Forget All About Premarital Sex...Instead: What Do You Think About Casual Sex?

[Sunstone]

Once upon a time, in the Fabulous Land of America, premarital sex was deeply controversial. But that was long, long ago. Nowadays in the Fabulous Land, poll after poll after poll has arrived at the same results: About nine out of ten couples have sex before marriage. Thus, the issue has been decided for all but a tiny minority of couples.

But what about casual sex? That is, sex outside of the context of a committed sexual relationship? What, please Gentle Good folks, be your well thought out and considered opinions on casual sex?

Please Note: "Casual Sex" is defined here as "sex outside of a committed sexual relationship". That definition is vague enough to embrace several kinds of encounters. For instance, it embraces an anonymous one-night-stand between strangers as well as uncommitted sex between friends. Just so you know.

 

[Nietzsche]

Yes, please?

 

[Papoon]

I'm a total horn dog. It's never just casual

 

[beenherebeforeagain]

I like casual sex...with my wife...

 

[Skwim]

Forget about premarital sex!!!! For crying out loud, some of the best sex I ever had was premarital, and I still can't forget about it.


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[Papoon]

A few more serious points -

STIs. Gonorrhea. Antibiotic resistant strains have now emerged. I.e. incurable. And it can be contracted through oral sex. The number of new cases is rising significantly every year. If you are in your early thirties, your age group currently has a one per two hundred infection rate and rising.
There are also antibiotic resistant forms of syphilis and other STIs. We are facing a global medical disaster as our only defence against bacterial infection is becoming ineffective.

So be aware, casual sex is not primarily a moral issue at this point.

 

[Revoltingest]

I wrote a limerick about it.
But I only have lines 3 & 4.....

when sex is casual
having it as you will

 

[Shadow Wolf]

I've had it before, and have no problems with it. But STIs do scare me a bit, especially the painful incurable ones, so I would prefer to at least get past the "anonymous sex" part first.

 

[Saint Frankenstein]

It's a fun fantasy, but I'll just keep it as a fantasy.

 

[Quintessence]

My well thought out and considered opinion is that I want absolutely nothing to do with it. I find the phrase "casual sex" to be an oxymoron, never mind that the possible consequences of such an act are suicide-inducing to me.

 

[Papoon]

[I find the phrase "casual sex" to be an oxymoron

Exactly.
Sex is the central axis of personality, and the fountainhead of mojo.
Too good to waste trivially.
Having said that, I know it is possible to enjoy and share all the goodness of sex, and intimate heartfelt communication, outside of committed relationship.

It's a question of discernment, knowing what you want, and maintaining respect for the personhood of your partner.

 

[StarryNightshade]

I honestly don't think I could ever have casual sex. My batting average is low (a grand total of two people) and I just can't see myself doing it with someone whom I just met/don't know on a personal level.

 

[lovesong]

It was such a big part of my life for so long. It's the only thing I miss about being single.

 

[sovietchild]

Legitimate relationship is when a man makes love to his wife.

 

[Fireside_Hindu]

If you can do it safely without hurting anyone and you have no hang ups about it, have at it. Some people can handle it. I wouldn't be able to. Too many risks involved and the benefits are fleeting.

 

[suncowiam]

Legitimate relationship is when a man makes love to his wife.

Let me guess... Pure natural loving? Am I right?

 

[suncowiam]

Casual sex is out of convenience. NSA (no strings attached)

It's not for everyone and not for those who are too afraid of getting hurt. Like anything else, it can be practiced responsibly.

 

[Subhankar Zac]

Some scriptures within Hinduism oppose pre marital sex because in the older days, there was a severe focus on hygiene and STDs could be spread easily.
Also, due to the old laws on indian societies, it was best that a child would be conceived after marriage as the man could very well provide for them both.
Today's things have changed. Sanatana Dharma is a practical religion/way of living so if no harm is there while having sex before marriage or even in casual sex with anyone... Even with animals (according to orientation) it's all good.
It's all about getting the reactions of one's actions

 

[Kent856]

I'm going to put Bible principles aside for a sec.

In terms of sex before marriage... Weeell it all depends on your definition of "marriage" a.k.a what sort of ceremony must be observed, what pieces of paper must be signed etc. Marriage could just be two people deciding they love each other and vowing to stay together until death do us part

Anyway that's not super relevant I guess, just an interesting point for me.
My answer is I would disagree with sex before marriage

"casual sex" is well... Kind of unthinkable for me personally. I had a long relationship once and fell in love. It didn't work out, but I met this other girl. She was nice, but before I actually knew I loved her, i couldn't really get close to her without feeling really.. Wrong. Like I was crossing a line that shouldn't be crossed. (It's all pg stuff btw)

 

[rusra02]

I think the primrose path of dalliance leads to outcomes anything but primrosy; including STDs, unwanted pregnancies, broken families in the case of married people, violence, emotional trauma, etc. Most serious, IMO, it can alienate us from the true God. (Colossians 1:21)