These are not small men. These are not men that would allow any man to take advantage. But a woman.That is different. Because they were probably taught "a real man doesn't strike a woman. No matter what she does."
Which you know, in and of itself, not a bad thing. But some woman take advantage of that.
I disagree it is not a bad thing.
If a human being attacks me, I must know I can defend myself with similar force.
We all have this right and none should be seen as less for enforcing it.
The thing is no one shoud be starting a physical fight to begin with. I mean words and names (idiot, beach, ***ole, whiner, good for nothing, lazy, etc) are already hurtful and while they should be obviously wrong, one can try and be the reasonable one out of the two if your partner starts them and try to make hir see the rrors of hir ways.
Bt if physical assault starts, it should be clear a very explicit and black and white line has been crossed.
There are moments were this line might not be stark, like when it is a "slap" or a "punch" must likely in the shoulder, without real strength and with a smile, from either of both, or even in sex with a safe word.
But you just dont frigging touch your couple when you are angry, worst yelling.
Its wrong, no matter who does it. Measures need to be taken.
Sure, sometimes this can be just flight. But with abuse, I think generally a joint effort of fig and flight is in order. You incapacitate attacker from further attacks, then when the attacker seems cowed you get out and denounce.
