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fear of cities?
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wellwisher
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I am not afraid of cities, but I prefer the suburbs and even the more rural country. My resistance to city living, is not having enough income to take advantage of all that a big city has to offer, if you can live in the heart of the big city. What is left, for someone of modest income, is a traffic laden commute, and then expensive parking if you can find it; $25-50/day.
With that being unappealing, it means taking a commuter train and then the subways, which is cheaper, but not as convenient as driving and parking near a trail head or the shopping area. The commuting alone, makes for a long day, with one still at the mercy of the train schedules toward the evening. I may go for a pro-ball game, every now and then. Or I can take my bike and go to a semi-pro game in a smaller city.
I have a friend whose third wife, owned a condo in the heart of the Big City. That would be perfect, since he and his wife can walk to five star restaurants or the theater, eat drink and be merry, and then walk home. This streets are lighted and safe with security in such areas. He owns a business in the suburbs, and the condo has its own underground parking, with him able to commute opposite the bulk traffic both ways, for an easy commute and convenient parking. When he goes to work out of the city, everyone is coming in.
They sold the condo and his wife bought a large house; south, for their future winter retirement home. He bought a summer home for them to retire during the pleasant northern summer. Both are in rural areas. They had enough big city.
With that being unappealing, it means taking a commuter train and then the subways, which is cheaper, but not as convenient as driving and parking near a trail head or the shopping area. The commuting alone, makes for a long day, with one still at the mercy of the train schedules toward the evening. I may go for a pro-ball game, every now and then. Or I can take my bike and go to a semi-pro game in a smaller city.
I have a friend whose third wife, owned a condo in the heart of the Big City. That would be perfect, since he and his wife can walk to five star restaurants or the theater, eat drink and be merry, and then walk home. This streets are lighted and safe with security in such areas. He owns a business in the suburbs, and the condo has its own underground parking, with him able to commute opposite the bulk traffic both ways, for an easy commute and convenient parking. When he goes to work out of the city, everyone is coming in.
They sold the condo and his wife bought a large house; south, for their future winter retirement home. He bought a summer home for them to retire during the pleasant northern summer. Both are in rural areas. They had enough big city.
I've been more of a suburb guy, although I do like having access to services that at least a medium-sized city can provide. Living out in the sticks might mean having to drive hours to get basic necessities - or sometimes medical procedures which are only available in the larger hospitals. Small rural hospitals (if you can find them) have limited services. Internet service is also quite limited in the rural areas, as many areas still don't even have broadband. Cellphone service is spotty.
I'm not really a fan of larger cities. Its just too much hassle when it comes to driving around.
A medium sized city is fine,
I've always wanted to live in a small town, though I'm not sure I'd like it once I got there.
I don't want to live in the middle of nowhere, unless it was a commune type situation. I'm totally not the loner type.
A medium sized city is fine,
I've always wanted to live in a small town, though I'm not sure I'd like it once I got there.
I don't want to live in the middle of nowhere, unless it was a commune type situation. I'm totally not the loner type.
I don't fear cities (I've spent my higher education and working life in them) but i much prefer the countryside. I was brought up in the countryside and have moved to the countryside after finishing with work.
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I don't like large cities. I was teased numerous times by my co-workers when I traveled 90% in my job for flying into medium sized airports and driving in rather than the closer inner city hubs. I went out of my way to stay out of NYC, though I eventually had to hit every borough other than Manhattan.
For years I lived the suburban life of a mid-sized city, several of them actually, but when I retired I came home to the sights of cotton fields and the wonderful smell of turned peanuts.
Yes, I miss the conveniences of the former life. Not that I've ever been a big Walmart shopper but I moved from where there were 7 Walmarts from my house within the distance of one now. From where every conceivable fast food drive-thru could be found within 15 mins, to a single McDonald's "in town" now.
But it hasn't been that tough to re-acclimate to the life style. There were some changes while I was away. We have more than one doctor in town now. And an actually supermarket. An Ace hardware store with women employees so that hardware is no longer as off limits as the barbershops. Cable TV is only found within the town limits, but broadband internet has finally reached my neighborhood, though I opted to ignore it as well as satellite TV.
I can't imagine anyone accepting this life as an adult if they had never experienced it before. I can see it as advanced now compared to when I left. Everyone I know now has an indoor toilet, and the folks that are "well-off" now might even have two! I had gotten use to having two myself, living in the burbs, so when I moved back I made sure to get a fancy chamberpot for the bedroom, just in case. On the rare occasion I have lot of people here, though, the men are instructed to step out behind the old chicken coop and leave the bathroom available for the women. AHHHH country life! LOL
For years I lived the suburban life of a mid-sized city, several of them actually, but when I retired I came home to the sights of cotton fields and the wonderful smell of turned peanuts.
Yes, I miss the conveniences of the former life. Not that I've ever been a big Walmart shopper but I moved from where there were 7 Walmarts from my house within the distance of one now. From where every conceivable fast food drive-thru could be found within 15 mins, to a single McDonald's "in town" now.
But it hasn't been that tough to re-acclimate to the life style. There were some changes while I was away. We have more than one doctor in town now. And an actually supermarket. An Ace hardware store with women employees so that hardware is no longer as off limits as the barbershops. Cable TV is only found within the town limits, but broadband internet has finally reached my neighborhood, though I opted to ignore it as well as satellite TV.
I can't imagine anyone accepting this life as an adult if they had never experienced it before. I can see it as advanced now compared to when I left. Everyone I know now has an indoor toilet, and the folks that are "well-off" now might even have two! I had gotten use to having two myself, living in the burbs, so when I moved back I made sure to get a fancy chamberpot for the bedroom, just in case. On the rare occasion I have lot of people here, though, the men are instructed to step out behind the old chicken coop and leave the bathroom available for the women. AHHHH country life! LOL
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The traffic alone keeps me away
There are things I like about cities. Especially those with an artsy, Bohemian flavor, which we have a lot of out here in California.
That said, I spend most of my time in the woods, surrounded by forest. It's definitely the way I prefer to live, but I also look forward to my trips to Chicago or even just trips to downtown Santa Barbara. The energy can be invigorating and it's great to have everything you need within walking distance (although that's not really the case with the part of Chicago where I stay when I visit. The nearest supermarket is at least a mile in either direction, and the libraries are twice that far away).
My perfect location would be out in the woods a half mile away from my nearest neighbor, maybe a mile from a nice little town with a counterculture theme, maybe another 5 mi from a college town, and maybe an hour's drive from the nearest city.
All those places have their drawbacks and all of them have something to offer.
That said, I spend most of my time in the woods, surrounded by forest. It's definitely the way I prefer to live, but I also look forward to my trips to Chicago or even just trips to downtown Santa Barbara. The energy can be invigorating and it's great to have everything you need within walking distance (although that's not really the case with the part of Chicago where I stay when I visit. The nearest supermarket is at least a mile in either direction, and the libraries are twice that far away).
My perfect location would be out in the woods a half mile away from my nearest neighbor, maybe a mile from a nice little town with a counterculture theme, maybe another 5 mi from a college town, and maybe an hour's drive from the nearest city.
All those places have their drawbacks and all of them have something to offer.
And what would really be ideal would be if there were a half mile wide gorge spanned by a bridge between the small town and the city.
That way when the zombie apocalypse comes we could blow up the bridge and everybody on this side of the gorge would be safe.
And then we can make trips into the college town and the city for supplies on these:
Or these:
Just land on the roof of the supermarket, chop a hole, and there you go.
Damn, now I'm going to be disappointed if this doesn't happen.
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That sounds fantastic, let me know when/where you find it!
RestlessSoul
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London. My country is having a lot of problems adjusting to the 21st Century, and London is not immune; the wealth gap is appalling, and the housing crisis is making life hard for younger working people. But this is still a city built for people, and the people make the city. And our Socialist Moslem mayor is doing a great job, imo. of putting the needs of ordinary Londoners first.
London. My country is having a lot of problems adjusting to the 21st Century, and London is not immune; the wealth gap is appalling, and the housing crisis is making life hard for younger working people. But this is still a city built for people, and the people make the city. And our Socialist Moslem mayor is doing a great job, imo. of putting the needs of ordinary Londoners first.
Which city?
VoidCat
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Greensboro. UNCG has a great education program. I already been accepted in there once but chose not to go there I wasnt ready and so I know they'd accept me into that college. I want to get an IDEA degree- Interpeting Deaf Education and Advocacy. After I get that degree I want to do a dual major and get a degree in special ed and general ed.
In North Carolina?
I have a friend who lives there
He seems to like it
Are you in North Carolina?
My husband lived there for awhile.
VoidCat
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Yep. Right now in the area I am in which is a small town not in greensboro we may be seeing some storms due to Helene. Hopefully we will be ok here at the group home.
Oh? It's the 3rd largest city in NC. Right behind Charlotte and Raleigh.
He lived a lot of places. When I found him, he was in Oak Island. Tiny place, though.