Sorry James, but we've been down this road b4. What you have stated is Calvinism. We will have to agree to disagree here.
1. It's about time for a refresher. Not for you, your mind is obstinately made up, but for those who aren't sure what the bible has to say about the topic.
God does not pick and choose to save some and condemn others to eternal hell fire.
2. That is not what I'm advocating:
Joh_12:47 And if anyone hears My words and does not believe, I do not judge him; for I did not come to judge the world but to save the world.
The passage indicates those whom God has blinded
in this age (unbelievers) will not be judged. They will be judged or evaluated when they live again, after the 1,000 yrs are finished (Rev 20:6, 11-12), with the rest of humanity who did not get a fair shot at salvation. After God unblinds and unhardens their heart (Isa 25:7) and they still refuse to believe, then they leave God no choice but to condemn them to gehenna (aka lake of fire-Rev 20:14-15). This scenario reconciles many scriptures.
He wants all men to be saved.
3. That is His desire. But the question is--does He want them
all saved in this age? The answer is clearly no. Those whose hearts have been opened by God (Act 16:14--the church) are the only ones being judged in this age (1 Pe 4:17). The rest, who have been blinded, will get their chance after the 1,000 yr reign of Christ (Rev 20:6,11-14).
He has given each of us the ability to choose or reject Him.
4. Yes. Each Christian has been given the ability to choose or reject Him. But not everyone. God kept Abimelech from making his own choice to sin (Gen 20:6). Pharaoh had no choice (Rom 9:17-18). Neither did the Canaanites (Jos 11:20) nor will the Ten end time kings (Rev 17:17). King Sihon's heart was hardened. The Hebrew verb is in the Hifil stem meaning someone other than himself caused him to make this choice. God even tells us why He did so (Deu 2:30). Although not the norm, there are many other examples where God sovereignly steps in and forces us to choose His will.
The verse you quoted is out of context. If you'd back up a little bit, you will see that John tells us
"But though He had performed so many signs before them, yet they would not believe in Him." It seem as though they rejected God's drawing them to Him repeatedly. In the end, God confirmed the hardening of their hearts. He turned them over to their own wickedness and let them have their way.
5. It's in perfect context with my conclusion. God can and does blind the hearts and minds of men so they refuse to listen (Rom 9:18-19 NLT). John is merely making a direct statement of unbelief. He then goes on to tell us
why they could not believe (Joh 12:39-40).
Hebrews 3:7-11 supports what I am saying.
7Therefore, just as the Holy Spirit says, “TODAY IF YOU HEAR HIS VOICE,
8 DO NOT HARDEN YOUR HEARTS AS WHEN THEY PROVOKED ME, AS IN THE DAY OF TRIAL IN THE WILDERNESS,
9 WHERE YOUR FATHERS TRIED
Me BY TESTING
Me, AND SAW MY WORKS FOR FORTY YEARS.
10 “THEREFORE I WAS ANGRY WITH THIS GENERATION, AND SAID, ‘THEY ALWAYS GO ASTRAY IN THEIR HEART,
AND THEY DID NOT KNOW MY WAYS’;
11 AS I SWORE IN MY WRATH, ‘THEY SHALL NOT ENTER MY REST.’”
6. All this tells us is after a believer's mind has been opened, we can also harden our own hearts. The Greek verb is in the active voice, meaning the people are choosing to harden their own heart. The same verb in Act 19:9 is in the passive, meaning someone other than themselves ---God--- is choosing to harden their hearts so they won't believe.
Paul clearly tells us in 1 Timothy 4:1-2 and Romans 1:18-25 that God can give us over to depravity, and from that point on He lets us have our way. Yet, in the instance of Pharaoh, God gave him chance after chance to turn to Him and let His people go.
7. In both passages, the context is clearly referring to believers who depart from the faith. This supports what I've been stressing. Believers can harden their own hearts and "......depart from the faith" (1 Ti 4:1). Rom 1:21 states Paul's audience "knew" God. Unbelievers don't know God, so he had to be speaking of former believers who fell away.
God hardens hearts all over the Bible (Isaiah 6:9-10, 63:17). Hardening hearts has to do with sin, justice and punishment, and not God picking and choosing particular people to save or condemn
8. Yes. Thanks for bringing that out. The bible clearly tells us He has the right to harden the hearts of unbelievers, as well as believers, in order to accomplish His sovereign will, which does not automatically sentence them to gehenna. That is not Calvinism. That is scripture:
Romans 9:18 So then, he has mercy on whom he wants, and he hardens whom he wants.
The simple answer to your OP is no. The bible clearly indicates not all people in this age get to choose faith. But it also indicates all those who do not initially choose faith in this age are not automatically condemned.