Father and daughter plan to marry . . . . . .each other

[Sunstone]

*shrug* Not something I'd probably do, but they're both old enough now to make their own decisions. I'm curious how each of them will think and feel about it ten years from now.

 

[LuisDantas]

The link in the OP has another link to the full story on New York magazine, which is an interview that lends quite a bit of support to your concerns.

Although I would not rule out fabrication.

Truth be told, after reading the interview I am reminded that it takes being in a relationship to be capable of judging it.

I am still worried, but her words do sound reassuring, as much as I could expect at least.

 

[Twilight Hue]

Yea. To each their own. If they want to marry, let them marry as long as it's something they both want.

Its certainly not something most of us wouldn't be ever privy for, yet even if culturally repulsive, it's their own lives and happiness and frankly I agree that it's really none of anyone's else's business to dictate what's right and wrong between consensual people in this regard.

 

[Skwim]

Truth be told, after reading the interview I am reminded that it takes being in a relationship to be capable of judging it.

I am still worried, but her words do sound reassuring, as much as I could expect at least.

Yeah, the interview is reassuring and gave a lot of insight into the relationship.

 

[Wirey]

I know a guy who married his sister after he knocked her up. Step-sister, but still.

PS Given the opportunity, I'd have knocked her up too. Rowr.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

My thoughts are apparently many people missed this:

"It's been established that reuniting with long-lost relatives can and does result in "Genetic Sexual Attraction," a term coined in the 1980s. In fact, some have estimated that elements of sexual attraction occur in as many as half the cases of estranged loved ones who meet as adults.

And are guilty of the very same scientific "pick-n-chose" they accuse theists of. It's also odd seeing how many fiercely defend gays as not being able to choose, but then turn around and ridicule someone else's innate genetic attractions.

 

[Wirey]

My thoughts are apparently many people missed this:

And are guilty of the very same scientific "pick-n-chose" they accuse theists of. It's also odd seeing how many fiercely defend gays as not being able to choose, but then turn around and ridicule someone else's innate genetic attractions.

I think if you are outside that relationship you can only judge it by your reactions to doing that with your own kids. My youngest daughter, who is now in her 20s, is swimsuit model attractive, but I still see her sneaking a hot dog out of the fridge and trying to hide it in her diaper, (I didn't let her eat it), so for me the knowledge that she's a hottie is strictly tempered by the knowledge that she'll eat hot dogs with pee on them. If people reunite as adults, perhaps the lack of that interaction coupled with the fact that you absolutely love that person comes out as a sexual attraction, but most of us can only judge by what we feel for our pee dog eating kids. And it's a little repulsive.

Also, one time when she was about 14 months old she managed to eat a large bowl of grapes unnoticed at her grandma's house, and then crapped water and grape skins all over my couch. Her mom and I thought she was melting or caught ebola or something. That'll put the kiabosh on any sexual attraction, believe you me.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

I think if you are outside that relationship you can only judge it by your reactions to doing that with your own kids.

Many people do not get caught up on the idea of being with the same sex when they judge their attitudes towards homosexuality. They do not think "it would be icky if I were with that man/woman." They just see it as someone else's life and move on.

 

[averageJOE]

Here's how I look at it, from an outsiders view...leave them alone. It's nobody's business.

If I was asked; "How would you feel if they were in your family?" (This is how I might handle it). I can honestly say, what I would do and how I would feel would be different. Let's say if this were my dad and sister, or hypothetically my son and daughter, I would probably be disappointed. I wouldn't approve. I would do everything to talk them out of it. Very much the same if my family member were engaged to someone who's relationship I didn't approve of. Like if my dad was about to marry some girl who was only after his money. Or, if my daughter was engaged to some loser guy with no job and 4 kids with 4 different women and doesn't pay child support. I would do everything to talk them out of the relationship pretty much the same way. That's how I would feel.

But what I wouldn't do is disown them if they actually went through with the marriage. I wouldn't cut ties with them and never see or talk to them again. I would still invite them to dinners, vacations, birthday's, and every other family get-together. I would still love both of them. And just hope that some day they realize that their marriage was a mistake. But if the years go on and I was 90 years old dying on my death bed and they were still happily married...well by that point I probably would have accepted their marriage 100%. And my last thought would be "Wow! My family is really unique. I'm proud to have been apart of it!"

That's how I would like to think I'd handle a situation like this.