Down with Divorce

[ppp]

Marriages should have term limits (3-5 years) where the participants must actively choose to extend the commitment. They should constantly evaluate and reevaluate the legal, financials and personal entanglement, and decide whether the partnership is working to support their needs as an individual, as a parent, as a partner, and whatever else the persons involved deem important. Get rid of divorce. Give us re-enlistments!

 

[JustGeorge]

Marriages should have term limits (3-5 years) where the participants must actively choose to extend the commitment. They should constantly evaluate and reevaluate the legal, financials and personal entanglement, and decide whether the partnership is working to support their needs as an individual, as a parent, as a partner, and whatever else the persons involved deem important. Get rid of divorce. Give us re-enlistments!

From what I remember, handfastings were common in Celtic culture, in which both partners would take on a trial year and a day. After that time, they could join permanently, or separate with no hard feelings.

 

[libre]

Marriages should have term limits (3-5 years) where the participants must actively choose to extend the commitment. They should constantly evaluate and reevaluate the legal, financials and personal entanglement, and decide whether the partnership is working to support their needs as an individual, as a parent, as a partner, and whatever else the persons involved deem important. Get rid of divorce. Give us re-enlistments!

Don't pitch that idea in a proposal

 

[JustGeorge]

Don't pitch that idea in a proposal

I think I'd be offended lol

 

[McBell]

There will be divorces so long as the number one cause of divorce is not addressed.
Marriage.

 

[Left Coast]

Marriages should have term limits (3-5 years) where the participants must actively choose to extend the commitment. They should constantly evaluate and reevaluate the legal, financials and personal entanglement, and decide whether the partnership is working to support their needs as an individual, as a parent, as a partner, and whatever else the persons involved deem important. Get rid of divorce. Give us re-enlistments!

Isn't this just...planned divorce? It doesn't make undoing any financial entanglements any easier, nor will it remove human feelings. Every day of a marriage is a decision to continue it. And most of us want a lifelong partner, no matter what the law would say. So I'm not sure what this proposal would "fix."

 

[Trailblazer]

Marriages should have term limits (3-5 years) where the participants must actively choose to extend the commitment. They should constantly evaluate and reevaluate the legal, financials and personal entanglement, and decide whether the partnership is working to support their needs as an individual, as a parent, as a partner, and whatever else the persons involved deem important. Get rid of divorce. Give us re-enlistments!

A marriage is not a business arrangement.
Whatever happened to "till death do us part?"
If you can't do the time don't do the crime.

 

[Heyo]

Isn't this just...planned divorce? It doesn't make undoing any financial entanglements any easier, nor will it remove human feelings. Every day of a marriage is a decision to continue it. And most of us want a lifelong partner, no matter what the law would say. So I'm not sure what this proposal would "fix."

It would change peoples mindset to be aware of reality. Too many still think dream of marriage to be forever when in reality it often isn't. If marriage would be temporary, people would think about financial entanglements earlier and they would prepare for bad feelings.
I have found that bonds that are not imposed by necessity, laws or authority are more stable and healthier because all parties know that they continue on their own free choice.

 

[Trailblazer]

There will be divorces so long as the number one cause of divorce is not addressed.
Marriage.

The number one cause of divorce is selfishness. That can only be addressed by a dramatic change in human character .

 

[Estro Felino]

There's also an alternative: domestic partnership.
You don't need to get married.
Nobody forces you to get married.

 

[Aupmanyav]

Marriages should have term limits (3-5 years) where the participants must actively choose to extend the commitment. They should constantly evaluate and reevaluate the legal, financials and personal entanglement, and decide whether the partnership is working to support their needs as an individual, as a parent, as a partner, and whatever else the persons involved deem important. Get rid of divorce. Give us re-enlistments!

not a bad idea. what about children?

 

[Aupmanyav]

Don't pitch that idea in a proposal

I think I'd be offended lol

yeah, both men and women aspire for a long relationship.

 

[Twilight Hue]

Marriages should have term limits (3-5 years) where the participants must actively choose to extend the commitment. They should constantly evaluate and reevaluate the legal, financials and personal entanglement, and decide whether the partnership is working to support their needs as an individual, as a parent, as a partner, and whatever else the persons involved deem important. Get rid of divorce. Give us re-enlistments!

That would be too aggravating.

All people have to do is just go down and see a divorce lawyer. it's fine the way it is

 

[Heyo]

That would be too aggravating.

All people have to do is just go down and see a divorce lawyer. it's fine the way it is

Are you a lawyer or affiliated with one? Divorces cost money, sometimes big money. That's fine for the lawyers but for nobody else.

 

[SalixIncendium]

I think @Aupmanyav brings up a good point. What happens to children that were born during the term of the commitment once the commitment ends?

 

[McBell]

The number one cause of divorce is selfishness. That can only be addressed by a dramatic change in human character .

Nope.
the number one cause of divorce is marriage.
Without the marriage, there is no need for divorce.

 

[Stevicus]

Marriages should have term limits (3-5 years) where the participants must actively choose to extend the commitment. They should constantly evaluate and reevaluate the legal, financials and personal entanglement, and decide whether the partnership is working to support their needs as an individual, as a parent, as a partner, and whatever else the persons involved deem important. Get rid of divorce. Give us re-enlistments!

I've heard similar proposals like this before. I've also heard those who say that the state should get out of the marriage and divorce business altogether. Just treat it as an ordinary contract, although it can be left up to the individual parties involved as to what terms they agree to, whether it's just for a few years or if they want a lifetime commitment. At least it would give people some choices and not have to conform to society's or other people's ideas as to what marriage should be.

 

[McBell]

A marriage is not a business arrangement.
Whatever happened to "till death do us part?"
If you can't do the time don't do the crime.

Try reading the Bible sometime.
Pay close attention to the all the rules surrounding the business transaction end of marriage.
You know, how much the father of the bride gets, how to turn in a defective wife, etc.

 

[Twilight Hue]

Are you a lawyer or affiliated with one? Divorces cost money, sometimes big money. That's fine for the lawyers but for nobody else.

I agree. But so is having to renew things like your marriage license. I'm sure an associated "fee" will be thought up of and taken advantaged of by the government that over the years will far exceed any single legal fees that you would have for the divorce process to be carried out.

Personally the declaration a marriage requiring a license and paying a fee is a pretty silly thing, which essentially tells others that you two essentially own each other forever and the rest of the world is off limits to others as a potential lover.

Pay the judge, pay the priest, and after a while, pay the lawyer, and now pay for a renewal? ( You know something like that would eventually happen) Oh vey! :0)

 

[bobhikes]

Marriages should have term limits (3-5 years) where the participants must actively choose to extend the commitment. They should constantly evaluate and reevaluate the legal, financials and personal entanglement, and decide whether the partnership is working to support their needs as an individual, as a parent, as a partner, and whatever else the persons involved deem important. Get rid of divorce. Give us re-enlistments!

That can work as long as there are no Kids, once kids are involved, marriage contracts should be until all the children are over 18 and out of High School. All financial, legal and personal entanglements must involve the best interests of the children first and then the parents second.