebody why do you need a ritual to confirm them? When I go out with somebody I know that my feelings for them are genuine, I know that I'm not going to cheat on them and because of my nature (or perhaps my age) I know I'm not going to be with them for the rest of my life. My relationships are often short, but the feelings are genuine while they last.
I don't sleep around as I don't feel comfortable having sex with somebody I don't know (unless I'm drunk of course) due in no small part to the health risks involved in sleeping with strangers. I never feel guilty about having sex with somebody I actually like.

 

[DallasApple]

Perhaps it's my age but marriage just doesn't appeal to me. If you have genuine feelings for somebody why do you need a ritual to confirm them? When I go out with somebody I know that my feelings for them are genuine, I know that I'm not going to cheat on them and because of my nature (or perhaps my age) I know I'm not going to be with them for the rest of my life. My relationships are often short, but the feelings are genuine while they last.
I don't sleep around as I don't feel comfortable having sex with somebody I don't know (unless I'm drunk of course) due in no small part to the health risks involved in sleeping with strangers. I never feel guilty about having sex with somebody I actually like.

WOW that sounds better than half the married people I know.You mean you dont have sex even if you dont want to because its what you agreed upon in the "contract"?You dont have sex for the kids or to save the "contract" or for financial security or just to simply get someone off your back?YOu have sex only with someone you like?

Hmm..some would call that selfish.That TOTALLY goes against most marriage commitments.

Love

Dallas

 

[AlsoAnima]

It makes you feel guilty when you feel it is wrong.

It does not make you feel guilty when you don't think it's wrong.

It's just that simple.