Banning premarital sex is another one. It made sense at one time, but we have moved past then. If you go back to the Old Testament women were basically property. Rape was not a crime against the woman as much as it was a crime against the father or husband. Baha'i morality is an improvement but it is not perfect.
For the religious, marriage is between three central figures: the husband, the wife and God. Baha'is are already conditioned, like Christians, to believe that religious law is meant to be taken seriously, but acknowledge already that everybody breaks God's law at times. If I had to guess I bet there's plenty of Baha'is who have sex before marriage (just not
@Trailblazer ) and there are plenty of gay Baha'is who get married. It's just not officially sanctioned by the religion.
Because the Baha'i Faith is one of the world's youngest religions, it's also a religion that promotes peace and tolerance amongst its kind. If they condoned sex between unmarried couples or between two men or two women, you remove the part of marriage that is meant to be for God. Before we had all this fancy technology, people were only able to reproduce via vaginal sex, so reproduction was a much bigger thing back then, keeping in line that you have your own kin and they stay faithful towards the religion.
Now that it is medically possible for two men or two women to have children, or simply able to adopt or have a surrogate, the concept of traditional marriage, which was focused on reproduction, is no longer as important as it used to be. My question to Baha'is, and to all of the religious community is: homosexuality is a natural evolutionary trait. In fact, being
gay corresponds to not just being a homosexual, but being happy as well. If God made certain people gay, and everybody is God's children, doesn't that also mean that God condones those feelings too?
Now, I know this doesn't apply to everything. Some people are born antisocial. They're destructive. If they are God's children, then God himself must be antisocial, too, right? Well, what if all the good and bad of humans is also represented in God? What if God is everything humans are, and everything we're not, too? I mean, if someone who is antisocial is one of God's children, isn't it true then that God is capable of just about any behavior -- but uses us to enact those feelings? I guess God is partially antisocial, and definitely bisexual. God is all of these things and more.
But what we need to remember that destructive tendencies in humans, like antisocial personality behaviors, aren't divine characteristics in people - they are there to remind us of what good people have in themselves, too. Baha'is often suggest that you cannot know what good is without evil, and that evil is simply the absence of light, or God. If there was light, or God, everywhere, nothing would be good nor evil. I'm not entirely sure I can believe this, and I honestly believe humans will make enough progress to not only define definitive good and evil, as I am a moral objectivist, but I also believe we will go beyond that too, becoming post-moral too.
Conservatives will often note
this study that suggests that waiting to have children after 21 and getting married means your chances of being in poverty falls to just a 2% chance. Religions often create artificial boundaries for people to help them achieve the most success at their lives. When I listen to Joel Osteen (which isn't often, but he is uber-popular) he often talks more like a life-coach to me or a success guru than a religious figure. Maybe both roles are played by him. But typically those who have sex before marriage are often having kids out of wedlock and possibly before they turn 21 too.
Baha'is who do not follow their own religious law has virtually no repercussions for doing so - except one thing. Covenant breaking. Claiming that you have a Baha'i-centric religion and wanting to create a denomination of the Baha'i Faith is such a no-no in the religion that you can be permanently expelled from it, just by mentioning it - in a similar fashion that the Islamic world treats Baha'i "apostates". Simply put, if you are a gay Baha'i who has sex before marriage with your same-sex partner, that might not look good for the Baha'is, but if a straight and otherwise Baha'i-law obedient was caught trying to divide the unity of the Baha'i Faith and thus covenant breaking, the gay Baha'i would stay Baha'i and the straight Baha'i would be expelled from the religion.
In that case, does religious law even matter anymore? Yes, all religions say things about God that he wishes us to do. For us to have a better, more prosperous society at large. But unless you get expelled for essentially breaking the covenant, it doesn't really matter. Of course, there are religions like Jehovah Witnesses that doesn't allow homosexuality, or anything different for that matter. You can be expelled for Jehovah Witnesses just by being a smoker! Of course, Baha'is don't like it when people smoke, but you aren't considered covenant breaking in the Baha'i Faith if you do, but you are covenant breaking as a JW if you do smoke!
I wouldn't be surprised if the UHJ starts to accept gay marriages, but I would be surprised if they allowed sex before marriage. As I said before, marriage for the religious is a contract between two people and God, and if you remove the idea that God needs to approve of your sex before marriage, why call it a religion at all? The way I see it, marriage not only shows commitment but it also shows to other people that you are taken. The ring that you wear, and the covenant you make before your friends and family - essentially your localized version of God - symbolizes that you will be faithful towards your partner. And how is waiting until marriage, and protecting that covenant, before having sex immoral at the least? Abstinence means no unwanted pregnancies, and no sexual diseases transmitted between a commited couple.
And remember, Baha'is forbid both asceticism and monasticism, so you can't play that card and say that they are restricting people in those ways, either. In almost every way I see the Baha'i way of life better, with a few small disagreements. In any case, religious law is meant to be taken as advice, not like political law which you can be arrested for. Atheists like you take religious law as if it is as serious as political law, and read the Bible and other texts as if the whole thing is meant to be taken literally. Ironically, it is only die-hard atheists and fundamentalists who do take everything these people say word for word. By understanding the symbolism these religions place, you start to understand where they are truly coming from - not what people like Ken Ham or Bill Nye want you to believe.