It is all about owning it and not getting upset if someone tests your resolve, with some doubt, like Vance did. Over reacting is not owning it and therefore the choice was not exactly their own. This hints of conformity, peer pressure that gave community and safety in numbers, but not the satisfaction promised. They were taught to abort and hate cavemen men, and now the ways, that they were told could protect them, have become a prison that isolates them from their deepest heart; maternal instinct.
The irony is Vance said this once. It is Fake news that is the one throwing salt on raw wounds, over and over and over. Those who feel the wound again and again, do not even notice, who is being sadist. Maybe fake news pressured their unsatisfied choice via similar repetition.