Ok - here goes.
It's a little long, so bear with me.
We (humans) have created an entire reality around love. It is a fear-based reality, rooted (mainly) in the idea of a fearful, vengeful God. Its Sponsoring Thought is wrong, but to deny that thought would be to disrupt our whole theology (most of ours, anyway). And though the new theology which would replace it would truly be our salvation, we cannot accept it, because the idea of a God Who is not to be feared, Who will not judge, and Who has no cause to punish is simply to magnificent to be embraced within our even grandest notion Who and What God Is.
This fear-based love reality dominates our experience of love; indeed, actually creates it. For not only do we see ourselves receiving love which is conditional, we also watch ourselves giving it in the same way. And even while we withold and retreat and set our conditions, a part of us knows that this is not what love really is. Still, we seem powerless to change the way we dispense it. We've learned the hard way, we tell ourselves, and we'll be damned if we're going to leave ourselves vulnerable again. Yet the truth is, you'll be damned if you don't.
(by our own mistaken thoughts about love so we damn ourselves never to experience it fully.)
Every action taken by human beaings is based in love or fear, not simply those dealing in relationships. Decisions affecting business, industry, politics, religion, education, social agenda, economic goals, choices involving war, peace, attack, defense, aggression, submission; determines to covet or give away, to save or to shar, to unite or to divide - every single free choice we ever undertake arises out of one of the only two possible Sponsoring Thoughts: a thought of love or a thought of fear.
Fear is the energy which contracts, closes down, draws in, hides, hoards, harms.
Love is the energy which expands, opens up, sens out, stays, reveals, shares, heals.
Fear wraps our bodies in clothing, love allows us to stand naked. Fear clings to and clutches all that we have, love gives all that we have away. Fear holds close, love holds dear. Fear grasps, love lets go. Fear rankles, love soothes. Fear attacks, love amends.
Every human thought, word, or deed is based in one or the other. We have no choice about this, because there is nothing else from which to choose. But you have free choice about which of these to select.
Right. That's that. Any thoughts/comments?